Have we been blaming screens for rising anxiety when the real problem is something else entirely?

A new study suggests that perfectionism—not screen time—may be one of the biggest drivers of anxiety in young people. In this episode, Toni and Jackie explore why perfectionism has increased over the past several decades, how economic pressures and social expectations fuel it, and why technology may be amplifying a problem that was already growing.

They discuss the difference between healthy ambition and unhealthy perfectionism, why fear of failure can keep us from trying new things, and how parents can help children develop resilience instead of impossible standards. Along the way, they share personal stories about school, achievement, and learning to embrace the process rather than chasing perfection.

Whether you're raising children, navigating your own perfectionist tendencies, or simply wondering why anxiety seems more common than ever, this conversation offers practical insights and a hopeful perspective.

In this episode:

• Why researchers say perfectionism may be driving today's anxiety epidemic
• How social media reinforces impossible expectations
• The role economic pressure plays in mental health
• Healthy achievement vs. perfectionism
• Why resilience requires failure
• Helicopter parents, lawnmower parents, and helping kids thrive
• Finding joy in hobbies without turning them into side hustles

Resources Mentioned:

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Easy Somatic Exercises for Everyone's Brain
https://www.amazon.com/Easy-Somatic-Exercises-Everyone-Brain/dp/B0GGTF8YFJ/

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This week, we’re trying something a little different with a Summer Tech News Roundup—three fascinating stories that explore how technology is changing the way we think, connect, and navigate everyday life.

First, we discuss a study of 7,002 Shark Tank pitches that found matching another person’s vocal style can make you more persuasive. Where’s the line between building rapport and manipulating people—especially as AI becomes more human-sounding?

Next, we dive into Wired’s coverage of the Luddite Festival, where Gen Z is pushing back against Big Tech by creating spaces for real-world connection, creativity, and community. Is this the beginning of a larger movement toward digital balance?

Finally, Jackie shares her firsthand experience using Apple’s Vehicle Motion Cues, an accessibility feature designed to reduce motion sickness while riding in a car. Does it actually work? And what does it teach us about designing technology that works with human biology instead of against it?

Join therapist Toni Teixeira, LCSW, and entrepreneur Jackie Toale, CPA, as they explore the psychology behind technology, the importance of human connection, and the innovations that are shaping our daily lives.

• Want to Be More Persuasive? A Massive New Study of 7,002 Shark Tank Pitches Says This Surprising Factor Makes a Big Difference (Inc.)
https://www.inc.com/bill-murphy-jr/want-to-be-more-persuasive-a-massive-new-study-of-7002-shark-tank-pitches-says-this-surprising-factor-makes-a-big-difference/91369676

• Inside the Luddite Festival Harnessing Gen Z’s Rage Against Big Tech (Wired)
https://www.wired.com/story/inside-the-luddite-festival-harnessing-gen-zs-rage-against-big-tech/

• Apple’s Weird Anti-Nausea Dots Cured My Car Sickness. I Am in Love. (The Verge)
https://www.theverge.com/tech/942854/apple-vehicle-motion-cues-review-really-work

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Technology has changed the way we work, communicate, and stay connected—but what if it’s also changing our relationships in ways we don’t even realize?

In this episode of Therapy, Tech & Takeout, Jackie Toale and Toni Teixeira welcome Dr. Julie Merriman, licensed professional counselor, educator, author, and host of the Sexy After 50 podcast, for a conversation about the surprising connection between technology, chronic stress, the nervous system, and intimacy.

Dr. Merriman explains why our brains and bodies were never designed for constant notifications, endless to-do lists, and being “always on.” When our nervous systems stay stuck in survival mode, desire, pleasure, and genuine connection often take a back seat.

