In this episode (15) of the Yearning Heart podcast, Jennifer J. Lehr, LMFT delves into the insights shared by Dennis regarding mindfulness, relationships, and personal growth.

She emphasizes the importance of mindfulness in therapy,how it can be used to enhance self-awareness and emotional regulation, and the potential pitfalls of using mindfulness defensively. She also explores how mindfulness can heal anxious and avoidant attachment styles, deepen self-awareness, and strengthen relationships.explores the significance of attachment styles in relationships, the necessityvof growth and shared core values between partners, and the importance of focusing on what works in a relationship to foster connection and understanding.

Takeaways

Mindfulness helps strengthen the witness within us.

Being mindful allows us to notice our experiences withoutmerging with them.

Mindfulness can be misused as a defense mechanism.

It's essential to engage with our feelings rather than avoidthem.

Attachment styles influence how we can best use mindfulness in relationships.

Growth in relationships requires both partners to be willingto evolve.

Core values must align for a relationship to thrive.

Focusing on what works in a relationship fosters positivity.

Communication must be safe and compassionate for effective engagement.

Differentiation is key to understanding and relating to apartner.

Chapters

00:00 Exploring Mindfulness: A Deep Dive

06:06 Mindfulness Red Flags

07:11 What Do The Feelings Want?

07:43 Mindfulness and Attachment Styles

09:02 Mindfulness as a Cognitive Strength

11:37 When It is Time to Leave a Relationship

15:22 Core Values and Relationship Compatibility

16:50 I Can Only Control Myself

19:32 Engagement in the Process: Detaching from Outcomes

20:50 Focus On What Works

Keywords

mindfulness, self-awareness, relationships, attachmentstyles, emotional intelligence, personal growth, communication, core values,emotional connection, therapy

What does it take to create a 32-year relationship grounded in deep presence, personal growth, and unwavering commitment?

In this powerful conversation, Jennifer J. Lehr, LMFT welcomes renowned author and spiritual teacher Dr. Dennis Merritt Jones to share the inner journey behind his long-term marriage and the mindfulness tools that helped himtransform a shame-based upbringing into a conscious, loving partnership.

Find his books on Amazon by searching for Dennnis Merritt Jones.

In this Therapist Insights episode of The Yearning Heart Podcast, Jennifer Lehr, LMFT, unpacks the deeper emotional themes from Episode 12, where Samantha shared her story of reconnection after separation.

Jennifer explores the emotional and psychological dynamics of falling out of love, the role of postpartum depression in creating disconnection, and how couples can rekindle intimacy by learning to communicate, express needs, and take responsibility for their relational patterns.

This episode also dives into attachment styles, codependency, and the importance of character in sustaining long-term love.

💗 If you’ve ever felt lost in your relationship, struggled with emotional disconnect, or wondered how to rebuild after crisis — this episode offers both clarity and compassionate tools.

💬 Topics We Explore:

• Why couples fall out of love (and how to reconnect)

• How postpartum depression affects intimacy and attachment

• Communication as a bridge to deeper connection

• Attachment styles and how they show up in conflict

• Codependency vs. interdependence

• The role of character, responsibility, and emotional regulation

• Understanding the roots of infidelity

• Healing family-of-origin wounds that influence love

• Growing individually and together

🎯 Keywords:
falling out of love, emotional disconnection in marriage, codependency in relationships, postpartum depression and intimacy, secure attachment in love, how to communicate in marriage, healing infidelity, rekindling love

📲 Hashtags:
#TherapistInsights #RelationshipHealing #EmotionalConnection #PostpartumDepression #FallingOutOfLove #Codependency #AttachmentStyles #CouplesTherapy #TheYearningHeartPodcast

From emotional pain to true partnership — in this heartfelt episode of The Yearning Heart Podcast, Jennifer Lehr, LMFT, speaks with certified life coach Samantha Shoemaker about her powerful journey through postpartum depression, separation, and ultimately, reconnection with her husband.

