The Wine O'Clock Woman

Changing your relationship with alcohol can feel like a very private struggle.
But what happens when you talk to women who understand exactly what you're going through?

In this episode, I share what I've witnessed bringing women together, and why the connection between them has become such an important part of their experience.

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If this episode has left you thinking about your own relationship with alcohol, I'd love you to join me at Beyond the Booze Live, my free monthly 90-minute Zoom workshop.

You'll understand why you can promise yourself you won't drink in the morning, only to find yourself reaching for a glass that evening.

You'll begin to see what's happening before that first drink, why alcohol has become your go-to for feeling better, and how to start making different choices without relying on willpower alone.

Beyond the Booze Live: Come and understand your drinking better.

Find out more and save your free place here:

Find out how to work with me
If you're ready to make changes- I offer two ways to work together:

The Homecoming Group Programme™ – six months of support to help you break the cycle of drinking, regain control and make choices around alcohol that feel right for you, alongside a community of women working towards the same thing.

The Homecoming Reset™ – private 90-day one-to-one support, tailored to you.

Explore both programmes

You drank again.
Before you decide you’ve fucked it and you’re back at square one, there’s something far more useful you can do.

My free private podcast experience, Beyond the Booze, starts on Wednesday 28th October.

Over five private conversations, you’ll begin to uncover why you keep ending up back at the drink even when you really want things to change, what’s been keeping the pattern going, and why trying harder hasn’t been the answer.

Finally understanding what’s happening so you can stop having the same exhausting battle with yourself and start feeling more confident that, when you make a decision about drinking, you can trust yourself to follow through.

It’s free. It’s private. And you don’t have to decide what you’re doing about alcohol before you join me.

Join Beyond the Booze here:

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If this episode has left you thinking about your own relationship with alcohol, I'd love you to join me at Beyond the Booze Live, my free monthly 90-minute Zoom workshop.

You'll understand why you can promise yourself you won't drink in the morning, only to find yourself reaching for a glass that evening.

You'll begin to see what's happening before that first drink, why alcohol has become your go-to for feeling better, and how to start making different choices without relying on willpower alone.

Beyond the Booze Live: Come and understand your drinking better.

Find out more and save your free place here:

Find out how to work with me
If you're ready to make changes- I offer two ways to work together:

The Homecoming Group Programme™ – six months of support to help you break the cycle of drinking, regain control and make choices around alcohol that feel right for you, alongside a community of women working towards the same thing.

The Homecoming Reset™ – private 90-day one-to-one support, tailored to you.

Explore both programmes

Why do we keep falling back into old patterns, even when we really want things to change?
Julie Smith joins me to talk about the subconscious beliefs behind our behaviour, why willpower only gets us so far, and what needs to change underneath the habit for things to start feeling different.


More about Julie:
Julie Smith is a multi-award-winning Confidence & Identity Specialist, bestselling author, speaker, and host of The Upgrade Show and Podcast.
 
After spending 35 years in the corporate world, Julie understands first-hand how even the most capable, high-achieving people can struggle beneath the surface with stress, anxiety, self-doubt, overthinking, imposter syndrome and patterns of self-sabotage.
 
Through her unique Identity Box Rewire Method™, Julie combines subconscious and superconscious work, conscious coaching and nervous system regulation to uncover and change the deeper beliefs and patterns that keep people stuck.
 
She has helped 100’s of high achievers create fast, lasting change, enabling them to feel calmer, more confident and more in control, so they can become the version of themselves they deserve to be.
Julie is passionate about helping people understand that they are not broken. Their thoughts, feelings and behaviours make sense when they understand the identity they have unconsciously learned to live from, and that identity can be rewritten.

Get in contact with Julie here:

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If this episode has left you thinking about your own relationship with alcohol, I'd love you to join me at Beyond the Booze Live, my free monthly 90-minute Zoom workshop.

You'll understand why you can promise yourself you won't drink in the morning, only to find yourself reaching for a glass that evening.

You'll begin to see what's happening before that first drink, why alcohol has become your go-to for feeling better, and how to start making different choices without relying on willpower alone.

Beyond the Booze Live: Come and understand your drinking better.

Find out more and save your free place here:

Find out how to work with me
If you're ready to make changes- I offer two ways to work together:

The Homecoming Group Programme™ – six months of support to help you break the cycle of drinking, regain control and make choices around alcohol that feel right for you, alongside a community of women working towards the same thing.

The Homecoming Reset™ – private 90-day one-to-one support, tailored to you.

Explore both programmes

What are you really looking for when you think, “I need a drink”?

In this episode, we explore the difference between wanting to escape from something and wanting to escape to something, and what that can tell you about your drinking.

Click the link below to read more about the five-day private podcast experience, Beyond the Booze.

Find out more about Beyond The Booze here;

If this episode has left you thinking about your own relationship with alcohol, I'd love you to join me at Beyond the Booze Live, my free monthly 90-minute Zoom workshop.