Together, they discuss:

• Why technology keeps us in a low-grade stress response
• How chronic stress affects intimacy and desire
• The difference between spontaneous and responsive desire
• Simple ways to regulate your nervous system
• How wearable technology like HRV monitors can support better self-awareness
• Why movement, rest, and embodiment matter
• The powerful idea that you’re not broken—you’ve been tamed

Whether you’re navigating burnout, struggling to slow down, or simply curious about how modern life is shaping your relationships, this episode offers practical insights you can start using today.

🌐 Website: https://juliemerrimanphd.com

📖 Free Desire Reset Guide:
https://juliemerrimanphd.com/desire

📚 Book:
Are We Gonna Have Sex or What?
Available on Amazon and at:
https://juliemerrimanphd.com

🎙️ Podcast:
Sexy After 50
Available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and at:
https://juliemerrimanphd.com

✨ Program:
Alive: 28 Days to Rebuild Your Capacity for Pleasure, Presence, and Desire
Launching August 2026
https://juliemerrimanphd.com/alive

📱 Instagram:
https://www.instagram.com/dr.juliemerriman

📘 Pre-order Toni Teixeira’s upcoming book
Easy Somatic Exercises for Everyone’s Brain
https://www.amazon.com/Easy-Somatic-Exercises-Everyone-Brain/dp/B0GGTF8YFJ/

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Connect with Dr. Julie Merriman

Remote work changed everything. It gave us flexibility, eliminated commutes, and let millions of people rethink what work could look like.

But did we lose something along the way?

This week on Therapy, Tech & Takeout, Jackie and Toni discuss new research looking at the connection between working from home, loneliness, and mental health.

They explore why the small moments we often overlook — hallway conversations, grabbing coffee, chatting with coworkers — may play a bigger role in our well-being than we realized.

Toni shares a therapist’s perspective on why human connection matters, how isolation impacts mental health, and why the solution isn’t necessarily going back to the office. It’s about being more intentional with connection.

In this episode:
💻 The hidden mental health impact of remote work
🧠 Why comfort and well-being aren’t always the same thing
☕ The importance of small everyday interactions
📱 Whether digital connection can replace in-person connection
🚗 Why transitions and rituals help separate work from home
🤝 How to build connection in a remote world

Remote work isn’t the problem. The question is whether we’re designing our lives around the connection humans need.

Because sometimes being connected all day still leaves us feeling alone.

#RemoteWork #MentalHealth #WorkFromHome #Burnout #Loneliness #TherapyTechAndTakeout

What happens when accessing therapy requires handing over more than your insurance card?

This week on Therapy, Tech & Takeout, Jackie and Toni dive into the growing debate around Headway’s new biometric verification requirements - including government IDs and facial scans for some patients and providers.

On the surface, identity verification sounds simple: protect patients, prevent fraud, and make sure people are who they say they are. But what happens when that data is tied to mental health care? And what happens when saying “no” could mean losing access to your therapist?

Toni breaks down the ethical concerns from the therapist perspective, including informed consent, client abandonment, and the importance of protecting the therapeutic relationship. Jackie explores the bigger technology questions: Who owns our biometric data? How is it stored? And what happens when private companies collect deeply personal information?

Together, they discuss:

• Why facial recognition in healthcare raises new privacy questions• The difference between verification and surveillance• How venture-backed mental health platforms are changing therapy• The risks when business decisions impact clinical relationships• Why vulnerable patients may not feel like they truly have a choice• What therapists and clients should talk about before changes happen

Technology can make care more accessible - but when efficiency, data, and profit enter the conversation, we have to ask: what are we giving up in exchange?

Check out Toni’s book:Easy Somatic Exercises for Everyone’s Brain⁠https://www.amazon.com/Easy-Somatic-Exercises-Everyone-Brain/dp/B0GGTF8YFJ/

🎧 Listen now and join the conversation about the future of therapy, privacy, and technology.

#MentalHealth #Therapy #AI #Privacy #DigitalHealth #MentalHealthTech #HealthcareTechnology #Therapists

Can AI Cure Loneliness… or Is It Making Us More Alone?

AI companions are being marketed as the answer to one of the biggest problems facing society: loneliness. But can a chatbot, robot, or AI friend actually replace human connection?

