Things I want my kids to know

There are times in life when you might feel a little lost, or even feel like you have lost touch with who you are.

That might happen because you have had to think of other people for so long that you don't quite know what you want or what works for you any more. It might even be a realisation that you have been living in line with what you think you "should" be doing and you don't actually know what it is that is important to you. Whatever it is, these are the things that I want my kids to know about what you can do when that happens.

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It's September and it's the time of year for new things. Going away to University, starting at a new school, maybe a new job or a new city. Whatever it is, starting somewhere new can be both exciting and challenging. These are the things I would want my kids to know about what you might expect, and some things that can help.

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It is not uncommon for mood or mental health to feel worse over the Winter. Our first go-to explanation for that is biological: the lack of sunlight. However, while this is a very useful and important aspect to consider, there are other things that can make the Winter harder, too. This episode is all about those things, and what we can do about them.

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This one is something I have worked on a lot myself, and still feel nervous about, but not to the degree that it particularly stops me doing what I want to do. So, these are my thoughts about what helps both in terms of helping you feel like you are doing a better job at it, but also feeling less anxious about the whole thing.I hope it's helpful.

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Grief is never straightforward, and there isn't only one path that it follows. So, the term "complex grief" might be a confusing one. However, there are times when we might find ourselves crushed by a loss, and times when a loss feels like something that is painful but something we can handle. In this episode my intention is to talk about what kinds of things make grief even more complex than it already is, and what we can do to help ourselves and others.

I hope it’s helpful.

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"Being present" isn't always easy. I am often doing my best to be fully engaged but really finding that my mind is partly off elsewhere. Maybe thinking about work, jobs I've got to do, things like that. It might be harder when there's something big going on - a worry about health, finances or someone you love, for example.In this episode I talk about a few ways in which you might help yourself to be that little bit more present and importantly: some realistic expectations of how present it is really possible to be.

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You can sign up for bonus episodes on Substack, where you can find my free 40-page anxiety guide and my weekly newsletter while you are there:

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If you have a question, a comment or a suggestion for a topic, drop me a line at [email protected]

@cbtted is where you can find me on social media (Instagram in particular) and the video versions of this podcast can be found on Youtube. 

www.cbtted.co.uk is where you can find all the info about the courses that I run, or how to book me for 1:1 work and talks.

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Thanks again, and I’ll see you next time.

Self-acceptance is a lovely idea but often a very hard thing to do. In this episode I talk about what makes this hard, and one particular and very effective way of approaching it.

Sometimes we think of self-acceptance we end up thinking about grand gestures of self-love. Treating yourself to something, walking on the beach with motivational music playing that speaks about empowerment, maybe. But maybe self-acceptance works just like acceptance of other people: it isn't always big or grand gestures. Sometimes it's more about looking at them without judgement (or maybe less judgement). The way we look at and assess other people tends to be different than the way we look at ourselves. We can use that.

Let me know what you think.

Thank you for listening. Here are some useful links if you want to learn some more:

You can sign up for bonus episodes on Substack, where you can find my free 40-page anxiety guide and my weekly newsletter while you are there: 

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If you have a question, a comment or a suggestion for a topic, drop me a line at [email protected]

@cbtted is where you can find me on social media (Instagram in particular) and the video versions of this podcast can be found on Youtube.

www.cbtted.co.uk is where you can find all the info about the courses that I run, or how to book me for 1:1 work and talks.

Finally, if you are getting something from this and you just want to buy me a coffee, you can do so here:

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Thanks again, and I’ll see you next time.

This is a central part of most of the work that I do with people: trying to find a balance in the middle ground somewhere.

With anxiety, that might be recognising that being vigilant and on the lookout can be helpful, but taken to far can feel overwhelming. In our expectations of ourselves with people-pleasing or perfectionism, some of that is useful but taken too far can make life feel very stressful. Peace lies somewhere in the middle ground: in the ability to be flexible with yourself and your expectations.

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Anger is a feeling. It is not inherently good or bad. It is the emotion that is there to drive us to defend ourselves. When we describe anger as a problem, or as “bad,” most of the time it is not anger itself that we have the problem with - it is how the anger is expressed. In the form of aggression, holding things in all day until they explode, or going passive-aggressive and wielding anger in a cold kind of way.

In this episode we talk about what anger is, where it comes from, and what to do about the fact that sometimes it can feel like it goes from 0-10 in a flash. We talk about ways in which you can catch it early and do things that help. And why sometimes the job is not about being less bothered by things - but instead allowing yourself to speak up earlier, before things get on top of you.

Thank you for listening. Here are some useful links if you want to learn some more:

You can sign up for bonus episodes on Substack, where you can find my free 40-page anxiety guide and my weekly newsletter while you are there:

https://substack.com/@cbtted

If you have a question, a comment or a suggestion for a topic, drop me a line at [email protected]

@cbtted is where you can find me on social media (Instagram in particular) and the video versions of this podcast can be found on Youtube.

www.cbtted.co.uk is where you can find all the info about the courses that I run, or how to book me for 1:1 work and talks.

Finally, if you are getting something from this and you just want to buy me a coffee, you can do so here:

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Thanks again, and I’ll see you next time.

Red flags. This is not an easy topic as I think part of the point of red flags is that they are only usually obvious in hindsight. I think we would all like to think that we wouldn't ever be taken in, but the truth is that anybody can be taken in by someone who turns out to be manipulative or dishonest. However, there are some things that are worth thinking about when it comes to paying attention to signs that things might not be quite right.This is not an easy topic and I know can be a sensitive one, so I hope I have done it some justice here.The request for this topic came in from a listener. If you wanted to make a suggestion or ask a question, then drop me a message at [email protected]. I can't promise you that I will be able to answer it, but I can promise I will read it and do my best if I can.

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