There She Is

In this solo "Quickie with Aimee," I'm sharing a gentle reminder—for both of us—on how to find calm in the midst of midlife transitions.

My twins just graduated high school, the future feels uncertain, and summer's lack of structure has me swimming in emotions. I'll be honest: I forgot my tools for a minute and I was feeling a bit lost in the fog.

This episode is my way of coming back to center—and inviting you to do the same. If you're feeling foggy, untethered, or overwhelmed, here are some simple, grounding practices to help you feel a little more steady in the unknown.

Whether you're in midlife, in a transition, or simply feeling untethered this summer—this one's for you. And as always, take what resonates. Make these your own. Honor your way and what works best for you and your life. I'd love to hear your grounding rituals and routines in the comments!

✨ In this episode, I share:

• The power of acknowledging you're in a hard season (and offering yourself grace)

• Four grounding tools that help me find steadiness in uncertain times

• Why platonic touch and connection are vital to well-being

• A powerful mindset shift when you're in the "I don't know" space

👉 Get your free PDF of the 4 Grounding Tools Here!

♥️ Know someone going through a big change? Share this episode with them. Let's support each other through the messiness and the magic of all that is midlife!

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In this powerful final episode of our three-part BDSM series, I share a deeply personal experience: the scene I participated in during a professional training—a scene that pushed my edges, met a core childhood wound, and reminded me of the power of safe, consensual play.

Alongside my sweet guest and fellow Somatica-trained coach, Daisy Fulgham, we unpack what made this scene so impactful—from the emotional build-up and the intentional tools used, to the aftercare that allowed deep integration. We talk about the healing power of being witnessed, of being chosen, and of not having to be perfect in order to be loved.

This is a tender, grounded, and embodied conversation about:

· The importance of boundaries, limits, and safe words

· What "aftercare" really is and why it matters—both inside and outside the bedroom

· How BDSM can support deep psychological healing

· The beauty of being nurtured and celebrated in your vulnerability

· Why "sprinkling" BDSM into your sex life doesn't require a dungeon (unless you want one 😉)

This is an invitation to stay curious and compassionate—with yourself and with others. My story may not be your story, but I hope it expands your understanding of what's possible when we allow ourselves to be fully seen and fully held.

An extra special thank you to Daisy Fulgham for her generous presence and insight, and to Shelby Devlin for her exquisite facilitation, integrity, and just for being the beautifully authentic and courageous human she is. Learn more about Shelby [link if available].

When you're ready for more…

✨ Daisy & I both offer complimentary calls to see if we're a good fit for working together. Whether you're partnered or single, wanting to explore BDSM or other avenues of intimacy and relationships, we'd love to connect!

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In this second episode of our 3-part series on BDSM, Daisy and I go deeper into the heart of this often-misunderstood world—exploring its powerful potential for healing, agency, and joyful discovery.

We share personal reflections from a recent BDSM training for coaches, including what it felt like to learn and practice giving and receiving impact (like hair pulling, spanking, and even slapping), and how the emphasis on consent and choice created a surprisingly playful and freeing experience.

Whether you're curious about BDSM or simply drawn to the idea of exploring your edges in a safe and empowered way, this conversation is for you.

💥 In this episode, we explore:

• Why BDSM can be healing when done with care

• The difference between pain and harm—and how pain can be pleasurable

• The liberating joy of discovering new desires

• How setting boundaries and speaking your needs is its own act of empowerment

• Why exploring your "growing edge" can lead to deeper confidence and embodiment

We also tease what's coming next: my own vulnerable demo, where I step into a scene and explore my edges in a deeply personal and revealing way. That conversation continues in Part 3—don't miss it.

This series is for the curious. You don't need to "be into it." You don't need to know anything. You just need a little curiosity.

Want support exploring your desires or creating more connection in your life? Book a free connection call with me here.

Connect with Daisy Fulgham Website: www.daisyfulgham.com Instagram: @daisy.fulgham.coaching

What if surrendering control could be the most empowering thing you've ever done?

In this juicy first installment of a 3-part series on BDSM, Aimee is joined by fellow Somatica® coach Daisy Fulgham to explore the psychology, playfulness, and healing power behind BDSM dynamics. Recorded just after an immersive BDSM training, this episode offers a soft introduction to the world of bondage, discipline, dominance, submission, sadism, and masochism.

