The Top 3 Things Weak Leaders Do (And How To Be Strong)

1.  Complain.

2.  Avoid difficult conversations in regards to standards of attitude, effort, behavior.

3.  Show doubts and fears.

1.  Complain.

-Mindless negativity:  blame, complain, condemn, vent, gossip

-Everyone has problems, no one needs to hear yours

-Relentless Solution Focus by Dr. Jason Selk

-Ask for help 

-Stop giving away your power and respect

-Book:  Relentless Solution Focus by Dr. Jason Selk

The best CEOs don’t complain.  I’ve known Alan Mullally (Ford Motor Company) and Francis Hesselbein (Girl Scouts) for over 30 years.  I’ve never heard them whine, I’ve never heard them complain, I’ve never heard them say “poor me”.  Never.  They say, “I am up, I’m positive, life is good, let’s make the best of every day”.  -Dr. Marshall Goldsmith

2.  Avoid difficult conversations and decisions in regards to standards of attitude, effort, behavior.

-Clear and simple standards that you personally embody 

-Attitude:  Relentless Solution Focus, Effort:  Give 100% 100% of the time, Behavior:  Be kind and useful

-Forgiveness

-How am I that?  99% of leaders are living low standards themselves.

-Recognize 3 things they are doing well and one thing they could do better

-Pygmalion Effect:  I believe in you

-Set up a follow up conversation

-Book:  The Score Takes Care of Itself by Bill Walsh

Two overriding supervisory rules that you'll want to remember by Dan Kennedy:

1. Expect the best. Expectations have enormous impact on results. And conveyed expectations have great impact on most people. Most folks are smarter and more capable than we give them credit for.  Some never get challenged.

2. Know that you only have the right to expect what you inspect.

The reason we hesitate to have the hard conversations is because we don’t care enough. If you truly cared enough, you would say what needs to be said. After all, how else are they going to improve and maximize their potential? Let me remind you that nothing can change until the unsaid is spoken.  -Keith Cunningham 

3.  Show doubts and fears.

-Mindful breathing

-Relentless Solution Focus by Dr. Jason Selk 

-Ask for help 

-Books:  Relentless Solution Focus by Dr. Jason Selk, The 7 Rules of Power by Dr. Jeffrey Pfeffer

One of the leader’s most important tasks is to project confidence.  When someone projects confidence, others are more likely to follow them.  Dr. Jeffrey Pfeffer

If your significant other has left you, if your kids are acting up, if you’ve been given some horrible medical diagnosis, obviously your friends and family care about this. But your employees need you to show up with energy, they need you to show up with confidence, and they need you to show up in a way that attends to what they need from you, not what you need from yourself.  Dr. Jeffrey Pfeffer 

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