In this episode of Therapy, Tech & Takeout, Jackie and Toni explore the complicated relationship between artificial intelligence, loneliness, mental health, and our basic human need to belong.

Inspired by a Fortune article from loneliness researcher Clay Routledge and an episode of The Daily about AI companions for older adults, we look at both sides of the conversation. Technology can provide reminders, stimulation, conversation, and support… but what happens when we start treating AI as a replacement for relationships instead of a tool that helps us build them?

Toni breaks down why real relationships require reciprocity, vulnerability, and the experience of being impacted by another person - things AI can simulate but not truly provide.

We also discuss:

• Why loneliness is about more than having someone (or something) to talk to• The difference between sharing with a person and interacting with a chatbot• AI companions for seniors and vulnerable populations• The risks of replacing community with technology• Why pets feel different from AI relationships• Therapy chatbots, emotional connection, and mental health concerns• How profit incentives and engagement models shape technology• Whether AI could be redesigned to connect people instead of isolate them• Privacy concerns as AI enters more personal parts of our lives

Technology is moving quickly, but maybe the bigger question is not “Can AI make us feel less lonely?” Maybe it’s “Why are so many people lonely in the first place?”

Media discussed in this episode:

Fortune - Loneliness researcher: I’ve studied social connection for 25 years. AI companions will make our crisis worsehttps://fortune.com/2026/05/23/loneliness-researcher-ai-companions-social-disconnection-warning/

The Daily - Can AI Make People Feel Less Lonely?https://www.nytimes.com/2026/05/28/podcasts/the-daily/ai-robot-elderly-loneliness.html

Check out Toni’s book:
Easy Somatic Exercises for Everyone’s Brain
https://www.amazon.com/Easy-Somatic-Exercises-Everyone-Brain/dp/B0GGTF8YFJ/

Subscribe to Therapy, Tech & Takeout for conversations about technology, mental health, ethics, and what it means to stay human in a rapidly changing world.

#ArtificialIntelligence #MentalHealth #Loneliness #AICompanions #TherapyTechAndTakeout

What happens when insurance companies, venture capital, and AI start reshaping therapy?

This week on Therapy, Tech & Takeout, Jackie and Toni sit down with licensed mental health counselor Sarah LaFontaine for a powerful conversation about the collision between technology, business incentives, and mental health care.

From insurance companies pressuring therapists into shorter sessions… to AI therapy bots making dangerous mistakes… to the growing role of venture capital in therapy platforms, this episode explores what gets lost when efficiency becomes more important than human connection.

Sarah shares the inspiration behind her work with:

• Mindful Matches
• MindfulHQ
• Rising Hope Counseling Services

Together, they unpack:

• The ethics of AI therapy tools
• Therapist burnout and sustainability
• Psychological safety in workplaces
• Confidentiality concerns in digital mental health platforms
• Why therapy is both an art and a science
• The growing tension between patient care and profit motives

The conversation also explores whether AI can truly replace human connection in therapy - and why “keeping humans in the loop” may matter more now than ever.

If you care about mental health, technology, ethics, or the future of care itself, this episode is for you.

Guest Information

Sarah LaFontaine

Rising Hope Counseling ServicesRising-Hope.coFacebook: @SarahLaFontaineLMHCInstagram: @rising_hope_therapy

MindfulHQMindfulHQ.comFacebook: @SarahLaFontaineMindfulHQInstagram: @sarahlafontaine_mindfulhq

Mindful MatchesMindfulMatches.comFacebook: @MindfulMatchesDirectoryInstagram: @mindful_matches

Articles & References

Brown University AI & Mental Health Ethics Article

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About Therapy, Tech & Takeout

Therapy, Tech & Takeout explores the intersection of mental health, technology, ethics, relationships, and modern life. Hosted by entrepreneur Jackie Toale and therapist Toni Genovese Teixeira, the podcast tackles difficult conversations with honesty, humor, and curiosity.

