"Send Ben a text"

You Can't Stop Thinking!

Because you are human, your brain is constantly at work, whether you are awake or asleep, whether you are concentrating or daydreaming, your brain is constantly thinking.

The goal of coaching isn’t to turn off your brain or to even control your thoughts.

The goal is to be able to be aware of your thoughts and to have the power to manage your thoughts.

You CANNOT control all of your thoughts.

There are Different Types of Thoughts

This is not an all-inclusive list. These are just a few common thoughts. 

• Beliefs
  • These are thoughts that we believe to be true.  Many of our beliefs are unconscious beliefs, meaning we think them without even being aware of them.
  • These unconscious beliefs have the power to drive and influence our thinking patterns.  
• Interpretations and Judgements
  • Interpretations are how we apply meaning to our circumstances.
  • Nothing has meaning until we give it meaning. 
• Worries and Fears
  • These are thoughts that make us feel anxious, worried, and afraid. 
  • Our brains have evolved to find and focus on the negative (I call this catastrophizing).
  • I recently read that 85% of our thoughts are negative. 
• Desire and Gratitude
  • These or the things that we want. You cannot want something without thinking about it. 
  • Gratitude is wanting what you have. 
• Habitual Thoughts
  • These are thoughts that you think without even thinking about it. These thoughts are habits. 
• Herd Mentality
  • Thoughts and beliefs that you have adopted as your own because they are the thoughts and beliefs of your herd. 
  • It’s part of human nature to think similar to those around you. 

YOU, Your Thoughts, Models, and Ways of BEing

Your thoughts drive your model. 

Your thoughts reflect your way of BEing. 

This is why it is so important to BE the thinker of your thoughts. 

Are You the Hero of Your Stories?

The stories you tell reflect your thoughts. 

Stories show up in how we talk to others and how we talk to ourselves. 

I call the stories in your own head your personal narrative. 

It’s important to be aware of these stories and how they impact our lives. 

In your stories, you can either show up as the hero or the victim. 

If you’re like most parents, you’ve been guilty of positioning yourself as the victim from time to time. 

This usually looks like blaming others and/or complaining about others.  This looks like focusing on things outside of your control. 

When you position yourself as the hero, you take responsibility and you focus on things within your control. 

The stories you allow yourself to tell impact how you feel and act. 

Your stories create your reality.

Thought Disrupter Steps/Dialog (check out the shownotes)

Jim Fortin teaches, “You are where your attention is.”

Where is Your Attention?

You have the power to choose where you will place your attention. 

Call to ACTION!

#1 Come join me in the Firmly Founded Parent Membership!

JOIN HERE

Are You Caught in the Parent Trap?

Discover the hidden patterns that are keeping you stuck—and how to break free.

Take this quick (and eye-opening) quiz to uncover which common parenting trap you’re falling into with your teen.
Get a personalized roadmap to help you parent with more clarity, confidence, and connection—starting today.

https://benpughcoaching.com/parenttrapquiz