The Xpect Performance Podcast

In this episode, I sit down with Zanele Njapha, widely known as The UnLearning Lady, to explore the art of letting go — of habits, beliefs, and assumptions that no longer serve us. 

We unpack why unlearning is often harder than learning, how leaders can support change without forcing it, and what it truly takes to evolve as individuals and teams.

From reframing failure to monitoring your default thoughts, this is a conversation that challenges the stories we tell ourselves — and reminds us that growth begins where certainty ends.

🧭 Topics Covered

• The power of changing our minds without guilt
• How to observe and reframe default thoughts
• Why failure can be feedback, not final
• The courage it takes to let go before moving forward
• How leaders can support change instead of enforcing it
• The difference between individual and collective unlearning
• Misconceptions that hold people back from true growth
• Zanele’s hard truths and personal lessons in unlearning

Chapters:

(00:00) Intro 

(05:00) The Importance of Changing Your Mind

(07:00) Monitoring Our Default Thoughts

(09:30) Reframing Failure

(13:00) Why Do We Revert to Default?

(19:00) The Importance of Noticing

(24:30) Mental Wellness Practices

(29:00) Begin With the End in Mind

(36:00) Unlearning in Group vs Individual

(42:00) Misconceptions of Unlearning

(45:30) Zanele’s Hard Truths to Unlearn

(54:45) What Would You Wish For?

Check out Zanele below:

(3) Zanele Njapha | LinkedIn

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Much love, 

Clint

Have you ever felt worse after scrolling through social media — even when nothing in your life actually changed?
In this episode of The Xpect Performance Podcast, I unpack one of the biggest modern happiness traps: comparison.

From the biology behind why we compare, to how social media distorts our self-worth, this episode explores how to stop measuring your life by someone else’s ruler — and start building your own definition of success.

You’ll hear timeless insights from psychology, stories from rock legends Dave Mustaine and Pete Best, and practical tools to shift from comparison to contentment.
Because happiness doesn’t come from being the best — it comes from becoming better.

Key Takeaways

• Comparison is hardwired, but it’s up to you where to direct it.
• Social media amplifies insecurity by showing curated realities.
• True success is internal — not measured by likes, followers, or wealth.
• Happiness grows when you focus on trajectory, not results.
• Compare yourself to who you were yesterday — not to who someone else is today.

Resources:

https://open.spotify.com/episode/0oxcpQG9nTwaAxXOMCfYrG?si=q_gkx8VxThONocuyJluF5g

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Much love, 

Clint

In this episode, we sit down with Dr. Kris Goodwin from Intrinsic Pathways to explore the emerging practice of ketamine infusions for chronic mental illnesses. We cover the science, the experience, and the broader implications for mental health treatment.

Timestamps & Key Topics:

• 00:00 – Intro – Welcome and overview of the episode.
• 07:30 – How does Ketamine work? – The science behind ketamine’s effect on the brain.
• 13:30 – The Nature of the journey – Understanding the psychological experience during ketamine therapy.
• 16:30 – What does a session look like? – Step-by-step guide to a typical ketamine infusion session.
• 26:00 – What makes Ketamine infusions different – How this therapy differs from traditional treatments.
• 31:00 – The risks of psychedelic retreats – Important considerations for those exploring psychedelic therapies.
• 38:00 – Areas of psychedelic research – Latest findings and ongoing studies in the field.
• 44:00 – Case studies – Real-life examples of how ketamine therapy has helped patients.
• 51:00 – Thoughts on use in the general population – Exploring the potential for wider application.
• 56:30 – The possibility of over-prescription – Balancing accessibility with safe use.

Takeaways:

• Ketamine offers a rapid-acting option for treatment-resistant mental health conditions.
• The experience is highly individualized and guided by trained professionals.
• Research into psychedelics is expanding, but careful, controlled use is essential.

