In this episode of The Validation Lounge I talk to Dr Emily Duval Psy.D., LPCC (CA), MBACP (UK).

Emily is a Suicide Postvention Specialist, she is co- chair of the San Diego Suicide Prevention Council Post-Vention sub committee. A Psychotherapist working in private telehealth, an Executive Coach and she also works for the San Diego Beharvioral health services.

Emily was a contributing editor to the book. A Winding Road: A Handbook for Those Supporting the Suicide Bereaved, John Peters and Michelle Linn-Gust.

If the content of this podcast is upsetting for you and you would like to access further support these organisations may be of help:

Survivors of Bereavement by Suicide (UK) www.uk-sobs.org.uk

Sibling Survivors of Suicide http://siblingsurvivors.com Online Forum http://www.allianceofhope.org

TERMS TO AVOID, REASONS AND PREFERRED PHRASING

“Successful/failed attempt”: This presents a confusing message about the outcome. Use “death by suicide”.

“Committed suicide”: This implies a criminal offense. The preferred phrasing is “died by suicide”. “Completed suicide”: This is more common in academic research or healthcare settings when making distinctions with “attempted suicide”.

For conversational purposes, “died by Suicide” is recommended.

“Triggered”: With the high number of firearm deaths, the preferred term is “activated.”

Figure 12. Table referencing use of sensitive language for suicide. (Duval, 2020)

References for content discussed:

Family Systems Therapy explanation: https://www.psychologytoday.com/gb/therapy-types/family-systems-therapy

Integrative Therapy explanation: https://www.verywellmind.com/integrative-therapy-definition-types-techniques-and-efficacy-5201904

James Gilligan book ‘Violence’

Peter Levine ‘Waking the Tiger’

Piero Ferrucci - quote ‘Eliminate Something superfluous from your life. Break a habit. Do something that makes you feel insecure. Carry out an action with complete attention and intensity, as if it were your last’

This podcast was recorded a while back when Donald Trump was president

Sanjay Kumar Part 2: Continuing the discussion with Sanjay.

This discussion/podcast is split into two parts.

Part 1: In this episode I talk to Sanjay Kumar who is now back in Bangalore in India (where he grew up) after living in London for 17 years. Whilst in the UK he trained to be a psychotherapist and worked specialising in supporting gay men and also offered bereavement therapy.

This episode was recorded before the horrendous spread of Covid in India. Before the full episode we have a brief discussion on this (recorded more recently) as Sanjay and I felt it would be appropriate to acknowledge the effects of Covid in his country.

Here are details for 2 charities working on the ground in India supporting families affected by Covid if you would like to help out:

https://www.khalsaaid.org/news/india-covid-relief

https://www.ketto.org

If you would like to work with Sanjay you can get in touch with him via the following sites:

https://www.facebook.com/positivetherapytoday

https://www.instagram.com/positivetherapytoday/

Definitions and information about various things we discuss in the show:

Integrative: A model of Therapy that draws from several modalities.

Existential: https://www.counselling-directory.org.uk/existential-therapy.html

Phenomenology: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Phenomenology_(philosophy)

Humanistic: https://www.counselling-directory.org.uk/humanistic.html

Mindfulness: https://www.mindful.org/meditation/mindfulness-getting-started/

Vipassana Meditation: https://www.dhamma.org/en/about/vipassana

Gaie Houston: http://www.gaiehouston.co.uk

PACE: PACE Health, one of the oldest LGBT charities in London, offered therapeutic and advocacy services to the community, sadly closed in 2014.

Loving Men: https://www.lovingmen.org

Welcome to the third episode of The Validation Lounge with Phil Georgiou.

Each episode of The Validation Lounge looks at what contributes to self - esteem with different professionals who work with people; counsellors, therapist, mediators and coaches, amongst others.

Phil Georgiou grew up in the UK from a mixed culture family and has lived and worked across Europe and the middle east. Initially beginning his working life in recruitment, Phil went on to work in the television industry before later retraining as an integrative Psychotherapist, counselor, consultant and trainer. Phil is now based in Rome, Italy.

Phil is fascinated by what makes us tick as human beings, and how this constantly changes throughout our lives. He believes that feeling good is like creating a great recipe. We first have to identify and source the best ‘ingredients’ which cater to our own individual needs. We then carefully work to bring them together in the right amounts at the right time in order to achieve good emotional health and wellbeing.

