The Weird Years

If we pool all advice together, we might just survive the weirdness 😅

Welcome back to DECISION CLINIC, where we get into YOUR real listener problems.

In this episode, we are joined by Amy (@beingamykate) — she's a content creator, fitness expert and an all-round solid sounding board for the decisions keeping us up at night in of our 30s.

With Amy, we give hot takes and unqualified (but actually quite helpful) advice on...

✨ A situationship which may (or may not) be getting in the way of finding THE ONE

✨ Is it a terrible idea to have a baby when the world is on fire?

✨ A family fallout brewing for a Christmas nightmare

We are highly unqualified, but but highly invested in helping you working this out.

And if you want to submit to the next DECISION CLINIC, you can submit anonymously HERE or check out our IG.

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If you've ever had a photo pop up in your phone memories, only for your heart to sink because it's THAT friend who isn't a friend anymore, then you get it.

This week I'm joined by my new internet friend (who I'm hoping to convert into a real-life friend), writer and brand consultant Emily Ash Powell, to get deep in our feels about the pain of losing a best friend.

Friendships in your 30s are truly a different feat of logistics, emotional gymnastics and constant questioning of whether you're being a good enough friend. This is the decade when your lives really start to fork off in different directions, and if you don't make a conscious effort to stay close, chances are you'll drift apart.

In this ep, we get into all of it:

✨ Emily's story of going from best friends to barely acquaintances

✨ The big friendship group myth

✨ Why friendship feels so hard in your 30s

✨ How to stay close when you start to drift

P.S. Emily's Substack, Hurdling, is so, so good. I can't recommend it enough. Check it out here and DM us for a free trial of a premium subscription.

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In the words of Jemima Kirke, "I think you might be thinking about yourselves too much"...

I'm not sure exactly when, but sometime in the last few years, we all became highly skilled armchair psychologists. We know our attachment styles, our triggers, our traumas and our small neuroticisms inside out. But is there a case to be made that all this knowledge isn't setting us free like we'd hoped? Instead, maybe the more we search for ways to fix ourselves, the harder it becomes to change?

In this episode, I go deep into the labels we give ourselves and unpack where they're useful and where we need to tread with caution.

✨ Why we're obsessed with psychoanalysing ourselves

✨ How psychological labels shape our identity and behaviour

✨ When self-understanding helps us change — or holds us back

✨ Why we're so quick to label other people (especially in relationships)

✨ How we might have lost sight of the real, raw messiness of the human condition

This might be a bit of a confronting episode, and as always, I want to hear what you really think.

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I want to be fun, but I love to be boring... a confessional episode.

Don't get me wrong, I love my life. I just hate the thought that I’m no longer the fun friend. Maybe you know the feeling—the one that kinda loves it when someone cancels a plan, or lights up with delight when you realise the gig ends at 11pm.

The thing is, though, is this a risky place to be when you also want a life worth remembering?

In this episode, I'm truly deeping it and getting overly honest about...

✨ How Glastonbury tickets sent me down a mini spiral of self-analysis

✨ How I went from a chronic party girl to an in-bed-by-11 girl

✨ The danger of knowing exactly what you like

✨ Why proving you’re still fun after having a baby so often means acting like you haven’t

✨ How to add a bit more life to your days (with an actual psychological phenomenon)

I'm desperate to know I'm not alone on this one, so let's talk about it 👇

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Isn't it nice to snoop into other people's lives and get a very reassuring reminder that it's not just you navigating the trenches of your 30s? 😅

Welcome back to DECISION CLINIC, where we get into YOUR real listener problems.

In this episode, we are joined by Amy (@beingamykate) — she's a content creator, fitness expert, advocate for bigger-busted women and an all-round sound, safe pair of hands for picking apart the tricky decisions of our 30s.

With our gorge guest host, we get into...

✨ A sister fallout dilemma

✨ Someone working out if one kid is enough, or whether they should do round two

✨ The BS of 'having it all'...and a few more.

We are highly unqualified, but we're bringing our best takes to your problems.

And if you want to submit to the next DECISION CLINIC, you can submit anonymously here or check out our IG.

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Amy — @beingamykate

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This week we're wrapping up Decision Season with maybe one of the most important questions so far... how do we know if life is actually going in the right direction?

We hear a lot about hitting goals, ticking boxes and the unavoidable list of everything we're supposedly meant to have achieved by 30, blah, blah, blah. But when we're deep in the decision-making stage of life, how do we know if the choices we're making are actually taking us where we want to go?

In this episode I get into...