Together, Aimee and Daisy share:

· A clear, consent-centered definition of BDSM (and what it's not)

· The different kinds of "subs" and why they enjoy the role

· What it's like to step into Dom energy for the first time

· A vulnerable story of Aimee's surprising college hookup that hinted at her core desires

· A playful yet powerful exercise in getting someone to their knees — without ever touching them

Whether you're BDSM-curious, already exploring, or just want a peek behind the curtain, this episode is full of fun, insight, and perhaps some surprises about what it means to explore your erotic edge with care, curiosity, and consent.

⚠️ Warning: This episode is for adults only. Not safe for carpooling with the kids or your mom – unless she's that kind of mom.

If you're interested in private coaching with Aimee, visit www.aimeeames.com and book a free Discovery Call.

A little more about Daisy- Daisy Fulgham is a trained Sex and Relationship Coach through the Somatica® Method, dedicated to helping individuals and couples break down shame, uncover their core desires, and rewrite the story of their intimate life. Her work supports clients in building emotional vulnerability, enhancing sexual connection, and navigating dating challenges. Whether you're looking to reignite passion, grow in self-confidence, or connect more deeply with others, Daisy brings bold, compassionate guidance to help you own your pleasure and power. Her work is about more than just sex—it's about liberation. Connect with Daisy at DaisyFulgham.com

It's my birthday and There She Is is 2 months old! I have appreciation gifts for YOU!

In this special birthday episode of There She Is, I'm celebrating by sharing one of my most cherished rituals: a powerful self-devotion practice I do each year to honor my body, reflect on my growth, and deepen my self-love.

Deeper, more fulfilling connections and intimacy begin with your relationship with yourself. This is a simple and nourishing practice that invites in more self-love and gratitude for your amazing vessel, exactly as it is.

Whether you have 5 minutes or 30, this practice can become a beautiful way to actually rewire your brain and how you feel about your body. If you're ready to awaken to more pleasure, presence, and appreciation in your life, you'll love this ritual!

I also share a few birthday gifts for you, including special offers on coaching, breathwork sessions, and details about the next gatherings of Our Sacred Circle.

In this episode, you'll hear:

• A guided body love practice rooted in presence, gratitude, and touch

• How touch can rewire your brain to increase self-love and body acceptance

• A simple version of this practice you can use daily

• Insight into reclaiming your body — especially for mothers and midlife women

• Announcements and discounts for May: coaching, breathwork, and community circles

✨ Birthday Offers Mentioned:

• 20% off a 6-session coaching package (start by Sept. 30)

  • Schedule a complimentary call (required) here

• 20% off 3 private breathwork sessions (only 3 packages available!)

  • no code needed with this link

• Our Sacred Circle monthly gatherings — now with virtual options!

All the details are at www.aimeeames.com.

If you're feeling disconnected from your sex life in midlife, you're not alone.

Last week I shared some reasons why I am having the best sex of my life, and this episode is an opportunity for you to ask yourself how fulfilled you are. There isn't a need to fix or solve anything right now. Just compassionately check-in with what's true for you.

Midlife shifts so much: your body, your time, your energy, your desires.This isn't about what needs changing. It's about checking in with where you are right now—with honesty, curiosity, and compassion.

In this Quickie, we talk about:

• Why awareness—not action—is the first step
• Redefining sex, intimacy, and connection in midlife
• The many reasons less sex or low desire are normal—and not shameful
• A powerful reframe around sexual trauma and healing

📍Whether you're curious, content, or craving more—this episode offers meaningful reflections to help you tune into what's true for you.

If you''d like to explore this more with me, book a complimentary connection call. I'd love to support you.

Learn more about Aimee and her coaching at www.aimeeames.com and follow her on Instagram @aimeeamescoaching.

Welcome to our first "Quickie with Aimee" - a solo episode in 20 minutes or less. I'm getting even more vulnerable in this one and diving into a topic I promised this podcast would explore more fully - sex in midlife.

Inspired by a recent New York Times article about Gen X women having the best sex of their lives, I couldn't help but shout same here! But why is that true for me? In this quickie episode, I share four personal reasons why, at age 50, I'm experiencing the most satisfying, fulfilling, and adventurous sex of my life.

If you're curious about what might be possible for your own sex life - divorced, dating, single, or partnered - this one's for you. 🔥

In this episode, I share:

• Why new partners have brought surprising freedom and possibility

• The power of connecting with your erotic energy - and how it affects so much more than sex

• How ditching alcohol has made my sex life even better

• The role of body love, acceptance, and confidence in creating deeper pleasure

A little teaser - next week's quickie will explore the flip side - why you might not be experiencing your best sex and what, if anything, you'd like to do to change that.

Can't wait to listen? Download the episode and join me!

