The Warrior Life - Overcoming The Mental and Physical Battles of Life

Name of Expert:

Melissa Leger

Why I Believe This Person Is A Warrior:

Is one of my saving warriors. She saved me during a time in my life when I was drowning. During my craptastic month in 2015, she heard me talking about my many, many issues I was dealing with. She immediately texted me and asked how she could help. Before we finished our texting conversation she had already scheduled housekeepers to come to my house and clean it the next day. She did this while living 3000 miles away from me.

I tell you this story because you can clearly see Melissa’s heart in her actions. She truly wants to help people and doesn’t want anything in return, that’s why I believe she is a warrior.

Who They Are & Something Only The People Closest To Them Know:

Melissa started going to therapy in 2008 because of a major heartbreak and fell in love with it. That began her journey that led to her book now. She watches Friends before bed.

Their Battle, Mentally Or Physically, They Fought And Came Out A Warrior:

After all her years of bad relationships, she didn't realize that she was dating the wrong guy over and over again. She dated one guy 3 different times and realized she needed to make a change.

Warrior They Look Up To:

She looks up to her mom immensely. Her mom had to get a divorce from her dad and had to start over. She ended up starting from ground 0 and built herself and her girls up. It was a warrior decision to leave a comfortable, bad situation to take control of her life and accomplish her dreams while raising a family.

Heart Of The Interview:

Before we dive deep into this interview Melissa asks for you to listen to this with an open mind especially if you are in a relationship. Melissa believes there are two people when you are dating, those that want attention and those that want love. Melissa calls the people that are always drawn to attention is called gumball. When you are dating or around a gumball person you can get wrapped up into this and get lost in it. You are giving your all to those relationships, but they aren’t getting all back. Melissa talks more about this, how to be aware of this, and what to do about if you are dating someone like this.

What Being A Warrior Means To Them:

It’s about getting up every time you get beat down.

Their Greatest Life Lesson Learned:

Her greatest lesson is to always choose to live your authentic life versus how society believes you should live.

Where You Can Find Them:

Twitter: @Melissaleger

Periscope: @Melissaleger

Instagram: @melissaleger

Website: www.melissaleger.com or www.gumballlove.com

Facebook: www.facebook.com/coachmelissaleger

“I can’t worry about my diet right now...there’s too much going on”.

Have you ever said this or something like this?

Or have you said…

“I will get back to it next month. Right now I need to focus on ________.”

I have heard that many, many times and honestly I get it. When life is throwing you deadlines, family crap, and so much more it’s hard to think about working out and prepping your food.

I understand you may need to take a break from your diet, but my job as your coach is to give it to you straight...

You can’t take a break from your diet just like you can’t take a break from your life.

I’m going to share with you why in the show today.

Links To Additional Resources:

Tired of the Holiday Diet Struggle Blog & Podcast

What To Do When Everything Is Out Of Control Blog & Podcast

3 Days to Overcome Overwhelm

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Do you feel like you need 4 more hours in the day?

Does the thought of creating a to-do list freak you out?

Do you feel overwhelmed with your family crisis and deadlines that are all happening at the same time?

Today I want to take a break from writing about diet and fitness to talk to you about something that we all experience no matter how hard we try to avoid it and that’s STRESS.

The month of December is quite possibly the most stressful time of the year. Not only is the year ending, which may cause a bunch of end of the year deadlines at but it’s also supposed to be the “happiest time of the year”.

What does that include? It is full of…

• -family get-togethers
• -Christmas parties
• -presents, buying, wrapping, giving

All those various activities take time and can cause STRESS trying to get it all done. On top of trying to get it all done some kind of family drama or friendship situation somehow arises leading to more STRESS that eventually causes the inevitable OVERWHELM.

That’ what I want to talk about today.

Links To Additional Resources:

3 Days to Overcome Overwhelm

Tired of the Holiday Diet Struggle Blog & Podcast

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Link To Blog:

Tired Of The Holiday Diet Struggle

Free Stuff:

10 Tips You Need to Know BEFORE You Diet

On average people gain 5-10 pounds during the holiday.

