The Weird Years

How do you make the huge, meltdown-inducing decisions of your 30s - and is there ever really a "right" answer?

In our first ever Decision Clinic, I'm joined by Jemma Sbeg, host of The Psychology of Your 20s - one of the biggest psychology podcasts out there - to get into real listeners messy, emotionally loaded questions that I'm pretty sure we're all going through right now.

Jemma brings her background in psychology, politics and philosophy to real listener dilemmas, including:

✨ The sadly all-too relatable question of how to handle someone you know being pulled into online conspiracy content

✨ That giant wtf or whether to stay child-free or have a baby

✨ Whether to stay in a long-term relationship with no intimacy

✨ And more big life decisions, relationship doubts, and identity crossroads

If you're overthinking a major life choice and desperate for reassurance that you're not the only one spiralling, then tap in.

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Date, get married, have a kid, live happily ever after - that’s what we were sold, right?

Well, the dating pool is looking kind of swampy, women are more self‑sufficient and self‑funded than ever before and actually… not everyone wants kids.

Cher said “Mom, I am a rich man” and influencer and internet personality Sophie Milner stepped up to it.

Sophie is known for her hot dating takes, big girls’ girl energy and being everyone’s gym crush, whilst having zero interest in being in a relationship. Sucks for them, huh.

In this episode we get into:

✨ The reality that men now have to compete with female happiness and independence to win us over

✨ How the manosphere and “body count” obsession are influencing modern dating

✨ Attachment styles, real chemistry, and relationship patterns in your 30s

✨ Why Sophie would rather be single than ever settle for less than she wants

This episode is like a wine‑fuelled chat between two of your far‑too‑honest friends.

If you’re dating in your 30s, wondering whether to settle or stay single, you’re going to love it.

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You know that niggling feeling that the path you're on isn't the right one... it's time to talk about it.The relationship which isn't moving forward, the job where the promotion never comes, the city we know will never feel like home - why do we stay too long in something we know isn't right?

In this episode, we're going deep into the unspoken part of making decisions: knowing when to walk away.

We get into:

✨ What psychology says about sticking around when the vibes aren't sticking (sunk cost, fear of change)

✨ The ins and outs of sunk cost fallacy

✨ How to know when you've invested too much vs when you've not invested enough

✨ The trap of sunk cost fallacy in jobs, relationships and cities

✨ How to navigate the hard question — to stay or go?

If you feel like you've been lingering somewhere you need to leave - job, relationship, city or lifestyle, then tap in and listen.

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What if one radical choice to heal rewired your life completely?

Joining me this week is nutritionist, author and functional medicine practitioner Daniel O'Shaughnessy. Daniel has been doing something which many of us might have curiously come across, but haven't pulled the plug to try. He has been expanding his healing approach to include psychedelics and plant medicine.

Daniel grew up overcoming bullying, and as a surviver of childhood sexual abuse. As an adult, deep-rooted feelings of shame seeped out through steroid use, partying and an unhealthy pursuit of "perfection" fulled by the competitiveness of the queer scene.

At breaking point, he made a decision that changed everything – to face trauma head‑on through psychedelics.

We get into:

✨ Body dysmorphia and shame in the gay community

✨ Anabolic steroids, partying and the pressure to look “perfect”

✨ When talking therapy hits its limits for chronic overthinkers

✨ How psychedelics and plant medicine became a portal in his healing

✨ The realities of using psychedelics for trauma, not just a “quick fix”

This is a story of deciding to step into discomfort, of choosing to move toward healing rather than more destruction and using every tool available to change deep rooted issues.

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What if being ‘too much’ was never the problem - you were just with people who couldn’t hold you?

This week I’m joined by the stunning, vivacious and straight‑up hilarious Jackie Adedeji– the broadcaster and girls’ girl from Instagram known for her unapologetic empowerment and gentle roasting of her “older middle‑class white man” husband.

We talk about the one decision in her twenties that changed everything in her thirties: starting therapy. Not as a quick fix, but as the slow, uncomfortable work that reshaped her self‑worth just enough that when she met her husband, she was able to give him a chance at something serious.

This is about the complexity of how self-esteem might show up and a story to decide to follow love even when it shows up in a package you did not expect to find.

We get into...

✨ Feeling publicly confident but privately feeling shame that she was "too much"

✨ The truth of therapy as a turning point – and not a quick fix

✨ Ditching dating and situationships for a deep sense of self‑respect

✨  The honest dynamics of an age-gap relationship which people often want to shy away from

✨  What it's like to be living with the knowledge you'll likely end up a window much earlier than most

If your on the brink of booking that therapy sesh, or maybe love just showed up in a package you did not expect and your nervous, then girl, TAP IN.

