The Wright Conversations

Hey everyone! Welcome to today's episode of the Wright Conversations Podcast! For today's episode, I talk about the nature of intimacy, how to cultivate intimacy in any relationship, and 11 questions that you can ask to build connections. I also talk about how our culture misuses the word "intimacy", the importance of the 'why', and some fun resources to help kickstart your conversations.

Let's delve in!

In this Episode You'll Learn:

• [01:06] Intimacy is sex?
• [02:08] Emotional intimacy.
• [02:49] Cultivating and maintaining emotional intimacy.
• [03:40] Quality time.
• [05:30] Curiosity.
• [08:03] Creating a culture of appreciation.
• [08:46] Walk down memory lane.
• [09:07] Rituals of connection.
• [10:59] Let yourself be seen.
• [11:34] Ask questions.
• [13:05] 11 Questions for connection.

Quotes:

• "Our culture has been so sex-negative that we can't say sex, so now the word intimacy is synonymous for sex?" [01:32]
• "Intimacy is closeness." [01:55]
• "We are ever evolving. We have to continue to update our people." [03:07]
• "It really doesn't matter where you are, as long as you are present with each other and it feels meaningful to both of you." [05:20]
• "Understanding your partner's love map, helps you to feel close and build emotional intimacy." [12:30]

Connect with Rachel Wright

Website: https://rachelwrightnyc.com

Instagram: @thewright_rachel

Twitter: @thewrightrachel

Resources

A Game of Stories, by Esther Perel.

We're Not Really Strangers.

Actually Curious.

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Hey everyone! Welcome to today's episode of the Wright Conversations Podcast! For today's episode, I will be talking about anxiety, how it manifests, and when anxiety can and can't be helpful. I also talk about the internal and external causes of anxiety, the difference between stress and anxiety, and anxiety as a diagnosable mental illness.

Let's delve in!

In this Episode You'll Learn:

• [02:35] What is anxiety?
• [04:11] Signs & symptoms of anxiety.
• [04:57] Helpful and unhelpful anxiety.
• [07:48] What causes anxiety?
• [08:59] External causes of anxiety.
• [08:55] Stress vs anxiety.
• [10:06] Is my anxiety just unhelpful or a diagnosable mental illness?
• [10:52] Some anxiety disorders.

Quotes:

• "Unhelpful anxiety makes it almost impossible to deal with actual dangers." [05:47]
• "Stress is a short-term response in response to something that is happening. Anxiety can linger on forever, and it may not have a trigger." [09:06
• "Stress is an internal factor for anxiety, and anxiety is an internal factor for anxiety." [09:40]
• "If it is interfering with your life, it is most likely, possibly, clinically diagnosable." [10:26]
• "Labelling yourself with a diagnosis or two will not make your life more livable." [11:03]
• "If any of this resonated with you and you want to learn more, learn more." [12:58]

Connect with Rachel Wright

Website: https://rachelwrightnyc.com

Instagram: @thewright_rachel

Twitter: @thewrightrachel

Resources

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***Content / Trigger Warning, in this episode we discuss sensitive topics that may not be suitable for all audiences. Topics like sexual abuse, and physical abuse, including child sexual molestation. This may be an episode to skip, or use headphones for, if you have others around you that may not be prepared to listen.***

Hey everyone! Welcome to today's episode of the Wright Conversations Podcast! For today's episode, I'm joined by Meryl Victoria to talk about play and fantasies, the most common fantasies, and exploring core desires. Meryl also talks about de-shame-ifying sexual fantasies, the importance of safety in context, tapping into our body sensations, and fantasies versus realities.

Let's delve in!

In this Episode You'll Learn:

• [01:37] A bit about Meryl.
• [03:18] Why Meryl is passionate about talking about sexual fantasies.
• [05:13] Are fantasies for you?
• [06:22] Defining sexual fantasies.
• [07:22] The more common sexual fantasies.
• [08:28] Core desires.
• [10:00] What to do with your fantasies.
• [12:19] Fantasies versus realities.
• [18:42] The insidious shame.
• [20:15] How to start to recognize shame.
• [23:34] Tapping into body sensations.
• [28:22] A safe context.
• [29:26] How shame manifests.
• [31:11] How to start releasing and exploring shame.
• [36:47] Meryl's words of wisdom.

