Othering is ancient. Archaic. And yet... it's everywhere. Even in love. Especially in love.

In this episode, we explore how our most intimate relationships become battlegrounds for the unconscious process of Othering—a deep-rooted survival instinct that tells us: “Different is dangerous.” But what happens when that “different” is your partner?

We unpack:🔍 What Othering really is—and why your brain is wired to do it🧠 Why the honeymoon phase always ends (hello, Chris Rock's "representative" theory)💔 How our early family dynamics shape what kind of “Other” we’re drawn to—or repelled by📚 Insights from James Hollis, Jessica Benjamin & David Schnarch on projection, intimacy, and the myth of sameness💡 How to move beyond fear of the Other and build relationships rooted in curiosity, difference, and mutual respect

If you’ve ever felt distant from your partner, frustrated by their “true colors,” or stuck in the cycle of misrecognition—this episode is for you.

Because love doesn’t mean collapsing into sameness—it means learning to see and stay with the Other.

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If you've ever felt lost in your relationships—stuck in patterns, misunderstood, or unsure of who you are beneath it all—this episode is for you. Inspired by Jungian analyst James Hollis, we explore the idea that the Self isn’t a fixed identity, but a lifelong journey.

💡 The Self, as Hollis says, is not something we possess—it’s something we move toward. It’s the quiet call to grow, to evolve, and to live more authentically. But when we lead with ego, fear, or past wounds, we block the very intimacy we crave.

This episode dives into the unseen forces shaping your connections—and how knowing yourself better might just be the key to loving others more deeply.

In this episode, our founder sits down to say thank you to McGill's Consulting Academy and the students who participated in the case competition this past week. She also brainstorms about marketing, brand value, imagination, and what it means to build a brand. She talks about Nike, Apple, Coca Cola, and how big ideas and big feelings define a brand's success.

In today's episode, our founder sits down with Danial Savad ("Dani Boi'") to explore everything under the sun — attraction, dating, open relationships, getting the "ick", jealousy, pornography, sexual variety, Andrew Tate, the Madonna / Whore complex and toxic masculinity. With openness and honesty this young GenZ / millenial guy dives deep and describes how he sees the world and why. Tune into this episode to be shocked, to laugh, to have fun, and to potentially learn something you didn't know about yourself, too.

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In this episode, our founder walks you through Tom Ford's incredible film Nocturnal Animals — and explains why this aesthetic beauty of a cinematic masterpiece has important relationship lessons for all of us. As the plot of the film unfolds, we learn how betrayals and emotional wounds can be as painful as physical wounds. This film will change the way you think about relationships, and how you treat the people you love.

This week's episode examines the toxic formula dating apps have been profiting from and why it's hurting you more than helping. We compare dating apps to VLVT, the first relationship support platform on the market — and discuss how we're on the cutting edge of introducing a new and important concept into the culture: relationship health.

In this week's podcast, our founder gives us a glimpse into the fundraising process. She talks about why startup life can be tough, what motivates the VLVT team to innovate, and why hearing a potential investor say "no" never, ever discourages her. This episode is required listening if you want an intimate look behind the curtain of what happens in the life cycle of a startup at its early stage. Reach out to her if you know an innovative, disruptive investor who's looking to change the world: [email protected]

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In this episode, our founder sits down with America’s Marriage Crisis Manager — Doctor Becky Whetstone, PhD, a Marriage and Family therapist from Arkansas, USA. They discuss how to finesse a relationship crisis, the importance of mental and relationship health support during difficult moments, why your own personal growth is integral to your relationship & what a midlife crisis really is. They also hypothesize as to why men who may be open or poly still chase monogamous women, how sexual attitudes have changed from the Titanic’s voyage to now, and the pros & cons of polyamory. This episode is necessary listening if you’re seeking better self-regulation in your management of conflict, arguments, or difficult moments in your relationship.

Trigger Warning: This episode contains themes of physical abuse and domestic violence.

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In this week’s episode, our founder does a deep dive into hostage negotiation with FBI-trained SWAT Team Negotiator Terry Tucker. Together they investigate tactics such as asking “what” and “how” — and why those questions are more productive than asking “why.” Retired Police Sergeant Tucker also explores power dynamics when negotiating, body language and tactical empathy. Most of all, Terry describes how close relationships and his three F’s (faith, family & friends) have been instrumental in his success — and survival. This episode is necessary listening if you want to become a better negotiator, in business, life and love.

Trigger Warning: This episode contains discussion of domestic violence, suicide, hostages, and firearms.

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Tune into Global Dating Insight's The GDI Podcast on Apple, Spotify and anywhere else you get your fix to hear our Founder & CEO Connie Perl discuss VLVT's business model and brand with the online dating world's prominent reporter Sean Nolan. Together they explore the necessity of emotional intelligence, gender dynamics in the dating world, how sexy AI is in the tech & startup world and how VLVT plans on remaining human-centric as we begin to prepare for our pre-seed raise.

Global Dating Insights (GDI) is the leading source of news, information and analysis for the online dating industry. The site serves a highly engaged trade audience of over 30,000 unique monthly visitors, and is read in over 100 countries.

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