What’s it actually like to get support to change your relationship with alcohol?

My client Vic O’Farrell joins me to share where she was when she first reached out, what helped her make lasting changes and where she is now.
We talk about accountability, the powerful experience of meeting her future self, and what it was like to work together.


About Vic:
Known as The Queen of Behaviours, Vic O’Farrell is a coach and behavioural specialist who helps people better understand themselves and others. After leaving the corporate world in 2013, she retrained as a coach and discovered DISC behavioural profiling, which became a central part of her work.

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If this episode resonated with you, it may be a sign that you’ve been carrying more than you realise.

Each month I run a FREE live Zoom workshop for women who are beginning to recognise the emotional patterns, people-pleasing, overthinking, exhaustion and self-abandonment that may be keeping them stuck.

Inside the workshop, I talk about the “cycle” many women unknowingly live in, and how to start recognising the patterns that keep you emotionally exhausted, disconnected and running on autopilot.


Save your place for the next workshop here:

If you’d like to explore your own patterns more deeply, you can also book a free 30-minute conversation with me. 

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Disclaimer: This podcast is intended for educational and informational purposes only and is not a substitute for medical, psychological or therapeutic advice.

Divorce can leave you grieving far more than a relationship.
It can shake your identity, your confidence and the future you thought you were going to have.
In this conversation, I’m joined by Sara Stansberry to talk about what happens when life changes completely, why we reach for things to numb the pain, and how you begin finding yourself and building a life that genuinely feels like yours again.

Meet Sara:
Sara Stansberry is a writer, storyteller, and podcast host behind How to Blow Up Your Life, a brand where she shares essays and episodes about creative destruction, the joy of self-reclamation, the resilience of the human spirit, and the power of living authentically.

Her writing is for anyone who understands the slow burn of becoming disconnected from their dreams, their voice, and their desires—and the messy, but transformative path back to wholeness and self-love.

Now, as a certified life coach, she guides others toward finding their true selves, blending personal stories with professional expertise. Sara lives in New York City with her new husband, Walter. They have a combined six(!) kids, and their seventh child, Shasta the Goldendoodle. Walter and Sara’s story of cultivating healthy love the second time around was included in the inaugural cast of  LoveNotes!, an Off-Broadway production at The Center At West Park Theater.

Sara was chosen for multiple casts of Generation Women’s show, representing Team 50s and the Best of Show, all held at the iconic Joe’s Pub in New York City. Sara’s first book, How to Blow Up Your Life in Three Simple Steps, is in production and will be released in Q1 2027.

Connect with Sara:
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If this episode resonated with you, it may be a sign that you’ve been carrying more than you realise.

Each month I run a FREE live Zoom workshop for women who are beginning to recognise the emotional patterns, people-pleasing, overthinking, exhaustion and self-abandonment that may be keeping them stuck.

Inside the workshop, I talk about the “cycle” many women unknowingly live in, and how to start recognising the patterns that keep you emotionally exhausted, disconnected and running on autopilot.


Save your place for the next workshop here:

If you’d like to explore your own patterns more deeply, you can also book a free 30-minute conversation with me. 

Book your complimentary conversation here:


Disclaimer: This podcast is intended for educational and informational purposes only and is not a substitute for medical, psychological or therapeutic advice.

Shame has a horrible way of convincing us that our drinking says something about who we are.
In this conversation, I’m joined by Sunena Balu to look at shame from a very different perspective.
Why so many women carry it, how it can become tangled up with drinking, and why beating ourselves up rarely helps us change.

This is a warm, refreshingly honest conversation about an emotion that can feel incredibly heavy  and why it might finally be time to say, fuck shame.


About Sunehna:

Sunehna Balu – Founder of The Girlhood Collective
The Girlhood Collective is a bold, vibrant space inspired by the power and magic of a girls’ bathroom on a night out — the energy, the support, the instant sisterhood.
We’re building a levelled-up community for womxn: a space to grow, learn, connect, and just be, knowing you have your very own cheerleaders behind you the entire way!

Find out more:

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If this episode resonated with you, it may be a sign that you’ve been carrying more than you realise.

Each month I run a FREE live Zoom workshop for women who are beginning to recognise the emotional patterns, people-pleasing, overthinking, exhaustion and self-abandonment that may be keeping them stuck.

Inside the workshop, I talk about the “cycle” many women unknowingly live in, and how to start recognising the patterns that keep you emotionally exhausted, disconnected and running on autopilot.


Save your place for the next workshop here:

If you’d like to explore your own patterns more deeply, you can also book a free 30-minute conversation with me. 

Book your complimentary conversation here:


Disclaimer: This podcast is intended for educational and informational purposes only and is not a substitute for medical, psychological or therapeutic advice.

What happens when the children leave home, work begins to slow down, and life suddenly becomes quieter?
In this thought-provoking conversation, I'm joined by retirement and life transition coach Tami Goulet to explore why so many women reach midlife feeling disconnected from themselves.

Together we discuss identity, purpose, empty nest, retirement, and why wine can quietly become the thing we look forward to most.
If you've ever wondered Who am I now? or felt like you've spent years taking care of everyone except yourself, this episode will leave you feeling seen, and hopeful about what's possible next.

