This podcast post states what questions to ask to determine if your current relationship can be transitioned into a marriage to a provider.
First THANK HIM for meeting with you and thank him for his responses to your question.
Second DO NOT Get emotional. You are changing NOT him.
Third be prepared with a list of bills you would like him to pay every month to relieve you of financial stress. Also explain you would like to be more feminine in your behavior with him but you feel tired and run down. Let him tell you what he expects in a wife if he pays bills. Say yes ONLY when you feel that financial weight has been lifted and secured by him as your soon to be spouse or live in boyfriend.
If your unsure, he should pay ALL bills for RENT, Renters Insurance, Utilities, Cable and Internet, Car loan and Insurance (especially if he drives your car) and Date Night. This is the minimum if he has set the date for wedding. If he wants to do more LET HIM.
Live In boyfriend? The same minimum with hair, nails, and past debt payoff included. For relationships that are 2 years old or more at the time you listen to post with no marriage in sight.