Quotes:

• "Everybody fantasizes, and everybody fantasizes for their entire lives." [03:44]
• "What makes sex awesome is not the actions that you're performing. Rather, it's the emotions that you're experiencing." [08:40]
• "Just because you fantasize about it, doesn't mean you want to do it for real." [12:12]
• "Every time you move outside of the perceived social norm, shame is waiting for you." [19:23]
• "Diversifying your feed is such an amazing thing to do for yourself." [32:25]

Connect with Meryl Victoria

Website: www.verymeryl.com.

Instagram: @soverymeryl.

Connect with Rachel Wright

Website: https://rachelwrightnyc.com

Instagram: @thewright_rachel

Twitter: @thewrightrachel

Resources

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Nox Black (they/them) is a rope artist, erotic witch, conscious kink coach, and photographer, living and practicing on occupied Lenape Land in Brooklyn, NY. Using rope sessions, witch rituals, somatic therapies, magic-infused photoshoots, and more, they help others discover their erotic and sexual power.

Hey everyone! Welcome to today's episode of the Wright Conversations Podcast! For today's episode, I'm joined by Nox Black to talk about rope, erotic magic, and D/S dynamics. Nox also talks about some of the main reasons people decide to do rope, how to find and vet rope practitioners, and the truth about age play.

Let's delve in!

In this Episode You'll Learn:

• [02:53] What is Rope?
• [09:27] Main reasons why people get tied.
• [17:33] Finding the right rope practitioner.
• [21:06] Defining erotic magic.
• [27:59] D/S dynamics.
• [31:03] Age play.
• [33:10] Nox's words of wisdom.

Quotes:

• "If you're somebody with a body, you can benefit from rope." [11:38]
• "Erotic magic is a piece of witchcraft that is informed by our erotic self." [21:18]
• "Regression is something that comes very naturally to the body. It is the brain's way of protecting itself." [32:21]
• "The world is not a vacuum." [33:26]

Connect with Nox Black

Website: noxblack.com.

Instagram: @notnoxblack_.

Twitter: @noxblack_.

Connect with Rachel Wright

Website: https://rachelwrightnyc.com

Instagram: @thewright_rachel

Twitter: @thewrightrachel

Resources

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Crystal Rose O'Connor Bio

Crystal Rose O'Connor is a somatic intimacy coach, intimacy director, performer, and food lover. Crystal's mission is to make sure other people feel seen and legitimized, each with a story worth telling. Crystal received training in Sexology at The Somatica Institute, learning the art of deep healing, communication, kink, trauma release, conflict resolution, healthy attachment, open relationships, and embodiment.

Raj Bandyopadhyay Bio

Raj Bandyopadhyay is a personal branding photographer and artist. Prior to joining the art and photography world, Raj earned a PhD in Computer Science and worked as a software engineer and data scientist. In 2017, when his spouse came out as transgender and started transitioning, Raj began his own soul-searching journey, and transitioned into his photography career.

Hey everyone! Welcome to today's episode of the Wright Conversations Podcast! For today's episode, I'm joined by Crystal O'Connor and Raj Bandyopadhyay to talk about insecurities between sex and photography, how to work through perfectionism, and overcoming self-limiting beliefs. Crystal and Raj also talk about the benefits of utilizing containers and somatic tools, and what people can do start feeling more comfortable on camera.

Let's delve in!

In this Episode You'll Learn:

• [01:48] A bit about Crystal.
• [02:21] A bit about Raj.
• [03:56] How Crystal and Raj connected.
• [05:55] Common insecurities between sex and photography.
• [13:50] Working through perfectionism.
• [19:12] Overcoming self-limiting beliefs in clients.
• [27:44] The most common hurdles that people face.
• [28:45] Safe containers from the world of BDSM.
• [30:26] How using these tools transform people.
• [35:13] Who needs to have these experience?
• [42:25] Words of wisdom.

