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For today’s episode, TJ, Nella, and Dr. Robin dive deep into one of the most emotionally charged life transitions: divorce. But this isn’t just about paperwork or custody. It’s about identity, healing, and the children caught in between.

The hosts share hard-earned insights from personal experience and years of therapy practice, guiding listeners through what happens to your sense of self when a marriage ends, why co-parenting often starts with parallel parenting, and how to protect your child’s emotional world, even when yours is falling apart.

Whether you’re in the thick of divorce, navigating custody, or supporting someone else, this episode offers honest, unfiltered wisdom to help you find clarity, calm, and confidence again.

IN THIS EPISODE

• Divorce is not just a breakup. It often brings an identity crisis.
• Many people lose themselves in the role of spouse or parent and don’t know who they are outside of it.
• Letting go of anger is essential for healing and personal growth.
• Divorce is grief. It’s normal to cycle through anger, sadness, confusion, and numbness.
• Just because someone was a bad partner doesn’t mean they’re a bad parent.
• Children should never be used as emotional crutches or messengers during divorce.
• Parallel parenting is a powerful tool when cooperative co-parenting isn’t possible.
• Kids feel the energy. Protecting their nervous system should come before “winning.”
• Don’t compare your children’s reactions. Every child processes divorce differently.
• Boundaries are essential, especially when toxic communication happens through phones or text.
• Support your kids’ autonomy. One day they’ll reflect on how you handled this.

BEST MOMENTS

1.05 “You can actually lose your own identity during divorce.”
7.18 “Divorce is grief… It’s going to be an emotional roller coaster.”
10.59 “When I stopped being angry at my husband, I swear my healing was so much faster.”
15.26 “Just because you’re divorced doesn’t mean that person suddenly became a bad parent.”
21.28 “You are playing Russian roulette with your child when you talk bad about their other parent.”
22.54 “Your primary goal should be to protect your child’s nervous system.”
26.47 “Co-parenting takes two. Parallel parenting works when one of you is still stuck in conflict.”
42.23 “This will be a drop of sand in your life. What matters is the relationship your child will have with you later.”
48.40 “I never wanted my child to say, ‘Why didn’t you stand up for me?’”

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Friendships CHANGE… But THIS Is How You Protect Your Peace

This week on Therapists Unhinged, we’re getting raw, real, and unfiltered about one of life’s toughest topics: friendships and boundaries.

Dr. Robin, TJ, and Nella get vulnerable about:
✔ What healthy friendships actually look like (spoiler: it’s not the front-door friends)
✔ How to spot a backdoor friend vs. an energy taker
✔ The hidden grief of outgrowing friendships
✔ When to set boundaries, when to walk away, and when to fight for a friendship
✔ Navigating adult friendships, who stays, who goes, and why it’s OK

You’ll laugh, reflect, and probably rethink some friendships after this one. Whether you have struggled with toxic friendships, felt guilty about cutting people off, or wondered why some people drain you, this episode gives you the real talk you have been needing.

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She’s Only 18... But What She Says About Mental Health Will Leave You Speechless

This week, the Therapists Unhinged crew gets real with a powerful new voice: 18-year-old Aniah, recent graduate, elite all-star cheerleader, and daughter of co-host Nella.

In this raw and emotional conversation, Aniah opens up about:

• How cheerleading saved her mental health
• The pressure teens feel from social media and parents
• Her honest take on therapy, trauma, and what actually helps
• Losing a friend to suicide, and the importance of support at home
• Becoming a coach at 18 and what it taught her about leadership

With Nella, TJ, and Dr. Robin holding space and sharing laughs, this is one of our most important episodes yet. If you’re a parent, teacher, coach, or just want to understand Gen Z better, this one is a must-listen.

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In this raw and hilarious episode, the Therapists Unhinged crew sits down with longtime educator and military veteran Rennie Ashcraft to unpack what’s really happening inside today's classrooms. From navigating the needs of neurodivergent and underachieving gifted students to confronting life-or-death mental health moments, Rennie pulls no punches.