How does that make you feel?

Are your first thoughts...yep, that sounds right or that’s going to happen to me.

Do you resign yourself to the fact that you are going to gain weight during the holidays?

Do you fight it or accept it?

Do you think it’s inevitable?

Honestly, there are times when I really feel like it is inevitable.

Holiday weight gain is avoidable, but it take you being honest with yourself.

Here are my 3 ways to avoid the dreaded holiday weight gain…

Links To Additional Resources:

How Running Saved My Life and How it Can Save Your Podcast

Tips on How to Avoid Sabotaging Your Diet at a Party Blog

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What are you eating for Thanksgiving?

Do you have one dish that you look forward to all year?

• Is it...mom’s turkey?
• Is it...your aunt’s casserole?
• Is it...your grandma’s pumpkin pie?

Maybe you are looking forward to all that and more!!

According the Calorie Control Council an average American consumes 4500 calories and 229 grams of fat on Thanksgiving.

That’s mind blowing crazy!!!

Did I get your attention yet?

There are several reasons why I believe this happens. Here are few of my theories

1. The day is centered around food so it seems inevitable.
2. Some of those dishes you only have once a year so if you don’t eat it then you will miss out.
3. People suffer from “last meal” mentality.

You might be thinking what the heck is “last meal” mentality. It’s something I came up with to describe when people gorge themselves at a meal that they will never have ever again.

Here are a couple signs and symptoms to know if you have suffered from this…

• you go back for extra servings when you are already stuffed beyond belief
• you know going into the meal you are going to overeat
• you already have excuses or justifications if guilt starts to seep into your head

Does any of that sound familiar?

Most people that suffer from this wake up the next day feeling disgusting, guilty, and possibly regretting it. Also it oftentimes leads to greater weight gain because it goes into the “F*** it” mentality (wanna know about that then click here) or reverses any progresses you may have had.

The “last meal” mentality usually hinders people more than helps people.

Now, I’ve already wrote a blog on how to avoid eating a lot at parties. If you want to learn some tips and tricks to avoid that then click here.

I want to talk to you about what to do if you are suffering from “last meal” mentality.

Before I get started I want you to know I suffer from this too. It happens to me on Thanksgiving, Christmas, my birthday and other holidays. These tips originated because I needed them and then I started sharing them with others when I saw they had the same problem.

Links To Additional Resources:

-Help! I just Ate Everything In Sight- Blog & Podcast

-7 Ways To Avoid Sabotaging Your Diet At Parties

-FREE Diet Book through my Game On! Challenge

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Have you ever…

Those words bring me back to high school and college days. Anyone else play that game? It was a silly game where you say “have your ever…” and then fill with something crazy and ridiculous like “ate a sandwich while in a pool” or “ran butt naked through your college campus”. If you had done what the person said then you stood up or in college you took a shot.

Let’s play that game right now!!

Take a shot of water if you have done any of these things.

Have you ever…

-tried to lose weight for a dress you have to wear

-tried to lose weight for a reunion you are attending

-tried to lose weight for a vacation you are going on

Did you take a shot yet? Okay, let’s get more personal.

Have you ever...

-tried to lose weight to impress somebody

-tried to lose weight because you were going to see someone you haven’t seen in a long time

-tried to lose weight for a person you were dating

How many shots did you take?

If you have ever done any of these things then…

CONGRATULATIONS!!

You are normal!!

We’ve all done it. Even me.

Links To Additional Resources:

-The Biggest Secret To Sticking To Your Diet

-How Your Mind Can Improve Your Body

-How Running Saved My Life And How It Can Save Yours

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When was the last time you said…

I want to lose weight.

For some of you that was...this morning, last week, or even 5 minutes ago.