✨ Why it's so hard to know if you're on the right track

✨ Why we often only know a decision was right in hindsight

✨ The invisible progress problem

✨ Why we need a new way to measure progress

✨ How to keep moving when you don't know exactly where you're going

This episode is for those of us feeling the heavy pressure to get life right. Trust me, I'm there with you- so let's talk it over.

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You've heard the term Soft Life, but what does it really mean when strip away the IG aesthetics?

In this episode, we're joined by the one and only Toni Tone - podcaster, bestselling author, and one of our generation's wisest women - as we dive deep into the philosophy of the soft life.

People may have hijacked the term to mean Pilates at 11 on a weekday, sugar baby culture, or kicking back and doing nothing, but that couldn't be further from the truth.

This powerful philosophy is about rejecting self-sacrifice in favour a life that puts your wellbeing at the centre... but how do you do that when, as women, we're constantly being asked to give more and more?

Toni takes us through:

✨ What a soft life actually is, and why it's so powerful

✨ Why soft living requires firm boundaries

✨ How this philosophy shows up in relationships, career, money, and more

✨ How to identify where we might be abandoning ourselves to meet other people's expectations

If you're tired of the hard graft but still want to pursue your own dreams, grab a notepad - you're going to want to lock in for this one.

Order Toni's new book, Soft Life: 10 Steps to a Gentle, Abundant and Easeful Life, HERE

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Toni - @t0nit0ne

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You've heard the term Soft Life, but what does it really mean when strip away the IG aesthetics?

In this episode, we're joined by the one and only Toni Tone - podcaster, bestselling author, and one of our generation's wisest women - as we dive deep into the philosophy of the soft life.

People may have hijacked the term to mean Pilates at 11 on a weekday, sugar baby culture, or kicking back and doing nothing, but that couldn't be further from the truth.

This powerful philosophy is about rejecting self-sacrifice in favour a life that puts your wellbeing at the centre... but how do you do that when, as women, we're constantly being asked to give more and more?

Toni takes us through:

✨ What a soft life actually is, and why it's so powerful

✨ Why soft living requires firm boundaries

✨ How this philosophy shows up in relationships, career, money, and more

✨ How to identify where we might be abandoning ourselves to meet other people's expectations

If you're tired of the hard graft but still want to pursue your own dreams, grab a notepad - you're going to want to lock in for this one.

Order Toni's new book, Soft Life: 10 Steps to a Gentle, Abundant and Easeful Life, HERE

Follow the show on your favourite platforms:

Toni - @t0nit0ne

Instagram - @theweirdyearspodcast

Tiktok - @theweirdyears

What if you’re actually not made for the 9–5?

If you sometimes sit at a desk for 9 hours straight and start to feel like your body wants to wiggle out of your skin, then girl, I have been there.

We were sold the dream of finding a career which is our purpose, climbing the ladder to the very top and smashing a few glass ceilings on our way. But more and more of us now, in our 30s, are looking around and thinking, wait... this kind of sucks?

In this episode, I’m joined by Rachel, who, with pure optimism and a refusal to keep slogging away at a life she didn’t want, quit her 9–5 to start her own one-person social media agency. She's just made the leap and is here to give us the hot take.

In this episode, we get into:

✨ That creeping feeling that the career you chose is not giving you the life you want

✨ How to mitigate the risk of the big quit

✨ What actually happens when you make the leap

✨ A realistic picture of quitting your 9–5 (not the shiny IG version)

✨ Things to consider before you sack in the day job

When I read that 66% of adults are considering starting a business/side hustle, it made me realise just how big the gap is between how we want to fill our working days vs what we’re actually doing. So let’s talk about it.

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What if the reason you're stuck isn't confusion, it's that the life you want feels socially unacceptable?

We all grew up with society handing us a script for what a "good life" should look like: the love story, the career, the milestones, the version of womanhood that makes sense to everyone else. But what happens when you look at that script and realise... I don't actually know if I want it? And who will I be if I don't?

When desire collides with identity, every decisions starts to feel huge.

This episode explores why what we took in as kinds, might have a lot to answer for in our thirties.

We're getting into:

✨ Why the real struggle is sometimes not knowing what you want, but admitting it ✨ Why some choices feel so morally loaded

✨ Why we judge ourselves so hard for our own desires

✨ How you can know what would make you happier and still struggle to let yourself want it

✨ Practical tips to shut down the noise of the scripts we're told to read

The pressure to choose is loud, and so many of us feel torn between the life that look good on paper and the life that feels right in our bodies. So let's talk it over.

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