She’s loud, she’s real, and she’s that “mean teacher” students end up loving. And if you’ve ever said teaching is easy, buckle up.

Inside this episode:

• What gifted kids actually need but rarely get
• The mental load teachers carry when social workers are stretched thin
• Why tough love, structure, and being seen can literally change a student’s life
• How the system is failing students, families, and educators
• And what it really means to be a "safe adult" in a school

From military maps to middle school chaos, Rennie’s journey is unforgettable. She shares how a comment from a boy led her to join the military, and how the loss of her stepmom pushed her toward teaching. Now nearly two decades in, she’s still fighting to give kids the support the system won’t.

Expect laughter, truth bombs, real talk about suicidal ideation in schools, and some solid side-eye at how little resources teachers actually have. This episode is full of heart, heat, and healing.

This is one every parent, therapist, teacher, and human needs to hear.

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In this episode of Therapists Unhinged, we had the incredible opportunity to chat with JeannieFit, a dynamic hip hop instructor and the founder of myHipHopFit. Jeannie shared her inspiring journey from her childhood in Colombia, where she faced language barriers and body image issues, to becoming a successful fitness entrepreneur dedicated to changing lives through dance and wellness.

We delved into the vital connection between mental and physical health, with Jeannie emphasizing that they go hand in hand. She passionately believes that engaging in physical fitness not only enhances our physical well-being but also significantly boosts our mental health. Jeannie’s classes are all about having fun while getting fit, and she encourages everyone to embrace movement as a form of self-care.

Throughout our conversation, Jeannie opened up about her personal struggles with body image and her journey to reclaim her health after becoming a mother of four boys. She offered valuable insights for parents, highlighting the importance of prioritizing self-care to be the best version of themselves for their children.

Jeannie’s infectious energy and passion for dance truly shone through, reminding us all that it’s never too late to start moving and to choose ourselves. We hope you enjoy this uplifting and empowering conversation as much as we did!

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In this episode of Therapists Unhinged, we tackle the intricate dynamics of relationships and the impact of our past experiences on our present interactions. We kick off the conversation by acknowledging that no partner will fulfill 100% of our needs, and we often project our unmet childhood needs onto our relationships.

Throughout the episode, we emphasize the importance of self-awareness and understanding our own expectations before seeking a partner. We discuss the concept of trauma bonding and how individuals may choose partners based on past experiences rather than genuine compatibility.

Communication emerges as a key theme, as we explore the necessity for both partners to express their needs and boundaries openly. We also highlight the difference between chemistry and compatibility, urging listeners to reflect on what constitutes a healthy relationship for them.

As therapists, we share our insights and experiences, encouraging our audience to engage in self-acceptance and personal growth. We remind listeners that a successful relationship is built on mutual respect and understanding, and that true fulfillment comes from recognizing our own worth as complete individuals. Join us for an unhinged yet enlightening discussion on navigating the complexities of love and connection!

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In this episode of Therapists Unhinged, we had the incredible opportunity to sit down with our second guest, Alexa, a 52-year-old Puerto Rican veteran who shared her powerful journey through mental health and personal transformation.

From the outset, Alexa opened up about her struggles with therapy and medication, emphasizing that finding the right combination was crucial for her healing. She candidly discussed the stigma surrounding mental health, particularly within the military and her cultural background, where seeking help is often viewed as a weakness. Alexa's story is a testament to the resilience of the human spirit, as she navigated her upbringing, military service, and the complexities of coming out in a strict religious environment.

Throughout our conversation, Alexa's humor and authenticity shone through, reminding us that while the path to mental wellness is fraught with challenges, it is also filled with moments of growth and self-discovery. She shared how her wife played a pivotal role in encouraging her to seek therapy and how important it is to find a therapist with whom you can connect.

We also delved into the broader implications of mental health in the military community, discussing the need for better support systems and the importance of understanding one's emotions. Alexa's transformation from feeling like a victim to embracing her identity as a survivor is a powerful reminder that healing is possible with dedication and the right support.