Resources & Links:

• ⁠Intrinsic Pathways
• ⁠⁠Instagram⁠
• ⁠Multidisciplinary Association for Psychedelic Studies – MAPS – Psychedelic Research for Psychological Healing⁠
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• Chapters:
• (00:00) Intro 
• (07:30) How does Ketamine work?
• (13:30) The Nature of the journey 
• (16:30) What does a session look like?
• (26:00) What makes Ketamine infusions different
• (31:00) The risks of psychedelic retreats 
• (38:00) Areas of psychedelic research
• (44:00) Case studies
• (51:00) Thoughts on use in the general population
• (56:30) The possibility of over prescription
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• Much love, 
• Clint

Tired of being a part of someone else's dream?

Overwhelmed at the thought of being on the helpless hamster wheel with no end in sight?

If you answered yes to either of these questions, you should give this episode your attention. 

Adele Benvie is an entrepreneur, public speaker and founder of The Success Company. In this episode we discuss:

- Collaboration vs Competition

- How to allow your business to mature

- How to restructure your life

- The benefits of taking time off

- How to live with intention

If you'd like to get in touch with Adele, check her out below:

⁠Home - Adele Benvie⁠

⁠Adele Benvie | Facebook⁠

⁠(5) Adele Benvie | LinkedIn⁠

⁠Home Page | The Success Company⁠

Resources:

https://www.pnas.org/doi/full/10.1073/pnas.1018033108 

Chapters:

(00:00) Intro 

(06:55) Collaboration vs Competition

(08:30) How to let your business mature

(11:00) The modern model of leadership

(13:30) The mindset of scaling and hiring

(17:30) Restructuring your life

(22:30) The benefits of time away 

(26:00) Productivity hacks

(28:30) Challenging the status quo

(32:00) Fear and focus on the controllables

(37:15) Living with intention

(45:00) Change your state, change your answers

(47:00) Changing our minds

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Clint

Becoming parents is one of life’s biggest transitions — and it can put even the strongest relationships to the test. In this episode, I sit down with psychologist Rakhi Beekrum to unpack the emotional, mental, and relational shifts couples experience when they welcome a new baby. From changing identities and intimacy challenges to communication breakdowns and rebuilding connection, we explore practical strategies to help couples not just survive, but thrive, in their new roles as parents.

If you're navigating parenthood — or preparing for it — this episode will give you the tools and insights you need to keep your relationship strong while raising a family.

Rakhi is a current practicing psychologist, being based in Durban North but she is also a motivational speaker, focusing on women’s health and personal development.

Rakhi has developed a significant following on social media because of the awesome information she is empowering people with. Check her out below:

⁠Instagram⁠⁠

Rakhi Beekrum - Psychologist | Durban North | Facebook⁠⁠

Rakhi Beekrum (@rakhibeekrum) | 

TikTok⁠⁠Home - Rakhi Beekrum⁠

Chapters:

(00:00) Intro and Rakhi's Background

(07:30) The Difference in Needs

(09:30) Working Moms vs Stay at Home Moms(11:00) Conflict Resolution

(19:30) Changing of Identities

(21:00) Carving Out Adult Time

(23:30) Individual Needs

(25:30) Quantity vs Quality Time

(29:00) Intimacy and Love Languages

(33:30) Cultural Differences

(35:30) Advice to New Parents

(36:45) Red Flags in a Marriage

(39:30) Importance of Self Care

(41:00) Dad Guilt 

(42:45) Gender Differences in Adjustment

(46:45) Value of Self Care

If you found this episode useful, please share it. 

Much love, 

Clint

What does it really take to go from rock bottom to 19-time world record holder? 

That is a question that only Lil Bianchi knows the answer to. 

In this episode, I sit down with Lil, now a strength and conditioning specialist, business owner and online educator. 

What you'll learn in this episode:

- How Lil transitioned from a brick-and-mortar gym to the online world of coaching. 

- The truth about her journey from cocaine addiction to world record holder in powerlifting.

- How to reframe adversity. 

- The difference between coaching online and in person. 

- The art of effective communication. 