Quotes:

• "Your vulnerability makes you relatable, and it's better for your brand." [10:11]
• "Shoulds are about perfectionism, which is the opposite of vulnerability." [10:37]
• "If we never did anything that was uncomfortable, none of us would ever have sex for the first time." [26:05]
• "Do it because you want it and because you think it will be fun, even if no one ever sees them." [39:22]

Connect with Crystal Rose O'Connor

Email: [email protected].

Website: yourbodyyourstory.net.

Connect with Raj Bandyopadhyay

Website: www.seriesaphotography.com.

LinkedIn: Raj Bandyopadhyay.

Instagram: @seriesaphotography.

Connect with Rachel Wright

Website: https://rachelwrightnyc.com

Instagram: @thewright_rachel

Twitter: @thewrightrachel

Resources

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Hey everyone! Welcome to today's episode of the Wright Conversations Podcast! For today's episode, I'm joined by Tawny Lara to talk about sobriety and sex, working through arrested development, and learning sexual expression. Tawny also talks about the importance of mindful sexual exploration, learning about asexuality, co-dependency and addiction, and how to separate sex, identity, and alcohol.

Let's delve in!

In this Episode You'll Learn:

• [01:06] A bit about Tawny.
• [01:39] Tawny, The Sober Sexpert.
• [04:45] The physical effects of alcohol and sex.
• [06:16] The "liquid courage = fun drunk sex" narrative.
• [07:22] Discovering who she is sexually without alcohol.
• [08:17] Separating sex, gender identity, sexuality, and alcohol.
• [09:22] Arrested development.
• [13:07] How alcohol hinders sexual response.
• [15:21] From performative drunk sex, to sober non-performative sex.
• [17:50] The biphasic effects of alcohol.
• [21:38] Can you benefit from trying sober sex?
• [23:01] The biggest challenges when experiencing sober sex for the first few times.
• [24:37] How to replace the liquid courage with your own intrinsic courage.
• [25:02] Asexuality and sobriety.
• [27:35] Top takeaways from Ace, by Angela Chen.
• [32:12] There is hope.
• [34:09] Replacing dates with "drinks".
• [36:00] Tawny's advice.

Quotes:

• "There's a laundry list of ways that alcohol does not help you sexually, despite the societal narrative." [06:02]
• "Porn is for entertainment of adults, not education." [13:53]
• "Alcohol can, and often does, do a disservice to your sexual experience." [17:42]
• "Alcohol is giving you this fun, uninhibited sex, sure, but it's not the alcohol." [18:27]
• "Read the label before you eat the food. Know what you're getting into." [21:04]
• "Replace the liquid courage with channeling your own intrinsic courage." [24:31]
• "Indulge in the things that make you feel sexy." [24:49]
• "A big part of some people's sexual liberation is realizing that they actually do not like sex, and that's okay, too." [25:03]
• "If you're not a sexual being, pleasure can be a really luxurious bubble bath." [26:08]
• "Your sexual journey is sometimes ongoing." [29:15]
• "You're not alone. There are tons of free resources out there." [32:42]
• "For dating, I would highly recommend an experiential date." [34:59]
• "There are so many outside-of-the-box date ideas, you do not need to incorporate alcohol." [35:47]
• "It's more about the ritual than the actual substance." [37:25]
• "Just because the person you love is struggling, it's not your problem to fix." [40:55]

Connect with Tawny Lara

Website: www.sobrieteaparty.com.

www.tawnylara.com.

Instagram: @tawnymlara.

Twitter: @TawnyMLara.

LinkedIn: Tawny Lara.

Facebook: Tawny Lara.

YouTube: Tawny Lara.

TikTok: @tawnymlara.

Connect with Rachel Wright

Website: https://rachelwrightnyc.com

Instagram: @thewright_rachel

Twitter: @thewrightrachel

Resources

The Recovery Rocks Podcast.