I can’t even count how many people have said that to me. In fact when I fly and the person next to me asks me what I do I say I am an accountant because there are not usually many follow-ups to that. However, if I say I’m a weight loss coach then they have a million questions that last the whole flight.

Moral of the story is…

a lot of people want to lose, but not a lot do.

For the longest time, I remember people telling me they want to lose weight. I would say “Great!!” Then I would set them up with everything they needed. I would give them workouts, break down their diet completely so they knew exactly what to eat and what to buy at the grocery store, and I would even give them coaching tools so I could help train them mentally. (If you are thinking I wish I had all that then you can!! Sign up here for my complete weight loss plan.)

Then I would check back in with them and find out they only stuck to the diet for 3 days and their workouts died off after 4 days. I was completely confused. I would get frustrated. I thought I had given them everything they needed, but it wasn’t working.

Then I started to notice people’s habits when they started weight loss programs.

When you have started a new diet or workout have you…

• told your friends so they keep you accountable

• gone to the grocery store with your list to pick out the exact foods you need

• bought new workout clothes

• posted inspirational quotes to your facebook page

• posted a pic on Facebook of your first day or your new diet

• posted a pic on Instagram of your sweaty face after your first workout

Dose any of this sound familiar?

Then after a few days or a week of doing all that your momentum dies down, you start to lack motivation, and then you seem to be right back where you started.

That my friend is called a habit.

Links To Additional Resources:

-My FREE Complete Weight Loss Plan

-How Your Mind Can Improve Your Body Podcast & Blog

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Mom...what’s for dinner?

Do you remember asking that question? My amazing and wonderful mother wasn’t around to cook dinner so for me it was more like “Dad, whatcha cooking?” or “Bro! I’m hungry”. My dad and brother did a lot of the cooking growing up.

Now you might be thinking “that’s a nice antidote but what does that have to do with dieting?” Well, a lot.

I think we can all agree that our childhood and how we were raised plays a huge role in

-who we are

-what we like

-how we communicate

-our habits

-our mentality

-what we eat

-and so much more!!!

Many of the people I meet and work with

have bad habits and mentality towards food

they have no idea where they come from.

They discover through working me that many of those bad habits or mentality come from their childhood. However for them they are so deep-rooted that they don’t even know it.

I’ve always said, “if you want to fix the future then understand the past” (feel free to tweet that at and tag me @michellerosefit). If you don’t understand the past you are doomed to repeat it over and over and over again.

Here are 2 examples of mentality and diet in which your past is preventing you from losing weight and you don’t even know it…

Links To Additional Resources:

-How Your Mind Can Improve Your Body

-How Running Saved My Life And How It Can Save Yours

-www.facebook.com/michellerosefit

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Name of Expert:

Felicia Lateef

Why I Believe This Person Is A Warrior:

Felicia is an incredibly accomplished woman that is helping women improve their lives through holistic nutrition. She has gone through her own cancer scares and has helped other women through theirs by preaching having a positive outlook and focusing on God. Her number one goal is to help people understand that diet is not all about food but rather how you view food.

Who They Are & Something Only The People Closest To Them Know:

She is a graduate of communications, but her passion has always been in fitness or dance. Something very few people know is that she plays the viola. She is getting her masters in holistic nutrition, and is a health coach.

Their Battle, Mentally Or Physically, They Fought And Came Out A Warrior:

After having her daughter, she was struggling to lose weight for the next ten years. Over those years to she developed bad habits of using food as a coping device to deal with a really stressful period. After several cancer scares and discovered she needed to change. She ended up shedding 50 pounds in 6 months and discovered a new way of living!!

Warrior They Look Up To:

Her mom is her greatest warrior. At the time of this recording, she is going through treatments for cancer. Her mom is fighting for her life and keeping a smile on her face. Felicia was able to help her mom eat a holistic diet that ended up helping her treat her cancer!!

Heart Of The Interview:

The goal of holistic nutrition is to look at the person as a whole, not just food. Felicia teaches people that dieting is not about the food you choose but rather how you view food. She helps people discover how their diet plays a huge role in not just their physical health but their mental health as well.