More about Tami:

Tami Goulet is the founder of Speak Your Soul Magicks™, a shop and coaching practice in Ottawa, Ontario, where she guides women through The Second Half of Leaving™. She works with women who already did the brave thing. They left. Nobody warned them there was a second half, the part where they get to remember the woman underneath the roles, responsibilities, and survival strategies that carried them this far.
Her work helps them stop saying yes when they mean no, hear what they actually want again, and stop going quiet at their own dinner tables. Part best friend, part cheerleader, part mirror, part tough love, Tami brings the practical and the magical together. She is the author of Whole All Along and serves as G100 Regional Chair for Ontario, Canada.

How to get in contact with Tami:
Visit her website

Get your FREE First chapter of her book to "The Second Half of Leaving™: A Field Guide To The Part Nobody Warned You About

If this episode resonated with you, it may be a sign that you’ve been carrying more than you realise.

Each month I run a FREE live Zoom workshop for women who are beginning to recognise the emotional patterns, people-pleasing, overthinking, exhaustion and self-abandonment that may be keeping them stuck.

Inside the workshop, I talk about the “cycle” many women unknowingly live in, and how to start recognising the patterns that keep you emotionally exhausted, disconnected and running on autopilot.


Save your place for the next workshop here:

If you’d like to explore your own patterns more deeply, you can also book a free 30-minute conversation with me. 

Book your complimentary conversation here:


Disclaimer: This podcast is intended for educational and informational purposes only and is not a substitute for medical, psychological or therapeutic advice.

Have you ever caught yourself thinking...
"My drinking isn't bad enough to ask for help."
You're not alone.
In this episode, I'm talking about one of the biggest reasons women stay stuck for years—the belief that you have to hit rock bottom before you're "allowed" to change.

We'll explore why alcohol isn't the real problem, why willpower keeps letting you down, and why understanding your relationship with alcohol is the first step towards lasting change.
If you're tired of the mental battle, constantly negotiating with yourself, and wondering if life could feel different, this episode is for you.

The Homecoming group programme begins on 1st September. If you're ready to stop fighting yourself, book a conversation with me. We'll explore where you are now, what's been keeping you stuck, and whether Homecoming is right for you. 
You'll find all the booking details in the show notes.

The goal isn't simply to drink less.
The goal is to need alcohol less.

If this episode resonated with you, it may be a sign that you’ve been carrying more than you realise.

Each month I run a FREE live Zoom workshop for women who are beginning to recognise the emotional patterns, people-pleasing, overthinking, exhaustion and self-abandonment that may be keeping them stuck.

Inside the workshop, I talk about the “cycle” many women unknowingly live in, and how to start recognising the patterns that keep you emotionally exhausted, disconnected and running on autopilot.


Save your place for the next workshop here:

If you’d like to explore your own patterns more deeply, you can also book a free 30-minute conversation with me. 

Book your complimentary conversation here:


Disclaimer: This podcast is intended for educational and informational purposes only and is not a substitute for medical, psychological or therapeutic advice.

"I'm a logical person. I know alcohol isn't helping me... but it's like I'm sabotaging myself."
It's something I hear from women all the time.

But what if self-sabotage doesn't start with pouring the first glass of wine?
In this episode, I explore where the cycle really begins, why so many women stay stuck in silence, and the belief that keeps them carrying it all on their own.

If you've ever found yourself asking, "Why do I keep doing this?" this episode might help you ask a much better question.


If this episode resonated with you, it may be a sign that you’ve been carrying more than you realise.

Each month I run a FREE live Zoom workshop for women who are beginning to recognise the emotional patterns, people-pleasing, overthinking, exhaustion and self-abandonment that may be keeping them stuck.

Inside the workshop, I talk about the “cycle” many women unknowingly live in, and how to start recognising the patterns that keep you emotionally exhausted, disconnected and running on autopilot.


Save your place for the next workshop here:

If you’d like to explore your own patterns more deeply, you can also book a free 30-minute conversation with me. 

Book your complimentary conversation here:


Disclaimer: This podcast is intended for educational and informational purposes only and is not a substitute for medical, psychological or therapeutic advice.

Retirement is something most of us plan for financially, but very few of us prepare for emotionally.

In this conversation, Jo Hands and I explore what happens when the career you've worked so hard to build comes to an end, and why so many women find themselves asking, "What now?"

We talk about identity, purpose and ambition in the next chapter of life, and why retirement doesn't have to mean slowing down.
In many ways, it can be the beginning of something entirely new.

Jo also shares her own story of stopping drinking, the surprising health changes she experienced, and why so many of the symptoms she thought were menopause disappeared once alcohol was no longer part of her life.

This is a conversation about possibility. If retirement is on the horizon, or you're already there and wondering what comes next, I hope it leaves you feeling excited about the years ahead.

More about Jo:

Jo Hands is a life transitions coach and founder of RE:Life Rewire. She helps people navigate the identity shifts that often come with midlife, particularly when a defining professional role is ending, changing or being questioned. Her work focuses on helping people design what comes next with purpose, clarity and confidence.