Book: Ace, by Angela Chen.

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Hey everyone! Welcome to today's episode of the Wright Conversations Podcast! For today's episode, I'm joined by Lina Dune to talk about kink, sexuality, and her lived experience as a 24/7 sub. Lina also talks about the most common misconceptions, how to take the first steps into the world of kink, and the importance of boundaries in D/S relationships.

Let's delve in!

In this Episode You'll Learn:

• [01:19] A bit about Lina.
• [02:22] What encouraged Lina to get into this work?
• [06:23] What kink means to Lina.
• [09:56] Being a 24/7 sub.
• [12:56] Kink and exploring sexuality and sexual orientation.
• [15:28] Demisexuality and kink.
• [20:11] The misconceptions.
• [26:47] Getting started.
• [31:26] Power dynamics in D/S relationships.
• [35:12] Lina's words of wisdom.

Quotes:

• "[kink] is just a safe and negotiated container to experiment with things that are considered alternative from the mainstream of sexuality." [07:20]
• "Sex-positive doesn't mean every single person is going to be a fit." [21:10]
• "If you don't know what your limits are, we can't look outside ourselves for that information." [30:17]
• "The dom has their hands on the steering wheel, but the sub has their foot on the brake." [31:49]
• "Your boundaries are a gift." [35:22]
• "It'll never be perfect but it can be fun along the way." [36:50]

Connect with Lina Dune

Website: www.askasub.com.

Instagram: @askasub.

Twitter: @askasub.

Patreon: AskASub.

Connect with Rachel Wright

Website: https://rachelwrightnyc.com

Instagram: @thewright_rachel

Twitter: @thewrightrachel

Resources

The Conscious Kink Course.

The Sub Survival Guide.

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Sam (She/They) is the Founder of Shrimp Teeth. As a peer mentor, Sam has helped over 900 clients work through challenges around alternative relationships, kink, and queerness, with a focus on ethical non-monogamy and polyamory, queer identity and sexuality, kink and BDSM practices, and sexual violence prevention and recovery.

Hey everyone! Welcome to today's episode of the Wright Conversations Podcast! For today's episode, I'm joined by Sam to talk about the link between creativity and eroticism, where to start to get into eroticism, and working through the initial shame/embarrassment. Sam also talks about when the best time is to reevaluate your chosen direction, and how you can get started with Shrimp Teeth's exciting daily erotica prompts.

Let's delve in!

In this Episode You'll Learn:

• [01:15] A bit about Sam.
• [01:59] How Sam got started with Shrimp Teeth.
• [03:30] The connection between creativity and eroticism.
• [06:45] Where to begin if you feel a disconnect.
• [08:54] How Sam figured out that creativity and eroticism are linked.
• [10:17] Working past the shame/embarrassment.
• [14:35] When to reevaluate.
• [16:01] Sam's words of wisdom.

Quotes:

• "It's about giving yourself permission as much as it is about honing in your craft." [10:09]
• "You don't need to share any of this with anybody until you feel good." [12:00]
• "If you're trying something for the first time, you need to give yourself at least three opportunities before you decide whether or not you're going to like it." [13:16]
• "You can set the bar where you can step over it easily. That's where you start." [17:02]

Connect with Sam

Website: shrimpteeth.com.

Instagram: @shrimpteeth.

Connect with Rachel Wright

Website: https://rachelwrightnyc.com

Instagram: @thewright_rachel

Twitter: @thewrightrachel

Resources

Subscribe to Shrimp Teeth..

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Dr. Courtney Tracy, aka The Truth Doctor, is a renowned psychotherapist, licensed clinical social worker, healthcare entrepreneur, activist, creator, speaker, writer, and host of The Truth Doctor Show. By the age of 30, she became a licensed therapist, and received four degrees, including a Master of Social Work and a PhD in Clinical Psychology. Through her platform, The Truth Doctor, she is helping Gen Z and their families understand mental health stigma and healing.