In addition to running a busy therapy practice Phil is the founder and director of two companies, Mondo Equilibrio and mindhamok.com. These offer 24/7 Emotional Support Helplines and Crisis Management consultancy to international students, universities and organizations with operations in Italy, Spain, France, Switzerland and the UK.

Mindamok: https://mindhamok.com

This explains Existential Psychotherapy: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nMJQGQsXd9w

For an explanation of Phenomenology: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=d5geMLe5tbM

This explains Gestalt Psychotherapy: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GBl14hIqDwc

Psycho analysis: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pXpzRTzMsXU

EMDR: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=37I3sqflU_k

This is an in depth article on Family Systems Therapy: https://www.goodtherapy.org/learn-about-therapy/types/family-systems-therapy

More info on Person Centred Therapy – created by Carl Rogers: https://www.counselling-directory.org.uk/person-centred-therapy.html#whatispersoncentredcounselling

The book ‘Against Empathy, The Case For Rational Compassion – Paul Bloom’

Ego: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ERWBqIJaecY

and ego states https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LFGZgbta764

Marcus Aurelius: https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/

and Marcus_Aurelius?fbclid=IwAR0d0M86urrgjGTBmdF9NBdlpSjftan53DFpWOELbg8zMiQxoP7HcjZqs50

Attachment theory: https://www.verywellmind.com/what-is-attachment-theory-2795337

I also make reference to the excellent book on trauma ‘The Body Keeps The Score’ by Bessel Van der Kalk.

Having a positive view of ourselves and confidence in our strengths and abilities are big factors in how happy and successful we are in life.

Each episode of The Validation Lounge looks at what contributes to self -  esteem with different professionals who work with people; counsellors, therapist, mediators and coaches, amongst others.

In this episode I continue to explore validation and self worth with Melissa Cliffe.

Melissa is a Gestalt Psychotherapist who works with individuals, couples and groups in East London. She specialises in working with midlife issues and has a particular interest in how changes in appearance affect our sense of self. She teaches on the Humanistic Psychotherapy MSc at Metanoia Institute.

She has been featured in Psychologies Magazine, the New Psychotherapist, Marie Claire, the Metro and Bustle.

You can find her at:

Website: http://www.ameaningfulmidlife.com

Twitter: @hello_midlife

Facebook: www.facebook.com/ameaningfulmidlife

Instagram: ameaningfulmidlife

This Youtube video gives a brief explanation of Gestalt Therapy:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GBl14hIqDwc

For more information on Karl Jung please have a look at this:

https://www.britannica.com/biography/Carl-Jung

For more information on Mindfulness here is a short video:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JDSIfNLlFds

Here is an explanation of Integrative Therapy:

https://www.psychologytoday.com/gb/therapy-types/integrative-therapy

Here is a dictionary definition of introversion:

https://dictionary.cambridge.org/dictionary/english/introvert

And here is more information about highly sensitive people:

https://hsperson.com

Having a positive view of ourselves and confidence in our strengths and abilities are big factors in how happy and successful we are in life.

However self worth is often one of the areas that we struggle with and If we lack this it can have a negative impact on all aspects of our lives and it can determine how well we cope in the face of adversity.

Each spisode of the validation lounge looks at what contributes to low self esteem with different professionals who work with people; counsellors, therapists, mediators and coaches, amongst others.

In this episode we discuss what contributes to our self esteem and self worth. Sarah Fox is a coach and mentor with over 20 years of working in the arts and beyond.

If you are interested in working with Sarah, she offers both group and individual coaching and you can find her at http://sarahfox.co.uk.

This is the link for the Martin Seligman questionnaire that Sarah refers to: Institute on Character http://viacharacter.org.

Brene Brown (https://brenebrown.com) is a researcher with an interest in shame and vulnerablity. A good starting point to learn more about her work are her Ted Talks The Power of Vulnerability (https://brenebrown.com/videos/ted-talk-the-power-of-vulnerability) and Listening to Shame (https://brenebrown.com/videos/ted-talk-listening-to-shame).

I make reference to the theories of Donald Winnicott – for more information on him watch this video by The School of Life: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZaZkvvB367I

Do get in touch if you have any queries regarding this episode – [email protected]

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