The Transformational Leader

In life, transformations aren't always easy. Transcending towards a greater path means leaving your comfort zone. Easier said than done, right? This is one of the main reasons why people tend to settle. Sometimes, we are engulfed with fear that we cannot take action and end up settling. But, in life, settling is not the same as living. As human beings, some of us aspire to do more, have more and be more. This aspiration is what makes us feel alive and looking forward to a new morning. But, when you settle, you gently say goodbye to a life you could experience.

However, we can let go of this fear and start taking action by eliminating one crippling belief. We need to say goodbye to the belief that we don't deserve the best. When fear starts to rationalize your act of settling, you know it's time to take heed and start reaching for greater heights. You need to give up good to be great.

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What's in the way of you living the life of your dreams?

Your resistance to a breakdown.

We are always unconsciously expressing our resistance to a breakdown. Maybe you want to have a loving relationship, but end up dating someone you feel like you have a chance with, just because it's safe. Or maybe you want to start a business, but couldn't leave your 9-5 because you're afraid of failing.

It is important to keep in mind that no breakthrough is created without breaking down. A breakdown is always an inevitability because life is infinite and abundant. Anything is bound to happen.

In this episode, Adam Quiney provides an overview of what breakdown is, how breakdowns occur, and how resisting organizational breakdowns highlights the fine line between management and leadership.

Jump in and listen how you can transform breakdowns into breakthroughs!

On this week's mid-week episode, tune in as Adam discusses fear, transformation, controlling the process, partnering with spirit, prospering by serving and why trust comes hard.

In a world of constant chaos and conflict, it only makes sense to resolve issues and bring order to your life.

Right?

Well, not necessarily.

As humans, we are hardwired to seek harmony and consistency - both in our words and actions. After all, it is through order and balance that we can truly live our life. But, this too, is a limiting ideal.

So, how can we go through life without spending every moment seeking answers to life's questions or even doing something to synthesize your thoughts with a prevailing opinion that sticks truer with your belief?

This is where learning to sit in dissonance comes into play. As transformational leaders, we need to allow ourselves to comfortably accept conflicting thoughts or actions - in our minds and in our deeds.

We must understand that no prevailing opinion leads to faster development of ideas. And, the need to solve the discomfort caused by dissonance eradicates the possibility of learning - from feedback, opposing arguments, or even seemingly irrational actions.

By embracing dissonance and its conflicting nature, we allow life to take its natural course. Thus, accepting some things cannot be resolved or answered.

Let's talk about the dissonance, how we can sit through it, and understand how it can lead to a life of new learnings, experience and possibilities.

On this week's mid-week episode, tune in as Adam discusses his recent experience sitting in sacred ceremony with Ayahuasca. He also answers questions, shares how this work aligns with transformational coaching, tells what he took away, and much, much more.

Can we genuinely be true to ourselves and show up exactly as who we really are? We were born with innate qualities, yet depending on the situation that we are in, we tend to over-express or under-express our true selves. We've learned to flaunt our natural abilities to gain recognition and at the same time, we suppress those qualities with other people to be accepted. We've unconsciously provided a false charade of our true beings as a form of survival mechanism. The under-expression and the over-expression of our essence have become our shadows which are reciprocal to each other.

Now, you'll be naturally and almost irresistibly going to be drawn to that underlying energy and potential partners that carry the same essence as you. Since these people - whether having a romantic relationship or business connections with them - are a reflection of you, you're drawn to more of what you already are.

As you and your partner are either over-expressing or under-expressing your true and innate qualities, it may be deemed as inauthenticity of their shadows thus, the novelty of this approach wears off in both circumstances. We become frustrated by their inauthenticity but it also reflects how we are also unwilling to fully showcase and embody who we are. As transformational leaders, we possess both the medicine and poison for our partners. Thus, it's also our role to accept their innate and natural essence and let them show up exactly as they are.

Let's discuss the 2nd energetic law of leadership further as we dive deep into the meaning of this law and figure out how it is a reflection of what lies underneath the surface for both you and your partner.

On this week's mid-week episode, tune in as Adam live coaches special guest Tom Lancaster around keeping promises to himself.

What's the distinction between coaching and leading?

These two terms are commonly used in the same context yet their meaning is so different from one another. Although none of these words are superior or inferior in terms of meaning, it is important to differentiate coaching from leading if you aspire to create profound transformation. Coaching empowers someone to support them in whatever path they want to take and let them learn in their own way - your role as a leader is simply to be there on their journey. The duty of leading, on the other hand, is to make sure that they are getting supported in their path in the sense that coaches must model their work and stand for them to do the same thing.

Leaders coach while coaches lead. A leader uses the modality of coaching while a coach must bring the being of leading - which makes the two concepts entwined with one another yet both have distinct meanings.

There are also other differences between coaching and leading that need to be recognized to have a better understanding of these concepts. What other indicators can we use to distinguish coaching from leadership? What kind of approach should I use to achieve transformational leadership? Listen to this episode as we analyze these two approaches, how one works with the other, and identify how the notion of agenda lies in coaching and leading.

On this week's mid-week episode, tune in as Adam discusses topics such how to offer the breakthrough to someone that is closed, Coaching vs. Training, and how to navigate the two, how to navigate your impact and people's expectations and what makes coaching masterful.

Can we get rid of our fears permanently?

There's always a standard way of how we think things work. Working twice as hard could typically mean acquiring twice as much salary and likewise, working less means less income to earn. This realm of predictability is simply increasing or decreasing your effort and having the equivalent result, thus no breakthroughs are applied. The realm of possibility, on the other hand, is anything and everything that you can think of that is not common. Working less but earning more? That may look unrealistic but it's certainly not impossible.

As you can see, possibility exists entirely outside of everything we already currently know. We just tend to see it as impossible or a nice unachievable dream as our fears tend to get in the way. And this tells us why the possibility is always met with fear.

Fears protect us from stepping into the unknown. It keeps us from venturing and simply dealing with everything that we used to instead of trying new things. But, living a life of transformation means living a life where you are continuously taking risks. The goal lies in the realm of possibility wherein you'll be leaving the world with what you are familiar it. And you can't have limitless opportunities without addressing your fears.

If you're a leader committed to breaking paradigms and forging forward to create the impossible, tune in to this series as I'll go over the first energetic law of leadership and why do fear and possibility always show up in equal and opposite countermeasures to one another.