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Welcome to Decision Season dramatic music plays

I joke, this won't be scary, I promise.

This season we dig into the choices that have shaped us so far, the ones we still wonder if we got right, and the ones we’re wrestling with right now.

In this episode, I’m getting into a truth we all know but might be avoiding: the decisions are coming thick and fast in our thirties. It feels daunting, it can feel intense, and we often judge ourselves for not knowing it all yet.

We cover career, kids, where to live, and what to do when you’re overwhelmed by too many options. It might feel safer to shove this to the back of our minds, but whilst we’re not running out of time, time is moving.

So what would happen if we stopped fearing the decisions and started embracing the relief that comes with making them?

In this episode I get into:

✨ Why we need to sound the alarm on the big decisions of our thirties

✨ The sneaky illusion of “keeping our options open”

✨ How deciding which doors to close can actually set life in motion

✨ Why decisions aren’t dead ends, they’re next steps

✨ A simple exercise to help you find more clarity

If we choose to face the question marks actively, we might just create the best decade yet, so let’s get into it.

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"I love you, but I'm exhausted" is a line that's been whispered at 2am, 2pm, 10pm, and every hour in between to our big blue-eyed, five-month-old baby.

Last time we caught up on baby life, I was three weeks postpartum and riffing mainly on the birth. Now, we're nearly five months in and emerging from the haze of the tiny baby stage. A new shape of me, my life, and my identity is starting to form, so it's time for an honest catch-up.

In this episode, I'm sharing a real, unfiltered debrief of the first five months of motherhood as a first-time mum, including:

✨ How I ACTUALLY feel now we're five months postpartum

✨ The things that have surprised me most about becoming a mum

✨ The many contradictions of motherhood and the postpartum experience

✨ What it's like to experience matrescence and a rewired "mum brain"

✨ The weird intrusive thoughts no one talks about

✨ Why motherhood is making me want to be vegan again (I know... odd connection, right?)

If you're contemplating starting a family, already in the thick of new motherhood, navigating the newborn phase, or simply want to understand someone you care about who's going through it, this one's for you.

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Why are we suddenly craving the "soft life"?

You might know this term from polished reels of flawless women skipping out of pilates at 11am and into a matcha café, but the soft life philosophy has a much richer origin. It started with women in Nigeria reclaiming their time and energy, pushing back against hustle culture and the expectation to always grind, give, and self-sacrifice.

Now more than ever, as the pressures of our thirties start to build, more of us are craving a dose of slow living. And with the dumpster fire of an economy we're trying to navigate, it's not any surprise.

In this episode we get into:

🧘‍♀️ What the soft life philosophy actually means (and it's forgotten roots)

🧘‍♀️ How the broken promise of success has left millennials burnt out and wanting to clock out

🧘‍♀️ The quiet quitting approach

🧘‍♀️ The watch out: when soft life tips into financial dependence

🧘‍♀️ How to bring more slow living and nervous system regulation into the life you already have

If you're one "I hope this finds you well" email away from lying motionless in a forest for a few days, then stick around.

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What if the version of “working on yourself” you’ve been sold is actually pulling you further away from other people?

In this solo episode, I’m unpacking the strange relationship between self-improvement and selfishness, and the point where becoming your “best self” can turn into endless optimisation, isolation, and feeling like who you are right now is never enough.

I get into how self-improvement shifted from something that happened naturally through life and connection… into a billion-pound marketplace selling us better skin, better habits, better nervous systems, better mornings, better relationships and somehow still leaving us exhausted.

We’re talking:

✨ Why women are under more pressure than ever to optimise themselves

✨ How beauty, wellness and even spirituality became products to consume

✨ Whether “working on yourself” can become an easy scapegoat away from real connection

✨ And why the massive piece missing in self-improvement is connection

If you’ve ever felt stuck between wanting to grow and wanting to just be enough already, this one’s for you.

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Why does everything feel like it’s your fault… even when it isn’t?



In this solo episode, I’m unpacking guilt - that constant, low-level hum that seems to follow women everywhere. From work to relationships, money to motherhood, friendships to finances… why does everything feel like it’s somehow our responsibility?

I get into the psychology behind why women experience guilt more frequently and more intensely than men - and how both nature and nurture conspire to keep us stuck in these guilt spirals.

We're talking:

✨ Rational vs irrational guilt > and how to tell which one you’re feeling

✨ Why women feel responsible for other people’s emotions (and how this is costing you)

✨ How guilt becomes a hidden decision-making tool that keeps you small

✨ Practical ways to stop carrying guilt which isn’t yours

Because if you’re making decisions just to avoid guilt… there’s a good chance you’re not actually choosing the life you want.

If you’ve ever felt like you’re constantly doing something wrong (even when you’re not), this one’s for you.

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