The UnlearnT Podcast

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Ever grappled with the nuances of humility and how it intertwines with laziness and confidence? Well, it's time to take a deep breath and plunge into the uncharted waters of self-discovery with me, your host Ruth Abigail, also known as RA, on our Freedom Friday session. We're going to tackle the fears that make us play small and how the misinterpretation of humility in religious cultures often leads to self-imposed mediocrity. 

In this conversation, I share my personal journey towards unmasking the toxicity of false humility, a guise that often magnifies our insecurities rather than our potential. As we navigate these thought-provoking waters, the importance of recognizing our limitations, celebrating others' abilities, and the liberating feeling of letting others shine without feeling threatened will be brought to light. Discover why failure, exploration, and discovery are essential in striking a balance between humility and confidence. Get ready to step out of the shadows, embrace your potential, and serve the larger community, because true humility is not about playing small, but about being the best version of yourself. Join us and start your journey towards unlearning damaging misconceptions and embracing genuine humility.

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Are you ready to unlock personal growth and actual freedom? Master the art of the pivot with me, your host Ruth Abigail (RA), as I unpack the lessons I've unlearned about planning and the essential role of spontaneity. As someone who once thrived on meticulous plans, I've come to understand that the real beauty lies in the ability to change direction quickly. 
 
 So, join me on this Freedom Friday episode as we continue our unlearning journey, enhancing our lives with the power of the pivot. Don't forget to stay tuned for our upcoming new series!

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Ever been in love and felt the world against your union? Join us as we sit down with the resilient couple, Darnell and Sundra Harris. For 24 years, they've navigated the high seas of disapproval, age gap, financial instability, and step-parenting, using faith as their compass and prayer as their anchor. Their compelling story not only puts a spotlight on the reality of marriage but also shares insights on how to overcome common hurdles. 

Darnell and Sundra open up about the early days of their marriage and the struggles they faced due to their age difference and scarce resources. Unwavering in his commitment, Darnell had to prove his devotion to both God and Sundra amidst her family's rejection. The couple narrates their experience dealing with blended families, emphasizing how love and discipline can bridge the gap and form strong bonds. 

 Their story paints a vivid picture of commitment and resilience, offering listeners a wealth of wisdom. Whether you're married, engaged, or simply interested in understanding the complexities of a committed relationship, this heartfelt conversation is sure to enrich your perspective.

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On this episode of Freedom Friday, RA challenges you and herself to choose rest in order to get more done. As counter productive as this sounds, it’s the only way to live a free life. Take a listen! 

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Our guest stars, the newly-engaged Megan and Nick dive into the value of true friendship between partners, the complexities of parenthood, and the influence of the church in relationships. How does pride play a role in relationships? How do you balance being an individual and being part of a team? We share our insights on these topics, underlining the importance of unlearning preconceived notions and expectations. Also, we discuss the power of decision-making and communication in relationships and how it can lead to a healthier and more fulfilling journey.

We also delve into the church's influence on relationships, examining how its teachings can affect sex and marriage. We share our personal experiences of having to shift our mindset, unlearning behaviors, and learning new ways to communicate in order to experience more fulfilling relationships. Join us as we unlearn, grow, and navigate the intricate web of relationships and marriage.

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Life comes with changes and different changes require different rhythms. Sometimes life moves fast, some times life moves a little slower. Personally, I prefer a fast pace, slightly chaotic life, but that's time has come to an end. I wonder if you can relate...  

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The title says it all! Take a quick listen and get a little more free! 

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What happens when you take two people with contrasting views on money, varying upbringing, and a sprinkle of selfishness? You get a marriage, of course! We're sitting down with Jill and Shannon Dyson, my dear friends, who have been navigating the rough seas of marriage for an impressive 25 years. They're ready to spill the beans about their adventures, the trials and tribulations, and how they've worked through their own selfish tendencies to understand each other better. They even share some fun anecdotes including how Shannon ended up being known as Jill's husband!

Money; it can make or break a marriage. Jill and Shannon share their divergent views on money and how it has shaped their relationship. We're carving out this touchy subject to explore the role of financial responsibility, the impact of differing upbringings, and how attitudes towards money can expose character. And, spoiler alert, it's not just about balancing the books, but also about balancing egos. As we navigate through these murky waters, you'll realize the importance of having honest, sometimes difficult, conversations about both spending and saving.

Marriage is a journey, and every journey has its bumps. This couldn't be truer for Jill and Shannon, who had to weather a global pandemic together. They talk about how their contrasting personalities - Jill, the extrovert, and Shannon, the introvert - came together to find balance during these challenging times. We're also touching on the fragile topic of divorce rates and the importance of staying connected to prevent drifting apart. We wrap up with them sharing practical strategies to maintain the spark in their marriage, including the incredible story of Craig Strickland and his wife. 

Steer away from the same old marriage advice. Join us for an engaging conversation with a couple who've weathered 25 years of storms, sunshine, and everything in between. Learn, laugh, and, most importantly, unlearn together.

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This is a fire Freedom Friday Episode! My good friend, Dr. Monique Ositelu (former olympic track qualifier, serial entrepreneur, and data storytelling  expert), talks about unlearning her relationship with fear. These next 15 minutes could change the game for you! 

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Ever thought about what it means to 'divorce' certain aspects of your life before you say 'I do'? Join us as we explore this transformative concept with the insightful Patrick and Shemeika Harrington, a couple who has navigated 26 years of marital waters and emerged with wisdom to share. We uncover the significance of disconnecting from harmful influences, establishing healthy communication, and forging unity in the sacred journey of marriage.