Hey everyone! Welcome to today's episode of the Wright Conversations Podcast! For today's episode, I'm joined by Dr, Courtney Tracy to talk about being transparent on social media as a therapist, her BPD, and mental health diagnoses. Dr. Tracy also talks about the most common issues since the pandemic started, cultivating courage, and how to take the first steps towards navigating vulnerability.

Let's delve in!

In this Episode You'll Learn:

• [01:14] A bit about Dr. Courtney Tracy.
• [02:31] Sharing online as a therapist.
• [04:49] Borderline Personality Disorder.
• [07:00] Why BDP is so stigmatized.
• [09:25] Are mental health issues becoming over-diagnosed or are people becoming more aware and seeking diagnoses?
• [11:57] What has been the most common issue lately?
• [15:42] Dr. Tracy's advice.
• [17:52] Does Dr. Tracy need to cultivate courage?
• [19:51] How can someone know that they can benefit from what Dr.Tracy is putting out into the world?
• [22:08] The first step towards sharing and navigating vulnerability.
• [26:49] Dr. Tracy's words of wisdom.

Quotes:

• "Our species needs a lot of f*cking work." [10:58]
• "Even connecting with your distress is important." [16:59]
• "I'm just trying to share my truth with the hopes that it will prevent you from hiding yours." [20:31]
• "I wish we lived in a world where being yourself was not considered an act of f*cking bravery." [21:05]
• "You may think that everything in your life is out of control right now, but the things that are in your control once weren't, and they're so in your control now that you didn't even realize it." [27:01]

Connect with Dr. Courtney Tracy

Website: www.thetruthdoctor.com.

Instagram: @the.truth.doctor.

Twitter: @_thetruthdoctor.

TikTok: @the.truth.doctor.

YouTube: The Truth Doctor Show.

Podcast: Truth Doctor Show.

LinkedIn: Dr. Courtney Tracy.

Connect with Rachel Wright

Website: https://rachelwrightnyc.com

Instagram: @thewright_rachel

Twitter: @thewrightrachel

Resources

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Dr. J.J Kelly (she/they), aka The Punk Rock Doc, is a licensed clinical psychologist and emotional skills training expert. She spent 16 years working as a mental health professional in the health system, seeing first-hand the systemic injustices of ableism, elitism, homophobia, racism, sexism, and narcissism. She then decided to build a system based on love, laughter, and teaching, to achieve global healing and help others like themselves and unlock their superpowers.

Hey everyone! Welcome to today's episode of the Wright Conversations Podcast! For today's episode, I'm joined by Dr. J.J Kelly to talk about Dialectical Behavior Therapy, the misconceptions around its usage, and the reality of working with insurance companies. Dr. Kelly also talks about 'I feel' statements, identifying and owning our emotions, the symptoms of shame, and achieving global healing through gratitude.

Let's delve in!

In this Episode You'll Learn:

• [01:39] A bit about Dr. Kelly.
• [02:54] What is DBT?
• [04:32] BPD and DBT.
• [06:16] Who is DBT for?
• [07:52] The problem with working with insurance companies.
• [09:17] "I feel like…" statements.
• [16:33] Why do emotions matter?
• [18:25] Identifying shame.
• [21:09] The symptoms of shame.
• [23:13] How to start learning these skills.
• [26:18] Dr. Kelly's words of wisdom.

Quotes:

• "It shouldn't be black and white. Everything is gray." [04:06]
• "The word that comes after the word 'feel' has to be an emotion word." [10:35]
• "The majority of misery that humans experience is because of a lack of connection to themselves and each other." [17:33]
• "There's nothing more illogical than denying emotions." [17:45]
• "The very heart of narcissism is shame." [22:54]
• "Happy people act right." [26:38]
• "The natural by-product of liking yourself is wanting to give." [28:00]

Connect with Dr. Kelly

Website: www.drjjkelly.com.

Instagram: @drjjkelly.

YouTube: Dr. J.J Kelly.

Connect with Rachel Wright

Website: https://rachelwrightnyc.com

Instagram: @thewright_rachel

Twitter: @thewrightrachel

Resources

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