In this episode, we use the You're Wrong About podcast episode on the D.A.R.E. program as a launching point for a conversation about our experiences (and/or lack thereof) with drugs. 

Tangents include simping, The Regular Show, faking orgasms, Ohio, CNN's Weed documentary, Tangle toys, the relationship between rationality and white supremacy, Munchausen Syndrome by Proxy, the Enneagram, and social media.

[TRIGGER WARNINGS: Sex, Gaslighting, Drugs, Alcohol, Medication Stigma (Adderall), Phobias (Needles, Blood, Sharp Objects), Self Harm, Bullying and Harassment, and Divorce]

This episode was recorded on October 31, 2020.

Using in an interview with Sonya Renee Taylor on the Good Ancestor Podcast as a launching point, in this episode we reflect on our experiences with the shame we've had around our bodies and the way others perceive them, especially in terms of body size. 

Tangents include cow farts, sex work, "Electric Avenue," Tangles, lobbyists, and the "Pool Party" episode of The Office.

[TRIGGER WARNINGS: Weight Loss, Fatphobia, Dieting, Eating Disorders, Rape, Purity Culture, BMI, Burnout, and Sexism]

Also check out the 100% indigenous-owned US winemaker Doug just discovered: Twisted Cedar. The Malbec is--as the kids say--on point.

This episode was recorded on October 17, 2020. 

In this episode, we intend to continue our conversation on purity culture, but it quickly turns into a mission to get Doug drunk for the first time in his life--as we're recording the podcast. Do we succeed? Well, you'll just have to listen to find out...

[TRIGGER WARNINGS: Graphic Sexual Language, Purity Culture, Evangelical Christianity, Pornography, Ghost Stories, Abortion, Sexism, ADHD issues, and Drunkenness]

This episode was recorded on October 1, 2020. 

In this episode, we continue our conversation on purity culture. 

Doug summarizes his entire sexual history, including how it dovetails with being raised as a boy, becoming a youth group kid, entering into his first (and only) relationship with his current partner, and finding out far too late in life that he's actually asexual.

Mostly, the conversation centers around porn--something that featured strongly in Doug's childhood formation and has resurfaced in recent years upon his discovery of the concept of "ethical porn." 

We spend a decent chunk of time talking about a specific porn site: LustCinema.com, a creation of filmmaker Erika Lust--whose TED talk was the catalyst to Doug getting back into porn again.

[TRIGGER WARNINGS: Graphic Sexual Language, Purity Culture, Evangelical Christianity, Pornography, Racism, Racial Fetishization in Porn, Representation in Porn, Masturbation, Sexual Shame, Premarital Sex, Victim Blaming, Sexism, Objectification and Exploitation of Women, Kink Shaming, Asexuality in Relationships, Sex Toys, Polyamory, and Lots and Lots of Sex Jokes]

This episode was recorded on September 26, 2020. 

In this episode, we finally begin to delve into a topic we've been teasing for a while: purity culture.

The podcast we started the discussion with was a conversation between Bailey Brawner and Matthias Roberts on Bailey's podcast Ask a Pastor Anything, which centered on why there's so much shame around sexuality in the Christian church. 

Listening to this podcast episode made Vanessa realize how much it bothers her to hear conversations about sexuality centered around Christianity, and Doug spends a little time explaining why Christianity is still important to him--despite growing up with purity culture. In this section, Doug mentions religious trauma syndrome, as well as the book Models of God by the late Sally McFague.

For the rest of the podcast, we focus on what purity culture has meant to Vanessa--reclaiming and redefining the concept of virginity that has weighed so heavily on her throughout her life as it probably has for all other people socialized as women.

We didn't mention it in the podcast, but Emily Joy's "Thank God I'm a virgin" speaks to this idea phenomenally. You should totally check it out!

[TRIGGER WARNINGS: Evangelical Christianity and Religious Trauma, Eating Disorders, Graphic Sexual Content, Virginity, Rape, and Insecurities in Relationships]

This episode was recorded on September 26, 2020. 

In this episode, we go completely off the rails.

Like, we intended to actually talk about something meaningful, but our brains just weren't having it.

So, please enjoy a little over an hour of rambling about everything from binary identities to synonyms for mush brain to a girlfriend-eating Marilyn Manson to the definition of "bear" to Zoboomafoo to why you don't get to keep your organs when they're removed from your body to a real-time reaction to the passing of Ruth Bader Ginsberg.

Despite broaching on some serious topics here and there, this episode is about 90% composed of Doug and Vanessa laughing uncontrollably into their microphones.

So, fair warning: major plubugup ahead.

[TRIGGER WARNINGS: Hysterectomies, Graphical Sexual Descriptions, Discussions on Gatekeeping in LGBT+ and Neurodivergent Communities, a brief mention of rape, Brain Fog, Abortion and Roe Vs. Wade, Cultural Appropriation, and Evangelical Bullshit]

Also, be sure to hang on until the end for an extended outro featuring the musical talents of Six Umbrellas with their track "Transition" and the lyrical arrangement of magical mix-master Vanilla Rice™.

This episode was recorded on September 18, 2020.