- Navigating between fitness influencers and fitness educators

Connect with Lil below:

⁠OTG Strength Building & Training | 1 On 1 Coaching⁠

⁠Instagram⁠

Chapters;

(00:00) Intro 

(07:00) What is success?

(09:00) The art of communication online

(12:30) Knowing your why

(14:00) Academic background

(17:30) Navigating fitness influencers

(26:30) Steroid use and abuse

(29:05) World records and cocaine addiction

(35:30) Reframing adversity

(38:30) Young Lil vs Current Lil

(40:30) Elite athletes vs General population

(45:30) Communicating to elite athletes

(49:30) A day in the life of an online coach

(52:30) The value of being an expert

(55:30) Motherhood and productivity

Follow the show here:

⁠Instagram⁠

⁠Xpect Performance - YouTube⁠

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Clint

In this powerful episode, entrepreneur and Thoughtonomy author Grant Gavin joins me to unpack the habits, mindset shifts, and strategies that fuel long-term success.

We explore why consistency beats motivation, how to stack habits for lasting change, and the importance of knowing your worth. You’ll hear how Grant overcame self-doubt, built resilience, and developed a growth mindset that keeps him moving forward no matter the challenge.

We also dive into time management, accountability, and the underrated power of gratitude in business and life. If you’ve ever questioned your path, struggled to stay disciplined, or needed a reminder to prioritise yourself, this episode is for you.

Timestamps:

(00:00) My disillusionment & lessons in consistency

(08:30) The motivation fallacy

(13:00) Discipline & why consistency is king

(18:00) Comparing yourself to you

(22:45) Knowing your worth

(30:00) Accountability

(34:00) Habit stacking for success

(38:00) Overcoming self-doubt

(42:00) Building a growth mindset

(46:00) Choosing how to spend your time

(50:00) Prioritising your own needs

(54:30) Gratitude & resilience

(60:00) Changing your mind

 You’ll Learn:

• How to replace motivation with discipline

• Strategies to build resilience and self-belief

• The secret to consistent personal growth

Find Grant below:

⁠Thoughtonomybook | Your right to self-govern your own thoughts⁠

⁠Grant Gavin Business Coach - Grant Gavin⁠

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Clint

In this special episode, I take you deep into the tranquil world of Shinrin-yoku, or forest bathing — a Japanese practice of immersing oneself in the healing atmosphere of nature. We’ll explore how this simple yet profound ritual can rejuvenate your body, clear your mind, and restore your spirit.

In this episode, we will cover:

1. The Rest Ethic- In a culture that glorifies hustle, rest is radical. I explore why prioritizing intentional rest is not laziness, but a powerful act of self-care and regeneration.
2. What Is Shinrin-yoku? Discover the origins of forest bathing in Japan, and how it has evolved into a scientifically supported wellness practice around the world.
3. The Benefits of Forest Bathing- From lowered cortisol levels and improved immune function to enhanced mood and focus — I break down what research tells us about why forests heal.
4. The Meaning of Yūgen (幽玄)A beautiful Japanese concept that means "a profound, mysterious sense of the beauty of the universe." Learn how Yūgen deepens the forest bathing experience.
5. Being in the Present Moment- Forest bathing isn’t about hiking or exercise — it’s about simply being. I’ll guide you into how presence in nature reconnects us with something ancient and essential.
6. Five Steps to Begin Forest Bathing- I walk you through a simple, beginner-friendly practice to start your own Shinrin-yoku journey — no gear, no goals, just presence.
7. My Challenge to You- I end this episode with a heartfelt challenge: to step outside, slow down, and let nature speak. Can you gift yourself 20 minutes this week to simply be in the trees?

If this episode brought you a breath of fresh air, please consider subscribing and leaving a review. It helps others discover the podcast and join the journey back to stillness and simplicity.