🎁 Get Jo's FREE Odyssey Planner – a simple 20-minute guide to help you think about what you want from the next chapter of your life.

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If this episode resonated with you, it may be a sign that you’ve been carrying more than you realise.

Each month I run a FREE live Zoom workshop for women who are beginning to recognise the emotional patterns, people-pleasing, overthinking, exhaustion and self-abandonment that may be keeping them stuck.

Inside the workshop, I talk about the “cycle” many women unknowingly live in, and how to start recognising the patterns that keep you emotionally exhausted, disconnected and running on autopilot.


Save your place for the next workshop here:

If you’d like to explore your own patterns more deeply, you can also book a free 30-minute conversation with me. 

Book your complimentary conversation here:


Disclaimer: This podcast is intended for educational and informational purposes only and is not a substitute for medical, psychological or therapeutic advice.

If you've stopped drinking before... only to find yourself back where you started a few days or weeks later, this episode is for you.
Most women think going back means they've failed.
I don't.
The truth is, if you take alcohol away without understanding why it became important in the first place, you'll almost always end up back there.

The pressure still builds.
The stress is still there.
The habit still has a job to do.

Until you replace what alcohol has been doing for you, your brain will keep offering it as the answer.
In this episode, I'll explain why going back to drinking isn't a sign that you lack willpower.

It's a sign that you've been trying to change the behaviour without understanding what's driving it.
Once you understand that, everything starts to make a lot more sense.


If this episode resonated with you, it may be a sign that you’ve been carrying more than you realise.

Each month I run a FREE live Zoom workshop for women who are beginning to recognise the emotional patterns, people-pleasing, overthinking, exhaustion and self-abandonment that may be keeping them stuck.

Inside the workshop, I talk about the “cycle” many women unknowingly live in, and how to start recognising the patterns that keep you emotionally exhausted, disconnected and running on autopilot.


Save your place for the next workshop here:

If you’d like to explore your own patterns more deeply, you can also book a free 30-minute conversation with me. 

Book your complimentary conversation here:


Disclaimer: This podcast is intended for educational and informational purposes only and is not a substitute for medical, psychological or therapeutic advice.

You promise yourself you'll only have one... but somehow the second (and sometimes third) follows without you really deciding.
In this episode, I explain why this happens, why it isn't about willpower, and what's really going on in your brain after that first drink.
If you've ever wondered why you can't seem to stop at one, this episode will help you understand the cycle—and how to start breaking it.

If this episode resonated with you, it may be a sign that you’ve been carrying more than you realise.

Each month I run a FREE live Zoom workshop for women who are beginning to recognise the emotional patterns, people-pleasing, overthinking, exhaustion and self-abandonment that may be keeping them stuck.

Inside the workshop, I talk about the “cycle” many women unknowingly live in, and how to start recognising the patterns that keep you emotionally exhausted, disconnected and running on autopilot.


Save your place for the next workshop here:

If you’d like to explore your own patterns more deeply, you can also book a free 30-minute conversation with me. 

Book your complimentary conversation here:


Disclaimer: This podcast is intended for educational and informational purposes only and is not a substitute for medical, psychological or therapeutic advice.

What happens when you finally stop negotiating with yourself?
In this episode, Gilly Baker shares the moment she knew she had to stop drinking, what finally helped her make lasting change, and how her life has transformed since.

We talk about the anxiety, the constant mental battle around alcohol, and the unexpected benefits of living alcohol-free, including rebuilding her marriage, rediscovering herself, and even sober sex.

If you've ever wondered whether life without alcohol could really be better, this conversation will leave you feeling hopeful.

About Gilly Baker:
Gilly Baker is an Alcohol Free and Positive Psychology Coach who helps women transform their relationship with alcohol make meaningful changes and create a life they love waking up to.

After choosing an alcohol free life over two years ago, she now blends mindset work, compassionate accountability and real life tools to support women who want to step into a life women who want to step into a life that feels aligned, energising and fully their own.

Drawing on her own lived experience and her work within AF communities, she creates safe, shame free spaces where women can explore what they truly want for themselves and step into lasting change.

When she’s not coaching, Gilly can usually be found at a line dancing class, travelling for fun or enjoying family life with her husband and adult kids.

Connect with Gilly:

Find Gilly on Instagram

Visit Gilly's website



If this episode resonated with you, it may be a sign that you’ve been carrying more than you realise.

Each month I run a FREE live Zoom workshop for women who are beginning to recognise the emotional patterns, people-pleasing, overthinking, exhaustion and self-abandonment that may be keeping them stuck.

Inside the workshop, I talk about the “cycle” many women unknowingly live in, and how to start recognising the patterns that keep you emotionally exhausted, disconnected and running on autopilot.


Save your place for the next workshop here:

If you’d like to explore your own patterns more deeply, you can also book a free 30-minute conversation with me. 

Book your complimentary conversation here:


Disclaimer: This podcast is intended for educational and informational purposes only and is not a substitute for medical, psychological or therapeutic advice.