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In this episode of Therapy, Tech & Takeout, Jackie and Toni unpack the disturbing revelations from the Proof News investigation into  Talkspace and the privacy risks surrounding online therapy platforms. Inspired by the article “Woman’s Talkspace Therapy App Sessions Exposed in Court,” they explore how deeply personal therapy conversations (including text messages, audio recordings, and video sessions) were allegedly stored and later surfaced during legal discovery.  

Toni brings her perspective as a licensed therapist to explain how confidentiality, HIPAA, subpoenas, and therapist ethics actually work behind the scenes - and why many clinicians themselves may not have realized the extent of data collection happening on these platforms. Jackie examines the tech side of the issue, including AI training data, “de-identified” information, venture capital incentives, and the growing concern that sensitive mental health conversations may be fueling future AI therapy products without meaningful user understanding or consent.  

The conversation also dives into:

• The hidden privacy risks of asynchronous therapy apps
• Whether therapy app data is truly anonymous
• How subpoenas can expose deeply personal mental health records
• Why therapists are increasingly concerned about large corporate therapy platforms
• The impact of tech consolidation on therapist burnout and quality of care
• Questions consumers should ask before starting online therapy
• The ethical tension between accessibility, profit, AI, and human care

This episode is equal parts fascinating, unsettling, and deeply important for anyone using digital mental health services or considering therapy online.

Source article:Proof News Investigation - Woman’s Talkspace Therapy App Sessions Exposed in Court

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Online gambling and sports betting have become deeply embedded in modern culture - and teens are increasingly being exposed earlier than ever before.

This week, Jaclyn and Toni sit down with Dr. Juleen Buser, behavioral addiction specialist and licensed professional counselor, to explore the psychology behind gambling addiction, why online betting can become so compulsive, and how technology has dramatically changed access and risk for adolescents.

In this episode, we discuss:

• The rise of teen sports betting
• Dopamine and behavioral addiction
• Why gambling often hides in plain sight
• How apps and online games reinforce addictive patterns
• Warning signs parents should know
• Why gambling addiction carries one of the highest suicide risks among addictions
• What counseling and recovery look like

Links:

Dr. Juleen Buser - LinkedIn:
https://www.linkedin.com/in/juleen-buser-115515293/

Psychology Today:
https://www.psychologytoday.com/profile/1657331

Facebook - Cardiff Health, LLC:
https://www.facebook.com/cardiffhealth

NPR Article:
https://www.npr.org/2026/04/05/nx-s1-5762276/teens-getting-hooked-on-gambling-sports-betting

Preorder Toni's new book: https://www.amazon.com/Easy-Somatic-Exercises-Everyone-Brain/dp/B0GGTF8YFJ/

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An AI agent was reportedly given explicit instructions not to make unauthorized changes… and then deleted a company’s production databases and backups anyway.

This week on Therapy, Tech & Takeout, Jackie and Toni explore the ethical, psychological, and societal implications of AI systems behaving in unexpected and potentially devastating ways.

Using the recent Claude AI database deletion story as a starting point, they discuss:

• whether AI safeguards are real or just perceived
• why humans overtrust technology
• how automation changes our relationship with responsibility
• the psychological comfort of outsourcing decision-making
• existential fears surrounding AI
• the role political leaders should play in regulating emerging technology
• and how intentional technology use may protect our autonomy and mental well-being

They also explore how cognitive bias impacts our perception of technological risk, why many tech leaders limit technology exposure for their own children, and whether AI is becoming the “junk food” of modern life.

Referenced articles & resources:

• The Guardian article discussed in this episode: https://www.theguardian.com/technology/2026/apr/29/claude-ai-deletes-firm-database
• Forestiere Underground Gardensin Fresno, California: https://undergroundgardens.com/

#AI #ArtificialIntelligence #TechEthics #MentalHealth #Automation #DigitalWellness #Psychology #Technology #ClaudeAI