You'll understand why you can promise yourself you won't drink in the morning, only to find yourself reaching for a glass that evening.

You'll begin to see what's happening before that first drink, why alcohol has become your go-to for feeling better, and how to start making different choices without relying on willpower alone.

Beyond the Booze Live: Come and understand your drinking better.

Find out more and save your free place here:

Find out how to work with me
If you're ready to make changes- I offer two ways to work together:

The Homecoming Group Programme™ – six months of support to help you break the cycle of drinking, regain control and make choices around alcohol that feel right for you, alongside a community of women working towards the same thing.

The Homecoming Reset™ – private 90-day one-to-one support, tailored to you.

Explore both programmes

You know the picture. A cold glass of wine at the end of the day. That first sip. Shoulders dropping. Ahhh.
Funny how your brain doesn’t show you the whole evening quite so readily. In this episode, I’m talking about The Highlight Reel — why your brain can zoom in on the lovely bit of drinking while cropping out the rest.
The head noise beforehand. The second and third glass. The rubbish sleep. The way you feel the next morning when you promise yourself, not tonight.

We’ll look at why this happens, why morning-you and 6pm-you can seem to be looking at drinking completely differently, and one simple question that can help you widen the frame: What has my brain cropped out?

You don’t need to convince yourself that drinking is awful. You might just need to widen the frame and see what your brain has cropped out.

If this episode has left you thinking about your own relationship with alcohol, I'd love you to join me at Beyond the Booze Live, my free monthly 90-minute Zoom workshop.

You'll understand why you can promise yourself you won't drink in the morning, only to find yourself reaching for a glass that evening.

You'll begin to see what's happening before that first drink, why alcohol has become your go-to for feeling better, and how to start making different choices without relying on willpower alone.

Beyond the Booze Live: Come and understand your drinking better.

Find out more and save your free place here:

Find out how to work with me
If you're ready to make changes- I offer two ways to work together:

The Homecoming Group Programme™ – six months of support to help you break the cycle of drinking, regain control and make choices around alcohol that feel right for you, alongside a community of women working towards the same thing.

The Homecoming Reset™ – private 90-day one-to-one support, tailored to you.

Explore both programmes

If drinking has been part of fun, freedom and feeling like you for years, what happens when you start questioning it?
In this conversation, I’m joined by Rachel Teeling to talk about the “party girl” we can be reluctant to let go of, why alcohol can become a comfort during heartbreak and loneliness, and Rachel’s idea of the “beer coat” — that borrowed confidence alcohol can give us.

We also explore a bigger question: if alcohol stops being the thing that makes life feel fun, where do you find that part of yourself instead?

Meet Rachel:

Rachel Teeling is a certified Life and Relationship Coach and NLP Master Practitioner, also known as the Love Life Fixer. She helps women heal after painful relationships, rebuild their self-worth and create happier, healthier relationships with themselves and others. Through her coaching and Healing with Teeling podcast, Rachel combines professional tools with honest insight from her own experience of heartbreak, starting again and rebuilding her life.

Find out more:

Find Rachel on Instagram

The free What Now? Workshop: Replay available.


If this episode has left you thinking about your own relationship with alcohol, I'd love you to join me at Beyond the Booze Live, my free monthly 90-minute Zoom workshop.

You'll understand why you can promise yourself you won't drink in the morning, only to find yourself reaching for a glass that evening.

You'll begin to see what's happening before that first drink, why alcohol has become your go-to for feeling better, and how to start making different choices without relying on willpower alone.

Beyond the Booze Live: Come and understand your drinking better.

Find out more and save your free place here:

Find out how to work with me
If you're ready to make changes- I offer two ways to work together:

The Homecoming Group Programme™ – six months of support to help you break the cycle of drinking, regain control and make choices around alcohol that feel right for you, alongside a community of women working towards the same thing.

The Homecoming Reset™ – private 90-day one-to-one support, tailored to you.

Explore both programmes

“I drink because I’m bored.”
It sounds like a perfectly reasonable explanation.
But have you ever stopped to ask what having a drink actually changes?

In this episode, I’m looking at what might really be going on in those evenings when you can’t settle, nothing seems to hold your attention and having a drink suddenly feels like the obvious answer. There’s one question I want you to ask yourself. You might be surprised by the answer.

If this episode has left you thinking about your own relationship with alcohol, I'd love you to join me at Beyond the Booze Live, my free monthly 90-minute Zoom workshop.

You'll understand why you can promise yourself you won't drink in the morning, only to find yourself reaching for a glass that evening.

You'll begin to see what's happening before that first drink, why alcohol has become your go-to for feeling better, and how to start making different choices without relying on willpower alone.

Beyond the Booze Live: Come and understand your drinking better.

