Before we got married, he asked for a prenup. I couldn't sign it. Not because I didn't trust him, but because everything I believed about love, faith, and marriage made the idea of a prenuptial agreement feel like a betrayal of what we were building together. It nearly ended our relationship before our marriage even started.

Nearly ten years later, that prenup is still valid. In this episode, we sit down together to ask the question we've never asked out loud: do we still need it?

We talk about why he wanted it, why I resisted, what it revealed about how differently we viewed love, money, trust, and security, and what it cost our relationship in those early months. But this conversation goes beyond whether you should get a prenup. We get into the deeper question underneath it all: can a legal contract and complete trust exist in the same marriage? Or does one always undermine the other?

And after nearly a decade of marriage, building a family, and building a life together, do the reasons we had for signing that agreement still apply to the people we've become?

By the end of this episode, we make a decision. Together. In real time. You'll have to listen to find out what we choose.

The Uncommons is a podcast for people who are done with surface-level answers and want to explore what it really takes to build a meaningful life. Every Thursday, we have honest conversations about relationships, identity, family, purpose, and the choices that shape who we become. If these conversations resonate with you, subscribe and join us each week as we keep asking the questions that don't have simple answers.

A few weeks ago, my aunt called to tell me the community had found the podcast. I spent the next week confronting a fear of rejection and an anxiety I hadn't felt in years... not because I had done something wrong, but because being seen by people who knew me felt far more threatening than being seen by strangers.

In this episode, we explore why the fear of rejection and the fear of being seen aren't personal flaws, and how hiding yourself can be a completely rational response to growing up inside a culture where other people's opinions carry real consequences. We talk about the voice I internalized from childhood, why Parisa questions whether Brené Brown's framework on vulnerability fully accounts for what visibility costs inside collectivist cultures, and what it actually took to decide that being seen was worth whatever it cost.

We close with a declaration to anyone who wants us to stay hidden; one of the most honest things we've said on this podcast.

We are four days into a cleanse as we record this. And by day two, what surfaced had nothing to do with hunger. In this episode, we explore what your relationship with food actually reveals about your relationship with every desire in your life, and why the way you respond to a craving tells you more about who you are than almost anything else. Pej brings his four-layer bridge connecting the gut-brain axis, neuroscience, Ayurveda, and Sufism to explain what actually happens emotionally when we cleanse, and we explore why self discipline around food has never really been about food at all. The question isn't what you're eating. The question is who is doing the choosing.

Who are you without your career?

Without your success...

Your relationships...

Your reputation...

Or the roles you've spent your life building?

At some point, many of us realize we've confused what we do with who we are. And when life changes—as it inevitably does—it can leave us questioning our identity in ways we never expected.

In this episode, we explore the hidden identity crisis that often follows success, major life transitions, and personal loss. Through personal stories, including an experience in a monastery, we discuss why attachment creates suffering, what Sufism and Buddhism teach about the ego, and how letting go of the identities we've built may be the beginning of discovering who we truly are.

If you've ever felt like you've built the life you always wanted yet still found yourself searching for something deeper, this conversation is for you.

Twenty years of practicing medicine in the US. A company built and sold. One of the highest paid employed physician positions in the country on the table. And he said no to all of it, because success had answered every question except the one that actually mattered.

In this episode, Pej shares the story he hasn't told publicly before: what drove him to walk away from everything he built, what pulled him to India when his mother was diagnosed with cancer, and what happened when he admitted himself as a patient at an Ayurvedic hospital and experienced healing from the inside for the first time. He left feeling cleaner and more connected than he had in two decades of practicing medicine, and this conversation is about what that experience changed in him permanently, and what he now believes medicine in its current form is missing.

If you've ever achieved something significant and still found yourself asking what it was all for, this one will stay with you.

If you're a people pleaser, saying no doesn't just feel uncomfortable — it feels like you're risking love, connection, and acceptance all at once. In this episode, we get honest about a pattern we both still live with, where it came from, and what it has quietly cost us over time. We talk about why the nervous system learns early that saying no means losing love, why the "good girl" identity becomes a prison, and why guilt after a boundary is a reflex and not a verdict. And we offer the reframe that most people pleasing content misses entirely — the capacity to genuinely give without calculating what you get back is rare and worth keeping. The problem was never the giving. It's that the giving had no floor.

This episode started as a conversation about overprotective fathers and ended somewhere much more honest. We got into the specific fear each of us is carrying into raising our daughter — he wants to protect her from men, and I want to protect her from the fear of them. I share the story of growing up in Iran where my femininity was never fully mine, the thirty years it took to start reclaiming it, and why I refuse to pass that weight to her. And somewhere in the middle of it all, we asked the question that changed the whole conversation: is this our wounds talking — or our wisdom?

Are we accidentally raising entitled kids?

In this episode, we get honest about one of the hardest questions in parenting: where is the line between raising children who feel abundant and raising children who think the world owes them everything? We both grew up with scarcity and rebuilt our relationship with money as adults. Now we're trying to give our kids something neither of us had without overcorrecting into entitlement. We talk about what actually creates entitled children, why over-giving disables rather than protects, and where we genuinely disagree on whether kids should earn money or simply feel provided for. This is just a real conversation from two parents still figuring it out.

Most people have a list.

The problem is that the list is usually made of what we think we want—not what we actually need.

In this episode, we reflect on how our views of relationships evolved over time and the qualities we've come to value most in a long-term partner. We share the lessons that came from past relationships, the assumptions we got wrong, and the characteristics that ultimately mattered most when building a life together.

We discuss:

• What we thought we wanted at twenty
• How past relationships shaped our understanding of partnership
• The qualities we value most in a man and a woman
• Accountability, emotional awareness, and resilience
• What actually creates compatibility between two people
• Why love alone isn't enough to sustain a relationship

At its core, this episode is about the difference between attraction and partnership... and the qualities that become increasingly important once real life begins.

Welcome to The Uncommons; where we explore the dualities of modern life and what it really takes to build something meaningful.

Can an interfaith marriage really work?

As a Muslim woman and a Jewish man, we've heard that question countless times throughout our relationship. While many people focus on religious differences, we've found that shared values often have a much greater impact on the success of a marriage than shared labels.

In this episode, we explore what it's like building a life together while coming from different religious and cultural backgrounds.

We discuss:

• What makes an interfaith marriage work
• Growing up Muslim and Jewish
• Religion vs. spirituality
• The role of shared values in a relationship
• How our beliefs have evolved over time
• Raising children in an interfaith family
• Curiosity, personal growth, and challenging inherited beliefs
• What truly matters when building a meaningful life together

This conversation isn't about convincing anyone what to believe. It's about exploring the relationship between faith, identity, values, and the choices we make when building a marriage and raising a family.

At its core, this episode asks a simple question:

What matters more in a relationship: shared beliefs or shared values?