You’re not just marrying someone at their strongest—you’re marrying their weaknesses too.If you’ve ever wondered, “How do I know if they can handle hard times?” this episode is for you.We’re showing Christian singles and dating couples how to look beyond chemistry, comfort, and church talk to see if the person you’re dating can stay faithful, steady, and emotionally safe when life gets heavy.You’ll learn how to:- Recognize emotional maturity in dating (self-awareness, accountability, resilience)- Spot red flags under pressure—blame-shifting, defensiveness, or escaping into sin- Ask questions that reveal how they handle weakness, stress, and correction- Discern whether to stay, pause, or release the relationship- Invite God and community into your decision-makingBecause being a Christian doesn’t automatically mean someone is ready for godly love.You need someone who’s not just fun when things are easy—but faithful when things get hard.Scriptures referenced: Proverbs 17:17, Ecclesiastes 4:9-12, James 5:16, Psalm 34:8CHAPTERS00:00 Marrying strengths and weaknesses00:56 Why this matters beyond “best friend”03:05 When friendship cracks under pressure04:39 Evaluating maturity—not just “they’re Christian”06:28 Pressure exposes habits & boundaries09:39 Signs of maturity: triggers, transparency, trust19:05 Red flags: escape, victim mindset, refuses correction27:01 How to discern with God & community28:10 Boundaries in practice + past patterns30:04 Consequences vs. emotional safetyIf you’re searching for Christian dating advice, godly relationship red flags, emotional maturity in dating, how to choose a godly spouse, or Christian boundaries in relationships, this episode gives you a biblical, practical lens to evaluate character before marriage—so you can build love that lasts.

You’re dating… but you don’t feel known. Why?Because attraction ≠ foundation. In this episode we tell the truth about why so many Christian couples rush commitment, feel lonely inside relationships, and what to do instead: build friendship first—the kind that carries you through grief, job loss, postpartum, and pressure.What you’ll learn:- How to tell infatuation from real emotional connection- The 3 friendship builders: Talk, Play, Observe (with examples)- Culture & church traps: “we vibe,” community pressure, attraction + prayer = readiness- How to course-correct if you already skipped friendship- What happens if you don’t face this—and the benefits when you do- How to trust God at every stage without performingScripture anchors: Proverbs 17:17; Ecclesiastes 4:9–12; Psalm 34:8Who this is for: Single or dating Christians who want a marriage that feels like peace, partnership, and friendship—not pressure and performance.Chapters00:00 – Hook: Attraction without connection = loneliness00:56 – Welcome to The W Podcast (why you should care)02:34 – The cost of skipping friendship (alone in a relationship)04:35 – Culture traps: vibes, butterflies, “we just click”06:58 – Church traps: rushing, pressure, attraction + prayer ≠ readiness09:58 – Why quick engagements can hide unknowns11:50 – Friendship is what holds when life hits (grief, job loss, postpartum)13:35 – Men need friendship too (Tim to the guys)15:00 – Build it #1: Talk like friends (curious, real questions)18:22 – Build it #2: Play like friends (low-pressure, laughter = safety)19:59 – Build it #3: Observe like friends (groups, stress, consistency)21:50 – Date long enough to see (environments vs. fancy dinners)24:46 – Spiritual discernment: do they obey God when no one’s watching?27:53 – Already skipped friendship? How to slow down & reorient30:45 – New rhythms, new boundaries, new experiences32:12 – If you don’t do this: performance, feeling unsafe, regret33:55 – If you do: you’ll enjoy each other, be real, and still feel close36:06 – Romance = cherry on top; friendship = meat & potatoes37:05 – The house analogy: curb appeal vs. inspection (foundation)38:25 – Trust God + invite community into your process38:54 – Final encouragement & share/subscribe CTARelated episode: Don’t Say Yes Until You Ask These Questions (how to ask stage-by-stage questions)