Samantha shares how the weight of parenting, mental health struggles, and unresolved attachment patterns challenged her marriage — and how time apart led to self-awareness, therapy, and deep relational healing. Together, they explore the power of accountability, emotional growth, and the work required to truly transform a relationship.

Now supporting other women through life transitions as a coach, Samantha offers hard-won insight into what it means to own your story, ask for what you need, and rebuild love from a place of wholeness.

💗 If you've ever wondered whether a broken relationship can be repaired — this episode offers hope, tools, and emotional truth.

💬 Topics We Explore:

• Navigating postpartum depression and relational distance

• The emotional impact of parenting and mental health

• How separation became a catalyst for self-discovery

• Childhood wounds and their effect on adult attachment

• Using therapy as a bridge to reconnection

• The role of accountability in healing a broken bond

• Rebuilding a partnership through communication and truth

• Coaching, independence, and emotional self-awareness

• Empowering women to navigate transitions in love and life

Chapters

00:00 Introduction to Samantha's Journey

02:56 The Breakdown of Marriage and Infidelity

06:10 The Path to Healing and Reconnection

11:34 Lessons Learned About Love and Relationships

17:18 The Role of Communication and Connection

22:32 Navigating Parenting Through Divorce

27:32 Ongoing Growth and Independence

31:05 Applying Lessons in Coaching

33:51 Rebuilding Relationships: The Power of Therapeutic Work

🎯 Keywords:
saving a marriage after divorce, postpartum depression and relationships, relationship healing through therapy, separation and reconnection, emotional growth in marriage, rebuilding trust in love, coaching for relationship recovery

📲 Hashtags:
#MarriageHealing #RelationshipRecovery #PostpartumDepression #SeparationToConnection #TherapyInLove #EmotionalGrowth #LifeTransitions #TheYearningHeartPodcast

n this Therapist Insights episode, Jennifer Lehr, LMFT, unpacks the emotional complexity of the anxious attachment style and offers therapeutic tools to support healing, regulation, and deeper connection.

Jennifer explores how early emotional wounds manifest in anxious relational behaviors — from fear of abandonment to heightened sensitivity and emotional reactivity. She shares strategies for self-regulation, boundary setting, and clear communication, while highlighting the importance of compassion, intuition, and differentiation in building secure relationships.

💗 This episode is a supportive resource for anyone who struggles with anxious attachment and is working to build healthier, more secure love.

💬 Topics We Explore:

• What anxious attachment looks like in relationships

• How to self-regulate when triggered (especially with avoidant partners)

• Recognizing and healing personal emotional wounds

• Using timing and calm communication to express needs

• Compassion and accountability in relational dynamics

• Differentiation: staying connected while being yourself

• The impact of negative self-talk on love and self-worth

• How intuition helps identify red flags

• Building secure, emotionally safe relationships

Chapters

00:00 Introduction to Relationship Dynamics

00:53 Understanding Partner Needs and Differences

01:50 Anxiety and Avoidance03:46Curiosity and Compassion in Relationships

04:53 Wounds

06:03 The Anxious Avoidant Struggle

07:53 The Negative Cycle

09:44 The Importance of Self-Regulation

12:04 Communication Examples

13:20 Communication and Asking for Needs

15:08 Impact of Parents and Survival Strategies

17:22 Secure Relationships

17:55 Recognizing Red Flags in Relationships

18:35 Friendship, Compassion, Curiosity, Attunement

18:58 Differentiation

21:09 Developing Healthy Communication Skills

23:45 Listening to Our Bodies

25:11 Self Talk

26:28 Parent's Communication

27:16 Inner Voice

28:07 Listening to Intuition and Red Flags

29:28 Closing

🎯 Keywords:
anxious attachment healing, therapist advice for anxious partners, self-regulation in relationships, communication in insecure attachment, emotional triggers and self-worth, building secure relationships, understanding attachment trauma

📲 Hashtags:
#TherapistInsights #AnxiousAttachment #AttachmentHealing #EmotionalTriggers #SecureRelationships #SelfRegulation #RelationshipCommunication #TheYearningHeartPodcast

n this heartfelt episode, Jennifer Lehr, LMFT, speaks with Kristina about the emotional complexities of building healthy relationships. Kristina shares her personal experiences navigating early relationship challenges, recognizing narcissistic patterns in past partners, and learning the value of emotional safety, compassion, and self-awareness.