• Chapters:
• (00:00) Intro 
• (03:30) Rest Ethic and Shinrin-yoku
• (05:00) Forest Bathing Benefits
• (11:20) Yugen
• (13:15) Being present
• (16:00) Five steps to forest bathing
• (20:30) My challeneg to you

Resources:

⁠Effect of forest bathing trips on human immune function | Environmental Health and Preventive Medicine | Full Text⁠

⁠The effects of forest bathing on psychological well-being: A systematic review and meta-analysis - PubMed⁠

⁠The physiological effects of Shinrin-yoku (taking in the forest atmosphere or forest bathing): evidence from field experiments in 24 forests across Japan - PubMed⁠

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Clint

In this episode, we take a stroll—figuratively and literally—through the vibrant city of Durban with our special guest, Ruth, from Durban Walking Tours.

Episode Summary:

Join us as we chat with the passionate guides behind Durban Walking Tours, a team committed to showcasing the city’s rich history, culture, and hidden gems—all at a walking pace. We explore what makes their tours both safe and memorable for locals and tourists alike.

Topics Covered in This Episode:

Marianhill Monastery- A serene and spiritual stop that surprises many with its architectural beauty and historical depth.

The Point Waterfront- Learn how this once-overlooked area has transformed into a must-see destination full of culture, color, and coastal charm.

The Old Whaling Station- A look back at Durban’s industrial past and the efforts to preserve its unique maritime history.

Florida Road- From an elephant trail the social heartbeat of Durban.

Grey Street- Once the center of Indian trade and activism, Grey Street’s history is as dynamic as its current-day character.

Tourism in Durban- We discuss the evolving tourism landscape in Durban, the growing interest in heritage travel, and why walking tours are making a comeback.

Whether you're planning your first visit to Durban or rediscovering your hometown, this episode will inspire you to slow down, look closer, and explore with fresh eyes.

Links & Resources:

⁠Home - Durban Walking Tours⁠

If you enjoyed this episode, don’t forget to subscribe, leave us a review, and share it with your fellow travelers. Got questions about Durban or suggestions for future episodes? Drop me a comment.

Chapters:

(00:00) Intro

(04:30) The Walking Tours and Safety?

(06:30) The Marianhill Monastery

(09:30) The Point

(12:30) The Old Whaling Station

(16:00) Florida Road

(18:10) Grey Street

(19:38) Largest Mosque in Southern Hemsiphere

(22:10) Addington Children's Hospital

(25:45) Tourism in Durban

(29:03) Botanical Gardens

(32:00) Victoria Embankment

(34:00) The Identity of KZN

(36:00) The Progress of Durban

(39:30) Active Lifestyle of Durban

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Clint

In this deeply inspiring conversation, I sit down with paddling legend and 12-time Molokai champion Oscar Chalupsky. Oscar’s story is one of resilience, mental toughness, and relentless optimism—from world-class athletic feats to facing cancer. Whether you’re an athlete, entrepreneur, or anyone seeking strength in adversity, this episode will leave you energised and empowered.

We explore what it means to truly have the will to win—how Oscar has applied this mindset not only in competitive sport but also in his battle with cancer.

Oscar discusses his unconventional approach to treatment and staying mentally strong while undergoing therapy. He shares lessons about sacrifice, consistency, and the inner engine that drives self-belief.

This episode also highlights Oscar’s passion for mentoring others and how he instils the values of resilience, preparation, and humility in those he coaches. We discuss why emotional discipline is essential for success and how learning from failure can become a superpower.

Finally, Oscar shares a memorable story about fellow paddling legend Grant Kenny, revealing what true greatness, respect, and competition look like at the highest levels.

 Key Takeaways

• Resilience is built daily—through habits, mindset, and choosing to act in the face of adversity.

• True champions are forged not just in competition, but in how they deal with life’s hardest challenges.

• Mental discipline, emotional control, and consistency matter more than raw talent over time.

• You can face even life-threatening situations with purpose, clarity, and belief in yourself.

Connect with Oscar below:

⁠(2) Oscar Chalupsky OLY | LinkedIn⁠

⁠Oscar Chalupsky – Corporate Speaker⁠

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Clint