This episode I have Shellayna Cox, an incredible wife of 9 years, mother of two beautiful girls, mentor to women, previous youth mentor, devoted lover of Jesus and so much more! This is a testimony of redemption in marriage through Jesus Christ. It is raw, real, honest and chillingly vulnerable. I am so grateful that she has shared these very human experiences with us all to learn from and to resonate with.

In this episode we talk about the difficulties of living in the world but desiring a biblical life. I have spent many years observing others, human interactions, relationships, their experiences and my own. What I have come to understand is that many of us in fact do live out biblical principles and teachings such as having empathy, a moral compass, loving others, taking care of the earth, there are so many ways that we naturally live these things out but many of us never read the bible. We source from the world in order to make sense of our lives and our burdens, but what if it is the world that is causing them.

When I started reading it again (the bible), this year to be exact, I found that it aligns with who I truly am more than the world does, and I have seen the ways that as a whole we have been missing the mark when it comes to becoming more in alignment with ourselves, with each other and with God. We have been sourcing from the world for validation, when it's not a valid world. It is not ROOTED in truth but in confusion.

Can we have one foot in and one foot out of anything and expect the most fruitful outcomes? Can we sit on the fence never expecting to fall off? Can we live in the world but not become consumed by it? How do we all do this when we are all so vastly and uniquely different, where do we source our validation from that has no conditions?

Let's get ROOTED and discuss!

In this episode we dive into what does it mean to "choose" to stay and when do you know if it's your time to leave? Let's get ROOTED!

A lot of times we find ourselves inside our marriages wondering if we should stay or if we should go. A lot of times in marriage we can forget that we already made the choice, at the altar. For better or for worse, in sickness & in health and sometimes when you find yourselves in a season of the “worse”, it can be easy to forget that it’s not necessarily choosing to stay (because that’s why you got married) but it’s choosing to change. Choosing to do the intentional work that allows us to keep the promise and responsibilities of the choice we already made. Taking responsibility in marriage can be very difficult to do if we are unwilling to see the ways in which we may not be equipped with healthy mentalities, behaviors, tools, reactions & solutions in order to ensure a fruitful and abundant marriage. Luckily, we don’t have to have all the answers, we just have to have a willingness to become intentional in the areas our marriages require.

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This episode we are divining into all of the layers that make up our identity, where do they come from and how do we decide which traits to keep and which to toss. How do we know if we are living a life that will bear the most fruits and that will produce the desired outcome? How do we know who we are? These are just some of the questions that we ask ourselves and if we aren't, should we be?

Who's truth is the truth? Who's identity is more valuable than their neighbor? See, identity is the key to the many things we see around our world, it is the root cause of so much of our misalignment and outsourcing, so who are you?

I talk about how we can peel back the layers of the identities that we have created for ourselves or believe about ourselves and how they can and do have a negative effect in our lives when they are not founded in truth, however this ultimately allows us to humbly come to the conclusion that our only true identity is found in Jesus and the Word of God, Our Creator & Father. I believe that refusing to come to this conclusion is in fact what causes our miseries here on earth. Our inability to surrender the falsehood and "identities" we have created here on earth for the one we were created to have.

"To put off your old self, which belongs to your former manner of life and is corrupt through deceitful desires, and to be renewed in the spirit of your minds, and to put on the new self, created after the likeness of God in true righteousness and holiness." Ephesians 4:22-24

This episode we are talking about how there are many pieces of scripture taken out of the bible and out of context that depict a negative influence of how men should be with their wives and how wives should be with their husbands. A common piece that I have heard be taken out of context often is " wives must submit to their husbands and let him lead the household". Modern society would state that is a war on women and their independence, and that NO woman should ever submit to their husbands. However maybe the way society views the word submission is the problem and not the scripture.

Both men and women have become susceptible to entering relationships with unhealthy mentalities, mindsets, beliefs, behaviors, etc. So when you find yourselves in turmoil within your relationship, how do you find common ground to begin to work through it all? Where do you start? Who is "right"? We will discuss these very things. I hoped you enjoy and take something beneficial from this, Stay blessed & Stay well!

Ephesians 5: 22-33

• "21 Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.

• 22 Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. 23 For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. 24 Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.

• 25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her 26 to make her holy, cleansing[b] her by the washing with water through the word, 27 and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. 28 In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. 29 After all, no one ever hated their own body, but they feed and care for their body, just as Christ does the church— 30 for we are members of his body. 31 “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.”[c] 32 This is a profound mystery—but I am talking about Christ and the church. 33 However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband."

This episode we are diving into how I came to the conclusion that I do not and cannot hate anyone. Believe me there was a point in my life when I did carry hate towards others that perpetrated against me, but I also didn't believe in the devil or Satan. I solely believed in "free will", I believed that humans were solely responsible for the choices and decision that they made.

I know what you're thinking, we are though aren't we? Well yes and no, we do have free will but to negate the fact that this is a fallen world with systems designed by Satan, his followers, and even subconscious participants is what has gotten us to the place that we are today, with the world in the state that it is in. People no longer believing either exists, Satan or Jesus which leaves a very vulnerable society that isn't ROOTED in truth, but opinion and perception, this is Satan's playground.

Jesus said, “Father, forgive them, for they do not know what they are doing.”

- Luke 23: 34

Book Club- “The Collapse of Parenting” by Leonard Sax, MD, PhD, light over view & discussion.

Intentional parenting & WANTING to KNOW your children is so key. I hear it from parents “I could never stay home with my children” , and I often think to myself but why? Why & how have we gotten to this place? Our purpose and point is to in-fact be the ones to raise them, know them, guide them, instruct them, nurture them, why wouldn’t we want to be the ones doing it?

Now, due to the structure of society and and the cultural breakdown of the family home, the purposefully inflated costs of living parents have been taken from the home. However there are many ways to be intentional through parenting so why not?Well, I believe it’s because society has created an image that depicts parenting & having children as a burden, draining, & a non stop battle that needs to be escaped from.

Why? Is it the children or is it the parents capabilities? Why do we have parents that don’t feel capable in their roles?

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Raw & Real, Rooted content, committed to sharing the ways in which God has worked in my life and finding real life solutions to problems we are seeing in the world. The veils of evil are falling and I want to be apart of returning this world back to its God intended purpose. Tell me your thoughts?! What do you think? What are some takeaways from this?

Disclaimer: I will always speak from MY perspective which is always loving and humbled by God, I do not and will not speak from yours. I am always willing to learn, respect will always be shown, abusive of any kind will never be tolerated.

Stay Blessed & Stay Well

In this episode we talk about how there is a move or an agenda to normalize the harmful and destructive patterns, behaviors and perceptions that have been programmed into humanity to be embraced and celebrated. Why is society normalizing the very clear rise of alcohol use as a crutch for coping with life? Why is there non stop promotion of infidelity, promiscuity, porn and the sexualization of women? Why are we as a society are we not asking ourselves, " are these behaviors truly healthy for humanity, are they healthy for us?

This episode we are talking about how I have notice the depletion of humanities ability to find its WILL and to have one at all, have you? When I look around I see that constantly we are submitting ourselves to things and lifestyles that have been fabricated by the never ending seeking of immediate gratification and enamored by the lives we are sold via social media. Is this beneficial to the human spirit if social media depicts lifestyles that cause us to become insecure, seek fruitless desires, defend behaviors that are harmful, detach from reality, self, family, and God? I am not sure, lets chit chat!

Grab a coffee or a tea and come sit and chat with me! Lets get ROOTED!