Together, they explore how generational trauma, anxiety, and communication blocks impact love — and how healing begins with self-compassion and mutual care.

💗 This episode offers a relatable and hopeful look at what real growth in relationships can look like.

👉 For deeper therapeutic insights on this topic, listen to the follow-up “Therapist Insights” episode on healing relational patterns and building secure love.

💬 Topics We Explore:

• Recognizing the signs of a healthy vs. unhealthy relationship

• How compassion and communication build emotional safety

• Triggers, anxiety, and body-based awareness in love

• The legacy of generational patterns on romantic behavior

• Identifying narcissistic traits in past partners

• Self-reflection and personal growth through relationship

• Why mutual care is foundational in lasting love

Chapters

00:00 Understanding Relationships: A Journey of Growth

06:03 Navigating Triggers and Communication

11:35 The Importance of Timing in Conversations

17:37 Generational Influences on Relationship Skills

22:30 Recognizing Narcissism in Relationships

26:48 The Foundation of a Healthy Relationship

29:26 Introduction to the Podcast and Its Purpose

 🎯 Keywords:
signs of a healthy relationship, emotional safety in love, compassion in relationships, recognizing narcissism, communication and triggers in relationships, generational trauma and dating

📲 Hashtags:
#HealthyRelationships #EmotionalSafety #CompassionInLove #RelationshipTriggers #NarcissisticTraits #SelfCompassion #TheYearningHeartPodcast

In this episode of The Yearning Heart Podcast, Jennifer Lehr, LMFT, speaks with Janet about the long-lasting emotional impact of growing up in a household with alcoholic parents.

Janet shares how her early experiences led her to tolerate emotional abuse in adult relationships, and how the journey toward healing required deep personal growth, therapy, and self-awareness. Together, they explore the challenges of recognizing dysfunctional patterns, the power of body awareness, and the importance of emotional intelligence in breaking generational cycles.

This is a story of reclaiming personal truth, setting boundaries, and learning to believe in your worth — even after a lifetime of emotional confusion.

Interwoven throughout this conversation, Jennifer offers Therapist Insights into how trauma is carried in the body, how childhood survival strategies become adult patterns, and what it takes to break free from generational cycles.

💗 If you’ve ever struggled with self-worth, stayed too long in an unhealthy relationship, or questioned your truth, this episode is for you.

💡 Topics We Explore:

• How growing up with alcoholic parents shapes adult relationships

• Why emotional abuse feels familiar when it mirrors childhood trauma

• The importance of body awareness and somatic healing

• Emotional intelligence and the path to personal power

• Speaking your truth in relationships

• The role of therapy in integrating trauma

• Recognizing generational trauma and ending the cycle

In this couragous and vulnerable conversation, Elaine shares her personal experiences with relationships, trauma, and the journey towards healing. The discussion delves into the impact of childhood trauma on adult relationships, the search for love and connection, and the challenges of setting boundaries. Elaine reflects on her love addiction and the importance of safety in relationships, while also exploring her therapy experiences and the role of community support.

The conversation emphasizes the need for self-discovery and healing as essential steps towards building healthy relationships.

This episode includes Therapist Insights as Jennifer Lehr, LMFT, offers a grounded and compassionate guide to healing from childhood trauma. Drawing on over 20 years of experience as a licensed therapist, Jennifer explores how unresolved childhood experiences shape our adult relationships, emotional patterns, and sense of self-worth.

She unpacks the core elements of relational trauma — including emotional neglect, insecure attachment, and abandonment wounds — and shares insights on how to begin reparenting yourself, establish emotional safety, and reclaim your inner voice.

Whether you grew up feeling unseen, feared rejection, or are still struggling with relational triggers, this episode offers validation, practical tools, and hope for lasting healing.

