The Unraveled Pod

Faith is not a trend, not a vibe, and not something you put on for Sunday and take off the rest of the week. In this episode, we talk about what it looks like when faith stops being performative and starts being personal.

We get into religion vs relationship, losing reverence in church culture, wilderness seasons, and what happens when you really encounter God and let the Holy Spirit lead your everyday life. Faith isn’t an accessory. It’s a garment.

Stay connected + Work with us: Tierra Sade Certified Disruption Coach | Speaker | Creator Helping high-functioning believers break toxic cycles, reset their confidence, and live boldly in purpose. Follow: @thetierrasade on IG & @tierrasade on TikTok Shop: Disruption Decks: disruptionshop.myshopify.com/

Stephanie Alexis Licensed Mental Health Therapist | Founder of Arabella Counseling Serving residents across Texas with compassionate, client centered services Follow: @officialstephaniealexis on IG & TikTok Book a Session or Learn More: www.arabellacouns.com

Episode Breakdown:

00:00 Intro and what “faith is not an accessory” means

00:40 Faith as trend vs covenant lifestyle

02:20 Persecution, privilege, and taking faith seriously

03:55 Performative church culture and lost reverence

05:30 Personal encounters with God and real transformation

08:21 Falling in love with God and learning his voice

11:10 God’s love, identity, and being chosen

15:50 Letting God lead your real life, not just Sunday life

19:27 Religion vs relationship and wilderness seasons

22:02 Worship, freedom, and getting undignified

25:46 Being available to the Holy Spirit anywhere

28:52 Greater works, obedience, and living submitted

33:30 Stop envying “culture fun” and live whole

35:09 Bringing God into dating, friendships, and everything 36:23 Closing charge and final takeaway

Is the Christian life boring. Or is it actually lit in a way the world can’t compete with? In this episode of The Unraveled Pod, Tierra and Stephanie are joined by author and minister of movement Sharena Black for a real, funny, and convicting conversation about what “fun” actually means, why the world’s version of freedom is often just fancy bondage, and how believers can enjoy life without using overindulgence as a coping mechanism.

We get into the YOLO mentality, substance use, hookup culture, and the not-so-glam side of “living it up.” Then we pivot into something deeper. identity, conviction, obedience, and what it looks like to be on God’s “short leash” (aka. the kind of accountability that saves you from yourself). If you’ve ever felt pressure to fit in, felt “square” for choosing holiness, or wondered how to have a joyful life without compromising, this one’s for you.

Connect with our guest, Sharena Black Instagram: @sharena_bless Book: How to Steward Your Mantle of Worship (available on Amazon)

Stay connected + Work with us: Tierra Sade Certified Disruption Coach | Speaker | Creator Helping high-functioning believers break toxic cycles, reset their confidence, and live boldly in purpose. Follow: @thetierrasade on IG & @tierrasade on TikTok Shop: Disruption Decks: disruptionshop.myshopify.com/

Stephanie Alexis Licensed Mental Health Therapist | Founder of Arabella Counseling Serving residents across Texas with compassionate, client centered services Follow: @officialstephaniealexis on IG & TikTok Book a Session or Learn More: www.arabellacouns.com

Episode Breakdown: 00:00 – Welcome Back + Setting the Vibe

00:49 – Is the Christian Life Boring or Lit?

01:49 – Why Faith Isn’t the Easy Route

03:10 – YOLO Culture vs Eternal Perspective

03:59 – Counterfeit Fun and False Highs

06:00 – When Overindulgence Stops Being Fun

07:25 – What Are We Really Coping With?

10:11 – Testimony: Overcoming Addiction

13:45 – Redefining Fun After Healing

41:57 – Why a Short Leash Is a Blessing

"Soft Girl Era" has been trending for years, but what does it really mean beyond bubble baths, luxury aesthetics, and curated calm? In this episode, Tierra and Stephanie peel back the layers of the soft life and redefine it from the inside out. They talk about softness as a spiritual rhythm, not an escape.

A way of living rooted in identity, emotional regulation, faith, and divine design. This episode dives into self-reflection, deconstruction, femininity, rest, boundaries, hormones, money, submission, and what it really looks like to build a life you don’t constantly need to escape from.

If you’ve ever felt exhausted by striving, confused about femininity, or pressured to perform strength at the expense of peace, this conversation will meet you right where you are. Soft life isn’t a trend. It’s a return.

