Today I'm talking repetition and comfort in familiarity.

There's also a synopsis of the episode I cocked up and a request to you to send me your questions!

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What happens when one parent dies during your childhood and the other is unpredictable? Introducing.....anxious attachment!

Today's episode looks at Attachment Theory and how our earliest interactions with our parents can shape our relationships way into adulthood. It's the reason why some of us can't write a text without imagining it will end a friendship or will rehearse a conversation with our other half nine times before we open our mouth.

It's also, as I've learned, not insurmountable. But it does require a lot of hard work (although not as hard as resisting the temptation to pick at a spot.....)

** Note: I'm quite obviously not an expert. Just someone with lived experience who has found this knowledge useful for my own growth and self-development.

Resources!

The Development by David Podcast I reference can be found here: https://open.spotify.com/episode/72yFi5UuQRfmKH7j3n2Q1q

The Blindboy Podcast episode on attachment theory is here: https://play.acast.com/s/blindboy/attachmenttheory

You can read more about the origins of attachment theory here: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Attachment_theory#Anxious-ambivalent_attachment

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Today's episode starts with gratitude for the good things and ends with an examination of how - whilst we absolutely should make sure we remember the good times (and not allow ourselves to be consumed with grief), it's important not to let that prevent us from understanding and resolving difficult emotions.

The track I mention is 'Rise' by Public Image Limited - watch and listen to it here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Nv0efmUKP9s

The book I reference is 'Woman's Experience of Sex' by Sheila Kitzinger. https://www.amazon.co.uk/Womans-Experience-Sex-Sheila-Kitzinger/dp/0140074473

#grief #gratitude #angerisanenergy

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It's a Pick 'n' Mix Sunday episode reflecting on just how awkward Jools Holland was interviewing Liam Gallagher, mad dreams and my excitement about interviewing one of the founders of Common People - a campaign to increase the representation of working class people in the creative industries.

Find out more about the campaign here: https://commonpeople.substack.com/p/commoners-001?showWelcome=true&s=r

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What happens when you break contact with someone and the other person can't accept it?

In this episode I share why I had to take a break from Facebook for a year and why, sometimes, taking a break from social media - even if just for a morning - can be a very powerful thing.

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A very personal episode today where I talk about the sensation of shock I experienced after being told my mum had died.

This looks at experiencing the death of a parent when you are estranged and how the events of two years ago made the process all the more challenging. There's also an exploration of how when 'everything is an emergency' for some people, you don't recognise when a real emergency occurs.

#grief #loss #estrangement

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Big day in our house as the girl turns 16!

Today's episode is about the reality of raising kids and the realisation that parents are very powerful.

The Philip Larkin poem that I mention (and mis-quoted!) is called "This be the verse", you can read it here: https://www.poetryfoundation.org/poems/48419/this-be-the-verse

#parenting #podcast

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Whatever happened to old-school Home Economics?

Today's episode is a tale of macaroni cheese and the unexpected price that we, as parents, have to pay....

#macaronicheese

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Waving my daughter off to her first GCSE exam today prompted me to have a moment of reflection on the huge differences between our respective experiences.

From my growing up in chaos, to raising children who are growing up in financial and emotional stability (so far), I talk about the relief of making sure I didn't repeat a cycle and what it took to get there.

#socialmobility #gcses2022

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Today's episode is about lifelong learning, watching the kids go off to sit their exams and - in a random tangent - imagining The Script in a pancake pan and being able to flip them over so they can lightly toast their faces.

To read the definition (and examples) of 'reframing' that I mention - head to: https://www.verywellmind.com/reframing-defined-2610419

To listen to the university, challenged podcast - you can find it here: https://shows.acast.com/universitychallenged/episodes

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