💡 Topics We Explore:

What healing actually looks like in daily life

Chapters

00:00 Exploring Relationship Dynamics and Trauma

06:08 Attachment Styles and Patterns in Relationships

13:07 Community, Anger, and Forgiveness

18:06 The Impact of Love Addiction

24:56 Healing and Setting Boundaries

30:28 Navigating Trust and Safety in Relationships

46:43 Understanding Trauma and Its Impact on Relationships

46:43 Introduction to the Podcast and Relationship App

47:21 Understanding Trauma and Its Impact on Relationships

In this powerful episode, Jennifer Lehr, LMFT, speaks with Wynn Austin — founder of Wynn's Kitchen — about her journey from a difficult childhood and painful divorce to finding a deeply secure, loving relationship.

Wynn shares how her early attachment style influenced her relationships and how, through self-reflection, therapy, and intentional growth, she began to transform her patterns.

Together, they explore the role of emotional healing, conscious communication, and nervous system safety in building lasting love. As Wynn prepares to enter a new marriage, she reflects on how true partnership requires not only choosing the right person — but also becoming the version of ourselves who can fully receive that love.

💗 If you've ever struggled with anxious attachment or wondered whether healing is possible after heartbreak, this episode offers insight and hope.

💡 Topics We Explore:

• How anxious attachment forms in childhood

• The impact of early wounds on adult love

• Healing after divorce through self-reflection and growth

• Coping mechanisms that block emotional intimacy

• Learning to recognize and shift old patterns

• Communication and conflict resolution in secure partnerships

• The role of safe partners in personal healing

• Building a strong “relationship container” that supports growth

Chapters

00:00 Wyn's Childhood and Its Impact

47:44 Understanding Emotional Needs in Relationships

50:10 Healing Attachment Wounds

52:37 Coping Strategies and Survival Mechanisms

55:11 Navigating New Relationships After Divorce

57:29 The Importance of Communication and Reassurance

59:36 Daily Practices for Relationship Growth

01:02:33 Creating a Strong Relationship Container

🎯 Keywords:
anxious attachment healing, secure love relationships, attachment styles in marriage, emotional healing after divorce, childhood trauma and love patterns, choosing emotionally available partners, how to build a healthy relationship

📲 Hashtags:
#AnxiousAttachment #SecureLove #HealingPastWounds #AttachmentStyles #RelationshipGrowth #EmotionalHealing #TheYearningHeartPodcast

In this Therapist Insights episode, Jennifer Lehr, LMFT, offers a deeper exploration of themes raised in Episode 3 with Kirsten — focusing on how people-pleasing behaviors and struggles with self-love are rooted in early family dynamics.

Jennifer examines how childhood experiences influence our ability to set boundaries, communicate needs, and choose emotionally available partners. She shares therapeutic insights and reflections to help you better understand your relational patterns and begin the journey toward self-trust and emotional safety.

If you've ever abandoned yourself to keep the peace or felt stuck in unhealthy cycles of overgiving, this episode is here to guide you back to your inner worth.

💡 Topics We Explore:

• The roots of people-pleasing in family systems

• Self-love as a boundary practice, not just a feeling

• Healing abandonment fears and self-doubt

• How family patterns shape romantic choices

• The importance of emotionally safe environments for children

• Choosing partners based on kindness and reciprocity

• Using self-talk as a healing tool

  
  

Chapters

00:00 Kirsten's Journey

01:36 Relationships Are Our Biggest Teachers

03:11 People Pleasing

05:13 What Kind of Partner To Look For

06:18 Family History

08:41 Awareness, Acceptance, Action

10:20 Self Talk

11:00 Leaving A Relationship for the Children

11:43 Impact on Children

12:17 Questions for you

13:08 Introduction to Weconcile and Relationship Building

🎯 Keywords:
people pleasing and relationships, self-love and boundaries, healing childhood wounds in love, therapist podcast on emotional health, emotional abandonment recovery, choosing healthy partners, recovering from codependency

📲 Hashtags:
#TherapistInsights #PeoplePleasingRecovery #SelfLoveHealing #FamilyWounds #RelationshipPatterns #EmotionalGrowth #TheYearningHeartPodcast