If anxiety, people-pleasing, shutdown, or overthinking feel like who you are, this may explain why. This episode explores trauma identity—not your personality, but who your nervous system learned to become to stay safe. When identity is shaped by trauma, symptoms don’t come and go. They become the baseline. That’s why insight alone isn’t enough, and why you can’t think your way out of trauma.

Have you noticed how one critical comment can outweigh a hundred positive ones? That’s not pessimism. It’s negative bias—and trauma makes it louder. In this video, I explain why trauma-trained brains stay on high alert, why positive experiences struggle to land, and how negative bias quietly shapes your self-worth, relationships, and decisions. This isn’t about positive thinking. It’s about understanding your nervous system and retraining the brain with the right structure and support.

In this video, I explain why trauma-trained brains cling to familiar patterns, even when they hurt and why willpower alone can’t create real change. You’ll learn how survival responses override your intentions and what it actually takes to retrain your brain for safety, choice, and progress.

Trauma distorts the way you see yourself, and these four emotions (shame, guilt, embarrassment, and pride) are the ones trauma hits the hardest. In this episode, I break down how each emotion becomes amplified, confusing, and overwhelming when the nervous system has been shaped by trauma, and how this creates a cycle that keeps you stuck. You’ll learn why shame attaches to your identity, why guilt expands into places it doesn’t belong, why embarrassment feels like danger, and why pride becomes almost impossible to access. Understanding these emotions is the first step to breaking the trauma cycle and rebuilding your sense of self.