The first tip Felicia shares if you are interested in starting to look at your nutrition in a holistic way then start by taking an inventory in various aspects of your life including friends, family, work, health, and more. After being honest and discovering what areas you are lacking in, then you need to work on bringing those aspects back into balance.

Another great tip that Felicia shares is to discover your excuses and remove them.

The last tip is to fast and pray. She actually fasts every week on Wednesday for the past 3 years. She doesn’t eat all day and it’s part of how she lives. She takes the time that she would normally eat to pray. It reminds her every week that it’s really not about her but God. Now fast and pray doesn’t have to be food. You can fast from social media, TV, and more!! She shares her best tips on how to start fast and pray for yourself. These tips will help you be successful if you try it.

Additional Resources:

Daniel Plan by Rick Warren: http://www.danielplan.com/

Dealing with Shame with Katie Soy: http://www.liveshamefree.com/

What Being A Warrior Means To Them:

She believes it means remembering who you are even when you stumble or fall. Remember to walk in God, and always stay encouraged.

Their Greatest Life Lesson Learned:

To be less controlling and walk in faith.

Where You Can Find Them:

Facebook: Victorious and Holistic Health https://www.facebook.com/Victorious-Holistic-Health-786895401376953/

Email: [email protected]

Twitter: felicia.lateef

Instagram: itsmefelicialynn

Have you ever felt like your diet was consuming your life?

A few years back I made it my New Year's goal to do a bikini competition. Now, a bikini competition is not like a figure or bodybuilding competition. You don't get judged on your athletic endeavors or how big your muscles are. You are being evaluated on the overall package of how your body looks symmetrically while having long lean muscles.

I thought it would be a good goal to work towards because I had never tried anything like that before.

Prior to that, I had run marathons and other races, but I had never entered anything where I was being judged off of how I looked.

I started this goal in January and didn't stop until September. Over those next 9 months, I learned a lot about myself and my diet that I never knew before.

For nine months straight I...

-logged my calories everyday

-only went over my calorie allowance 9 days the whole time

-became obsessed about what I was eating

-had to know where I was going out to eat, so I could prepare and plan my food ahead of time

-refrained from all food that made me happy

-didn't eat my friend's delicious dishes

...did not go a single hour, minute, or day without thinking about my diet.

I was in diet hell.

I'm a very goal driven person. I've also discovered through counseling that I'm a 0-100 person - I'm either all in or all out. During those 9 months I was all in and no one was going to stop me.

I can go into deeper into how those 9 months affected my body another time, but for now I want to stick to how those 9 months of diet hell affected my mind.

After the competition was over I...

-ate everything I felt like I had deprived myself from

-didn't keep track of anything I was eating

-felt like 'I deserved' all food because of how hard I worked

IF you want to know more about whether the 'I deserve it' mentality is sabotaging your diet then click here for my blog about this.

Over the next 3 months, I undid a lot of my hard work I did in 9 months

by gaining 25 pounds

and gorging myself on a weekly basis.

Have you ever done this?

Maybe this is extreme from you. However you do feel like you are in diet hell. You feel like you can never eat what you really want to eat and you think about your food a lot.

Here is my biggest 'aha' moment on how to get yourself out of diet hell and into diet heaven...

Links To Additional Resources:

Do You Suffer From ‘I Deserve It’ Mentality: http://www.michellerosefit.com/do-you-suffer-from-i-deserve-it-dieting-mentality/

Social Media Shame: NEED FUTURE LINK

The Biggest Secret To Sticking To Your Diet: http://www.michellerosefit.com/the-biggest-secret-to-sticking-to-your-diet/

FREE Game On! Challenge (Diet and Fitness Program): www.michellerosefit.com/challenges

What To Eat And When To Eat Blog: http://www.michellerosefit.com/what-to-eat-and-when-to-eat/

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