Before Monte knew what to call it, he had three childhood memories that lived in his body without feelings attached to them. Strange, vivid, unforgettable — and completely emotionless. For forty years those memories just... sat there. No emotion. No context. Just stories.
Then terror showed up in a bathroom, and everything changed.
In this episode, Monte and Mechelle unpack what happens when emotions get locked away before you have the language to name them — and why they never actually leave. They break down attunement, the attachment styles that form when it's missing, and what it looks like to finally put the feeling with the memory.
Emotions don't expire. They just wait.
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