How persistent should we be in our relationships? What’s the thin line between chasing someone and losing all self respect? Often we have better relationships with people in our heads and not in real life and cannot admit it to ourselves. And worst of all, some people love the way you make them feel more than they love you. On this next segment, Thulani and Darrol discuss mutually beneficial and one sided relationships.

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On this next episode the boys continue their reflections on 2020. The conversation goes into an discussion on whether people can be friends after a relationship doesn’t work out. They also discuss how to deal with rejection and how one may come to terms with it.

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We all need a chance to grow as people and to try out new avenues. How often do we give others an opportunity to move on from who we know them to be or are we always pitting them against what our idea of them is? The boys discus albums that just didn’t do it for them in this next segment and also touch on why when certain artists move away from the sound we are used to it may make us feel a way. The episode then ends in the boys discussing their toxic relationship with Man United.

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Quick question, have you ever been in so deep you don’t want to pull out? Sometimes love and other things make you feel that way. It’s just so nice and comforting that you just want to be immersed deeply into the feelings

In the following episode the boys do a recap of Darrol and Thulani’s 2020 year in terms of the music the were listening to. They dive into the different themes that this music explored and even give their top albums for the year. Please feel free to share your favorite albums for the 2020 year with us, we would love to hear your pick.

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On this next episode the boys wrap up the Adulting series in some style. They touch on a variety of topics ranging from finance, relationships, toxicity and conflict resolution. Thank you for joining the Trench Effect(s) on this long and dense series, we trust that you gained some value from it.

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On this next segment the boys continue their colorful conversation on expectations. They touch on what barriers of entry there may be to succeed in the workspaces and how what they experienced in the office was different to their expectations. They then round up with a discussion on what exactly it means to create a “natural” friendship with someone else.

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Between debit orders, black tax and high lifestyle inflation costs we didn’t know that adulting would slap this hard. We have found that our expectations (especially in monetary terms) haven’t been met and there is a sense unhappiness caused by this failure. In the episode we give you an array of emotions and conversations on met and unmet expectations we have had through the years. We hope you don’t get lost in-between the chats.

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We would like to thank our parents for getting over their childhoods and being better for us. Giving us a life they dreamt of having as kids. We hope one day to show them our gratitude.

The biggest realization for us was that our parents did a lot with less. We took time out during the conversation to reflect on our childhoods and found out they weren’t as bad as we thought. We just need to give our parents some grace. To those who aspire to be parents, think about your reasons to be a parent. It’s probably harder than you think but as fulfilling as you hope. May you go home or if you are home, show some love to your parents. If your mom or dad wasn’t there for you understand that God wouldn’t give you a life you couldn’t handle. Thank you for listening to us and our rants.

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Welcome back to another segment of the trench effects podcast!

On this next segment the boys dive into the lessons they learnt about marriage and parenthood from their elders. They also have a brief discussion on Sigmund Freud’s theory that breaks down why children are typically attracted to a partner who reminds them of their parents.

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Parents? Why are parents important In a conversation about adulting? Who and what we are is significantly influenced by our upbringing. Genetics isn’t the only way our parents contribute to who we are as people because their relationship with us can have dire consequences. We discuss whether two parent households raise better children and Darrol digs deeper into how his father taught him to be present.

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