This episode serves as a beacon of hope for anyone struggling with their mental health. We hope that Alexa's story resonates with our listeners and inspires them to seek help, embrace their journeys, and remember that they are not alone in their struggles. Join us for this enlightening and heartfelt discussion on Therapists Unhinged!

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In this episode of Therapists Unhinged, we dive into the concept of manifesting with action, building on our previous discussions about finances, mental health, and mindset. We explore the popular trend of manifesting, which often involves positive affirmations, vision boards, and rituals like lighting candles. While these practices can be beneficial, we emphasize that they must be paired with concrete actions to truly achieve our goals.

We discuss the importance of defining clear, realistic goals and the necessity of taking actionable steps to reach them. Many young adults today are caught up in the allure of manifesting without understanding that simply wishing for success is not enough. We highlight the need for motivation and the willingness to put in the work, comparing the journey to running a marathon, it's about taking one step at a time and being prepared for setbacks.

Throughout the episode, we touch on the significance of surrounding ourselves with positive influences and the impact of our social circles on our mindset and motivation. We also address the challenges of unrealistic expectations and the importance of self-compassion when things don’t go as planned.

Listeners are encouraged to reflect on their own goals and the actions they are taking to achieve them, while also considering the lessons learned from setbacks. Ultimately, we remind everyone that manifesting is not just about dreaming; it’s about actively pursuing those dreams with intention and resilience.

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In this episode of Therapists Unhinged, we welcome our very first guest, Jeremy Lindquist, owner and financial advisor at Skypeak Financial. Our conversation delves into the profound connection between finances and mental health, a topic that resonates with everyone.

Jeremy shares his insights on how today's luxuries can quickly transform into tomorrow's necessities, urging us to recognize the importance of acknowledging our current circumstances and the paths that led us here. He highlights a common issue: many individuals, despite having financial security, struggle with their identity and purpose, which can lead to feelings of depression and disconnection.

We discuss the challenges faced by clients, particularly those navigating significant life changes like divorce. Jeremy explains that many people approach him in survival mode, often unaware of the financial tools and strategies available to them. He emphasizes the need for stability and understanding one's financial situation before making any drastic changes.

Throughout our conversation, we also touch on the emotional aspects of financial discussions. Jeremy points out that clients often wear their financial struggles on their sleeves, and he stresses the importance of creating a supportive environment where individuals feel empowered to make informed decisions about their finances without the pressure of immediate change.

As we conclude, we reflect on the significance of building a strong foundation of trust and communication in both financial and mental health practices. Our partnership between Skypeak Financial and Bella Mental Health aims to provide holistic support to our clients, helping them navigate their financial journeys while also addressing their mental and emotional well-being.

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In this episode of "Therapists Unhinged", we dive deep into the topic of entitlement mentality and its implications on various aspects of life, including relationships, the workplace, and generational dynamics. We explore the question of whether we are raising narcissistic individuals or if entitlement stems from unmet needs. Our discussion highlights the importance of understanding the backgrounds and experiences of those who exhibit entitlement behaviors, as many may be seeking healing from past traumas.

We celebrate our podcast's success, having surpassed 4,000 views in our first month, and tease upcoming guest appearances. As we unpack entitlement, we consider the balance between deserving and entitlement, emphasizing that while everyone deserves basic human rights and respect, entitlement often arises from unrealistic expectations without the necessary effort or work put in.

Throughout the episode, we share personal anecdotes and insights from our experiences as therapists, illustrating how unmet emotional needs can lead to maladaptive behaviors in adulthood. We also touch on the impact of societal changes and the increasing isolation of younger generations, which may contribute to feelings of entitlement.

Ultimately, we stress the importance of self-awareness, communication, and the need for individuals to take responsibility for their healing and growth. We encourage listeners to reflect on their own expectations and the work they put into their relationships and lives, reminding them that true fulfillment comes from within and is not simply a matter of entitlement.

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Therapists Unhinged is where mental health gets real. Hosted by licensed therapists who tell it like it is, this podcast dives deep into the messy, meaningful, and hilarious parts of being human. From mastering resilience to navigating the chaos of everyday life, we bring raw conversations, expert insights, and unfiltered honesty...no jargon, no BS.

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