Stop letting surface-level assumptions blind you to lasting love.In this episode of The W Podcast, Tim & Pauline unpack the 7 green flags you’re ignoring in dating as a Christian. These are the overlooked qualities that don’t always feel “exciting” at first—like friendship, loyalty, or peace—but actually hold marriages together for the long run.If you’ve ever said things like:“We’re just too good of friends.”“They’re okay, but just not my type.”“Their page is boring.”“They’re a dry texter.”“The chemistry wasn’t there.”…then this video will challenge how you see attraction, help you date with clarity, and remind you what really matters for a godly relationship.What You’ll Learn in This Episode:The difference between sparks vs. substance in Christian dating- Why “your type” might be keeping you single longer than necessary- How emotional safety and peace are overlooked signs of attraction- Why social media doesn’t define someone’s real life or walk with God- How God’s standards of love often look different from cultural dating standardsWhy This Matters for Christian Singles:Dating advice often focuses on red flags. But the truth is, many Christian singles are overlooking people who would make great husbands or wives—because the world has discipled us to chase sparks, chemistry, and surface-level attraction.God looks at the heart (1 Samuel 16:7). When you learn to spot green flags, you’ll move from shallow connections to Christ-centered relationships that actually last.

We took a road trip to Chicago for our friend’s wedding 💍 — but somewhere between the playlists, deep dish pizza, The Bean, and traffic, we ended up learning a lot about love, marriage, and what dating really prepares you for.

Back when we were dating, we only ever did day trips as a Christian couple. No overnight vacations, no big getaways. At the time it felt small, but now that we’re married, we’re so grateful for it. This vlog is part road trip, part storytime, and part relationship wisdom — showing you why every Christian couple needs trips like this before marriage.

👉 Whether you’re dating, engaged, or newly married, this road trip vlog is packed with:

• Real conversations you can ask your partner on long drives 🚗

• Why “traveling before marriage” matters (and what we learned from only doing day trips)

• Behind-the-scenes of a Chicago wedding weekend 🎉

• Fun stops: Giordano’s deep dish pizza 🍕, Starbucks Reserve ☕, and The Bean ✨

We pray this encourages you to date fun & holy, stay pure, and build the kind of relationship that lasts.

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Some of you want a godly relationship more than you want to be godly. This is the 10% your friends won’t say out loud. In today’s episode, we share 10 hard truths about Christian dating—the stuff that actually breaks cycles: real boundaries, real wisdom, real community, and real holiness. If you’re tired of vague “vibes” and churchy clichés, this will give you clarity and a plan.What you’ll learn:- How to stop mistaking disobedience for discernment- Why church attendance ≠ character (look for fruit, not a vibe)- Emotional purity vs. attention-seeking (“flirting for validation”)- How to set godly dating boundaries that protect your future marriage- The difference between habits and fruit (results you can see)- Why holiness might cost you dates—but can save you from divorce- How to prepare in singleness so you don’t repeat cycles in marriageIf this convicts you, good. Conviction is a gift, not a punishment. Let’s get free and build love God’s way.👥 New here? We help Christian singles and couples date with fun + holiness—and build marriages that last.▶️ Watch next:• Boundaries That Actually Work in Christian Dating• Red Flags Christians Ignore (and Why)• How to Involve Mentors & Community the Right WayCHAPTERS:00:00 Godly Relationship vs. Being Godly00:38 Why Hard Truth Matters02:17 Conviction Is a Gift03:00 Goal: Honor God in Dating04:12 Media Shapes Love Views04:55 #1 Red Flags vs. Fake Peace08:24 #2 Church ≠ Character12:10 #3 Want Godly Love, Be Godly15:04 #4 Stop Shrinking Yourself19:49 #5 Don’t Lead People On20:53 #6 God Won’t Bless Secrets23:47 #7 Dating Isn’t Your Purpose26:57 #8 Waiting ≠ Doing Nothing29:24 #9 Ask “Am I Ready?”30:29 #10 Holiness Breaks Cycles35:46 Honoring God Isn’t a Loss36:43 Final EncouragementChristian dating advice, godly relationship, Christian boundaries, emotional purity, Christian red flags, dating with purpose, Christian singles, how to date as a Christian, Christian relationship podcast, how to set boundaries in dating, Christian mentorship and accountability, holiness in dating, fruit of the Spirit dating, Christian YouTube couple👍 If this helped: like, comment “REAL,” and share with a friend who’s ready to grow.🔔 Subscribe for weekly wisdom that’s fun & holy.

Are you in the talking stage and wondering what questions you should ask (and when to ask them)? 👀Too many Christians either avoid the real conversations out of fear—or go too deep too soon and kill the vibe. In this episode, Tim & Pauline break down how to ask intentional questions in dating without coming across as interrogating.You’ll learn:✅ Why asking the right questions in the talking stage is crucial for clarity✅ How to avoid wasting months in a situationship✅ The best timing and tone for deeper conversations✅ What happens if you ignore red flags vs. the benefits of leaning into truth✅ How to trust God at every stage of datingThis is the episode we wish we had before we started dating each other. 💬If you want to date with clarity, confidence, and faith—this one’s for you.