In this soul-nourishing episode, I'm joined by one of my dearest friends and chosen family, Marni Ilyse Rivera. We explore the power of deep friendship in midlife — the kind that sees you, supports you, and says "There she is" every time you show up as your full self.

From our first meeting to becoming besties and "Mama partners", we reflect on the magic of female connection, how chosen sisterhood has become one of the most transformative relationships in our lives, and what it means to walk through fire together. We laugh, cry, tease, and honor each other — and we invite you into the joy, safety, and radical acceptance that true friendship can offer.

Whether you've found your "person" or are still longing for deep connection, this episode is a heartfelt reminder that it's never too late to find your people, become yourself, and feel at home in love that doesn't have to be romantic to be life-changing.

In this episode, we talk about:

• The healing power of a midlife friendship built on loyalty, honesty, and unconditional love
• How Marni's comfort in the discomfort allows her to show up for others — from grief and illness to everyday struggles — with presence, compassion, and homemade chicken pot pie
• The way breathwork cracked open a new channel of connection for Marni — creatively, emotionally, and spiritually — including powerful visits with her mom and grandma on the other side
• How her deep faith fuels her service and inspires her mentorship of the youth in our community, especially as a steady, loving presence for teens navigating loss and identity
• Our shared dreams of community living, spiritual growth, and what it looks like to cheer each other on as single women and moms
• Our dream of working together to create spaces for women in midlife to be supported and seen - Our Sacred Circle is just the start!

If this episode touched you, share it with your special "Marni" friend. Or, if you're seeking this kind of connection, come join Our Sacred Circle — a new gathering for midlife women to be seen, supported, and celebrated. 💛

Follow along and connect with me on IG @aimeeamescoaching or on my website www.aimeeames.com

Follow Marni on IG @marni.ilysehomes.

More details about Our Sacred Circle, a monthly gathering for midlife women, can be found here.

In this episode, Kelly Day O'Brien and I continue our conversation, this time with sleep in midlife as the focus. As a mindfulness and sleep coach, Kelly has some surprising and helpful insights and tips on how to support the most restorative sleep possible. For those of you who like to be in control, welcome to your growing edge!

Kelly shares the most common physiological and psychological sleep challenges midlife women face, especially during perimenopause and menopause. We talk about hormone shifts, anxiety spirals at 3 a.m., the pressure to "sleep right," and the profound impact of overthinking our rest.

You'll hear about:

• Why you can't force sleep—and what happens when you try
• How midlife hormones change your sleep needs
• What "sleep hygiene" really means (and what it doesn't)
• The role of mindset and surrender in getting better rest
• How connection—emotional and physical—impacts our sleep
• Practical tips for honoring your body's shifting rhythms
• When and why sleeping separately might be something to consider

This conversation is for you if you are tired of being tired, wanting to find peace with sleep, or looking for practical and mindful ways to support your unique body's sleep needs. Hope you enjoy and blessings for sweet dreams!

You can learn more about Kelly and her coaching at www.rootwellcoaching.com

Aimee's website is www.aimeeames.com and you can follow her on IG @aimeeamescoaching.

In this episode of There She Is, I'm joined by my accountability coach, Kelly, for an honest and empowering conversation about what it really means to hold yourself accountable—especially in midlife.

As part of the year-long program Accountability Works (AW), I've discovered that effective accountability isn't about rigid discipline or perfection, but about learning to meet yourself with compassion, curiosity, and the courage to pivot when something no longer fits. This approach has helped me grow my business while staying grounded in honoring my unique way of doing things.

While this may not sound like a super sexy topic, I think you'll find it very relatable as one of the everyday ways we can connect even more to our "There She Is" energy. It's about personal growth, self-awareness, and showing up for yourself in the best and most loving way you can, for now.

Highlights of our conversation include:

• The one commitment that got me into AW and how it eventually led me to the creation of this podcast
• The lessons that can be found in the missed commitments
• How compassion and curiosity—not shame—are the fuel for sustainable change
• The importance of honoring what's most aligned for now and how redirection is not the same as quitting
• How midlife is the perfect time to reassess your "factory settings" and choose your desired system upgrades!

Kelly Day O'Brien is a national board-certified health and wellness coach. She is trained in integrative and functional lifestyle methodologies and specializes in sleep behavior coaching. We also chatted a lot about sleep – some good basics for maximizing what you need, especially in midlife, and how trying less can often support you more. There was so much juiciness that you just get a teaser now, as that conversation will be a future episode. Stay tuned!

Kelly's website www.rootwellcoaching

Accountability Works www.accountabilityworks.com

IG @accountabilityworks

Aimee's website www.aimeeames.com

IG @aimeeamescoaching