Find out more and save your free place here:

Find out how to work with me
If you're ready to make changes- I offer two ways to work together:

The Homecoming Group Programme™ – six months of support to help you break the cycle of drinking, regain control and make choices around alcohol that feel right for you, alongside a community of women working towards the same thing.

The Homecoming Reset™ – private 90-day one-to-one support, tailored to you.

Explore both programmes

In this episode, I’m looking at what might really be happening at wine o’clock — and why the reason you reach for that first glass might not be quite what you think.

If this episode has left you thinking about your own relationship with alcohol, I'd love you to join me at Beyond the Booze Live, my free monthly 90-minute Zoom workshop.

You'll understand why you can promise yourself you won't drink in the morning, only to find yourself reaching for a glass that evening.

You'll begin to see what's happening before that first drink, why alcohol has become your go-to for feeling better, and how to start making different choices without relying on willpower alone.

Beyond the Booze Live: Come and understand your drinking better.

Find out more and save your free place here:

Find out how to work with me
If you're ready to make changes- I offer two ways to work together:

The Homecoming Group Programme™ – six months of support to help you break the cycle of drinking, regain control and make choices around alcohol that feel right for you, alongside a community of women working towards the same thing.

The Homecoming Reset™ – private 90-day one-to-one support, tailored to you.

Explore both programmes

In this episode, I’m joined by Polly Lovell, who shares her personal journey with alcohol and the health scare that became her tipping point.

We talk about what her relationship with alcohol looked like before that moment, what finally made her realise something needed to change, and what happened when she did.

Polly also shares what life feels like on the other side now, and what she has gained from making a change she once might not have imagined making.

An honest conversation about reaching your own tipping point, listening when something no longer feels right, and discovering what might be waiting on the other side.


More about Polly:
Polly Lovell is a former Director of Inclusion for an Educational Trust in the South West, with an international career spanning the UK and US.

She spent many years in senior education roles, working in high pressure environments where responsibility was constant and expectations were high. Like many successful women, Polly’s drinking gradually escalated as a socially accepted way to manage stress, switch off and keep going, particularly through midlife and menopause.

Despite her outward success, alcohol had quietly become a crutch. In 2021, aged 57, Polly decided to stop drinking, a turning point inspired by her daughter. She has never looked back. Her health, confidence, energy and sense of purpose have been transformed. After retiring from education, Polly retrained as a sober coach and is also a qualified NLP practitioner and menopause coach. 

She now runs Sober Coach Polly, supporting midlife women navigating menopause, chronic stress, identity shifts and a complicated relationship with alcohol.

Her message is simple: it is never too late to change your relationship with alcohol, reclaim your health and rewrite your next chapter.

Visit her website here:

Find Polly on Instagram here:


If this episode has left you thinking about your own relationship with alcohol, I'd love you to join me at Beyond the Booze Live, my free monthly 90-minute Zoom workshop.

You'll understand why you can promise yourself you won't drink in the morning, only to find yourself reaching for a glass that evening.

You'll begin to see what's happening before that first drink, why alcohol has become your go-to for feeling better, and how to start making different choices without relying on willpower alone.

Beyond the Booze Live: Come and understand your drinking better.

Find out more and save your free place here:

Find out how to work with me
If you're ready to make changes- I offer two ways to work together:

The Homecoming Group Programme™ – six months of support to help you break the cycle of drinking, regain control and make choices around alcohol that feel right for you, alongside a community of women working towards the same thing.

The Homecoming Reset™ – private 90-day one-to-one support, tailored to you.

Explore both programmes

What’s it actually like to get support to change your relationship with alcohol?

My client Vic O’Farrell joins me to share where she was when she first reached out, what helped her make lasting changes and where she is now.
We talk about accountability, the powerful experience of meeting her future self, and what it was like to work together.


About Vic:
Known as The Queen of Behaviours, Vic O’Farrell is a coach and behavioural specialist who helps people better understand themselves and others. After leaving the corporate world in 2013, she retrained as a coach and discovered DISC behavioural profiling, which became a central part of her work.

Find out more about Vic:

Find out more about Vic on her website:

Listen to her podcast- It starts with you:


If this episode has left you thinking about your own relationship with alcohol, I'd love you to join me at Beyond the Booze Live, my free monthly 90-minute Zoom workshop.

You'll understand why you can promise yourself you won't drink in the morning, only to find yourself reaching for a glass that evening.

You'll begin to see what's happening before that first drink, why alcohol has become your go-to for feeling better, and how to start making different choices without relying on willpower alone.

Beyond the Booze Live: Come and understand your drinking better.

Find out more and save your free place here:

Find out how to work with me
If you're ready to make changes- I offer two ways to work together:

The Homecoming Group Programme™ – six months of support to help you break the cycle of drinking, regain control and make choices around alcohol that feel right for you, alongside a community of women working towards the same thing.

The Homecoming Reset™ – private 90-day one-to-one support, tailored to you.

Explore both programmes