Are you ready to say yes to forever—or are you stepping into engagement without clarity? 💍Cold feet don’t start on the wedding day. They start when we avoid the hard questions in the engagement stage.In this episode, we’re sharing 9 essential questions every couple needs to ask before getting engaged. These are the questions that protect you from heartbreak, build confidence at the altar, and help you walk into marriage with peace instead of doubt.Whether you’re dating seriously, considering engagement, or already engaged and want to make sure you’re on the right track—this conversation will give you wisdom, clarity, and confidence in your next step.What you’ll learn in this episode:✅ Why confidence in marriage is really about preparation✅ The difference between chemistry and tested character✅ How to avoid cold feet by asking the right questions early✅ Why community, mentors, and prayer matter more than vibes✅ The one thing that’s worse than a breakup before engagement💡 Remember: It’s better to pause an engagement than to enter a marriage unprepared. Clarity now protects your covenant later.CHAPTERS0:00 – Why confidence in marriage comes from preparation0:40 – Welcome to the W Podcast 🎙️1:00 – The peace of asking hard questions before engagement2:20 – Why cold feet don’t have to be your story3:00 – Dating today: vibes vs. interrogation4:10 – Tested faith, tested relationships (Kobe Bryant)6:30 – Why you need at least one year of dating before marriage7:50 – Engagement isn’t just about the wedding planning8:26 – Question #1: Am I staying out of peace or fear of starting over?11:00 – Question #2: If I started from scratch, would I still choose them?13:40 – Question #3: Do I feel closer to God in this relationship?18:01 – Question #4: Have I been honest with mentors about my doubts?20:44 – Question #5: Am I settling in areas I swore I wouldn’t?24:06 – Question #6: Have we grown through conflict—or just survived it?25:03 – What happens when you avoid the hard stuff27:04 – What happens when you lean in30:28 – Question #7: Are we maturing or just managing dysfunction?35:05 – Question #8: Am I marrying their reality or my fantasy?40:59 – Question #9: If this ended tomorrow, could I say I honored God?44:59 – Why protecting your dating season matters for marriage46:01 – A breakup hurts, but marrying the wrong person is worse47:28 – Final encouragement + invitation to communityLETS CONNECT🎙️ Subscribe for more Christian dating + marriage advice💌 DM us on Instagram with your biggest takeaway: @wearejustdating 🎧 Listen on Spotify & Apple PodcastsChristian dating advice, talking stage questions, Christian singles, godly dating, questions to ask before dating, avoid situationships, how to know if they’re the one, emotional safety in dating, Christian relationships, dating with wisdom

There are some things that look spiritual on the surface—but they’re actually sabotaging your dating life. 😬

In this episode, we’re sharing 7 things godly people do NOT do in dating—and how you can avoid falling into these same traps. This is for anyone who loves Jesus, wants a godly relationship, but feels confused, stuck, or tired of doing it the world’s way.

Dating as a Christian can be confusing, exhausting, and honestly—lonely.You’re doing it God’s way, trying to stay pure, and trusting His timing… but deep down, you’ve got real fears, unspoken prayers, and questions that won’t go away.In this episode, we’re getting real about the silent battles and loud fears so many Christian singles face—but rarely say out loud.And we’ll share what we believe Jesus might lovingly say back to your honest thoughts.You’ll hear:• What to do when you feel unseen, lonely, or behind• How to date with vision and not just vibes• Why purity and obedience still matter (even when no one else seems to care)• What happens when you’re not honest with God, yourself, or your community• What singleness can look like when it’s on purpose and with purposeWhether you’re dating, healing, or just trying to hold onto hope—this one’s for you.You are not alone, and your season is not being wasted.🖤 Keep it real.🖤 Keep trusting God.🖤 And always—keep it fun & holy.Chapters:00:00 – Intro: When Being Holy Feels Like Being Invisible03:00 – Why Singles Feel Overlooked (Even When Obeying God)06:13 – The Ache You’re Afraid to Admit16:50 – What Jesus Might Say to Your Deepest Fears23:10 - Practical Steps to Navigate Your Emotions in a Healthy Way26:45 – Why Your Obedience Will Never Be Wasted29:20 – Final Encouragement + Prayer

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