Stay connected + Work with us: Tierra Sade Certified Disruption Coach | Speaker | Creator Helping high-functioning believers break toxic cycles, reset their confidence, and live boldly in purpose. Follow: @thetierrasade on IG & @tierrasade on TikTok Shop: Disruption Decks: disruptionshop.myshopify.com/

Stephanie Alexis Licensed Mental Health Therapist | Founder of Arabella Counseling Serving residents across Texas with compassionate, client centered services Follow: @officialstephaniealexis on IG & TikTok Book a Session or Learn More: www.arabellacouns.com

Episode Breakdown: 00:00 – Redefining Soft Girl Era

03:30 – Softness, Identity, and Regulation

06:34 – Vulnerability and Survival Mode

07:15 – The Pandemic Reset

11:17 – Self-Reflection and Clarity

13:14 – Soft Life in Real Life

15:38 – Hyper-Independence and Hormones

17:58 – Humility and Feminine Power

21:10 – Letting Go of Control

25:31 – A Life You Don’t Escape From

In this episode of the Unravel Pod, Stephanie and Tierra engage in a heartfelt conversation with guest Tobias Devon about the journey from being hidden to gaining influence. They explore themes of authenticity, the challenges of navigating social media, the importance of humility, and the power of childhood dreams. Tobias shares his personal experiences and insights on maintaining one's identity amidst criticism and the significance of a strong relationship with God. The discussion emphasizes the idea that elevation often comes after moments of humiliation and that one's story can be a powerful testimony of redemption and growth.

00:00 Introduction and Setting the Tone

07:54 Authenticity and the Power of Identity

09:51 Navigating Criticism and Staying True to Self

13:29 The Challenges of Being in the Spotlight

17:23 Dealing with Past Shame and Humiliation

21:53 The Role of Repentance and Redemption

24:39 Maintaining Humility During Elevation

29:43 The Importance of Intimacy with God

40:13 Final Thoughts and Encouragement

41:00 Introduction to the Conversation

41:00 Exploring Key Themes

If you’ve ever been told you’re “doing too much,” or “being too much.” This episode is for you. In this episode of The Unraveled Pod, we get real about where the “too much” label comes from, how childhood experiences quietly shape our self-perception, and why so many of us grew up becoming expert people-pleasers with terrible boundaries.

We share our own stories of being misunderstood, over-edited, and slowly learning how to like ourselves without apology. You are not too emotional, too intense, or too deep. You were never too much. You were just in rooms that couldn’t hold you.

Chapters

00:00 Introduction to 'Too Much' and Self-Acceptance

02:59 Personal Experiences with Being 'Too Much'

05:42 The Impact of Childhood on Self-Perception

08:58 Navigating Relationships and Authenticity

11:51 The Struggle with People-Pleasing

14:47 Understanding Boundaries and Kindness

17:50 The Role of Critics and Self-Validation

20:38 Embracing Your True Self

23:30 The Importance of Community and Support

26:27 Final Thoughts on Authenticity and Self-Love

Ever found yourself crafting the perfect clapback… then wondering if it was worth it? In this episode, we’re getting all the way into it. Tierra and Stephanie unpack what it really costs spiritually, emotionally, and mentally when we react out of ego instead of wisdom. From the temptation to defend ourselves to the power of silence, we explore what it means to confront with emotional intelligence, maturity, and spiritual discernment.

We’re talking: • The difference between being passive and being still

• How prayer can shift your posture before a conflict even begins

• Why sometimes the strongest response is no response

• Jesus as the blueprint for composure under pressure

• Choosing healing over the high of the comeback

Stay connected + Work with us: Tierra Sade Certified Disruption Coach | Speaker | Creator Helping high-functioning believers break toxic cycles, reset their confidence, and live boldly in purpose. Follow: @thetierrasade on IG & @tierrasade on TikTok Shop: Disruption Decks: disruptionshop.myshopify.com/

Stephanie Alexis Licensed Mental Health Therapist | Founder of Arabella Counseling Serving residents across Texas with compassionate, client centered services Follow: @officialstephaniealexis on IG & TikTok Book a Session or Learn More: www.arabellacouns.com

Episode Breakdown: 00:00 – Welcome to The Unraveled Pod 00:56 – The Cost of Clapping Back 05:59 – Maturity in Responses 09:59 – Spiritual Growth and Clapping Back 18:03 – God's Perspective on Conflict 20:23 – The Challenge of Winning in Humility 21:15 – Dying to Self: The Path to True Victory 22:37 – Confrontation and Identity: A Personal Journey 24:41 – Surrendering to God's Will in Conflict 26:30 – The Strength of Composure: Jesus as Our Model 27:46 – Emotional Regulation: The Key to Healthy Responses 28:05 – The Psychological Impact of Passivity 29:20 – Living in Fight or Flight: The Cost of Defensiveness 30:41 – The Need for Rest: Breaking the Cycle of Survival 31:47 – Navigating Confrontation: When to Speak Up 33:34 – The Importance of Assertive Communication 35:33 – Practicing Emotional Regulation in Conflict 37:55 – Seeking Compassion: A Shift in Perspective 39:15 – Establishing Boundaries: Knowing When to Walk Away 40:43 – Strategizing Confrontation: Seeking Divine Guidance