Think Queerly

To lead yourself from such a noble place — as if that place already existed — you will need to practice and embody values, principles, and beliefs that support a universal human dignity.

However, I’m not suggesting a belief in a spiritual entity, following a religion, or a set of commandments. Instead, this is the personal responsibility of cultivating a loving, equitable, and harmonious humanity that — I believe — is both an individual and collective human responsibility. This is our ultimate, equitable endeavour.

https://medium.com/curious/human-e-thought-leadership-how-to-be-the-change-for-the-common-good-through-self-mastery-94afca2461eb

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Recently, I read in the Guardian that "Top Republicans rub shoulders with extremists in secretive rightwing group, leak reveals."

The details of the reporting stuck in my head. Then a question came to mind: Why are some rightwing extremist groups so secretive? What have they got to hide? 

The only reason these kinds of groups are secretive is not because they are ashamed. These organizations are secretive because they know they are morally wrong. 

They know they are wrong because their beliefs and actions will harm, hurt, subjugate, control, abuse, indoctrinate, manipulate, and kill people. They know they are being inhuman —  they are acting inhumane  — albeit mostly unconsciously, since the majority have been so deeply brainwashed, they don't know how to think critically for themselves. 

If you can't respect the basic existential dignity of another human being  — which doesn't mean you have to agree with them —  you do not respect yourself. 

Read the article: "Why Are Rightwing Extremist Groups So Secretive?" https://thinkqueerly.com/why-are-rightwing-extremist-groups-so-secretive-c592d8cd78c6

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Over the course of a bit more than a year, I’ve published a number of personal growth exercises. I gave the process the name, Personal Evolution Process (PEP). 

Each process follows a structure to help you define the problem or challenge at hand. You then further refine the problem by turning your thoughts around or considering influencing factors. Lastly, you create emotional alignment with your chosen strategies that will support your motivation and commitment to resolving the problem.

Read the article on my blog for the links to the PEPs:

https://thinkqueerly.com/try-these-transformational-strategies-to-create-more-happiness-freedom-and-certainty-in-your-life-fdea58d506cb

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When you’re faced with the choice between two significant polarities in life and don't know how to decide which one is best, try this Personal Evolution Process.

This process will help you to get clarity and certainty about what's most important and meaningful to you about both options, and then choose the one that provides the most emotional alignment. In other words, when you can connect your choice with your emotional intentions, you are most likely to feel best about the choice and remain committed to it.

Today’s PEP is not meant for the "simple" yes or no choices in life. Instead, the power of this Personal Evolution Process is revealed in breaking down two opposing and challenging choices that you are struggling with and are holding you back.

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Last week, a friend of mine wrote a post on Facebook to say that she was strongly considering leaving Facebook forever.

While she benefits from some aspects of the platform, she wrote that she feels out of integrity supporting a platform that is detrimental to the current and future society she wants to live in. By remaining on Facebook, she is encouraging their business model and rewarding their decision-making. From a values perspective, she feels like it's time to leave.

She concluded by asking people to offer contrarian perspectives. In today's episode, I share my response and further thoughts.

Read the post on Think Queerly: "Some Thoughts on the Issues to Consider for Leaving Facebook."
https://thinkqueerly.com/some-thoughts-on-the-issues-to-consider-for-leaving-facebook-b97493cc3a8c

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Freddie Lewis offers a rarely seen or heard genuineness of character that connects to our deeply humane level of self-acceptance and being seen for one’s truest self. Through his poetry or his words put to music, he shares expressions of happiness, joy, playfulness, prettiness, and rhythmic beats that catch your ear, invite you in more deeply, and won’t let go.

Freddie demonstrates a simple, joyful celebration of self-pride that shows up in his being simply who he is. You don’t need to be queer to appreciate his art — you only need to be human.

Read the complete show notes and my personal review here: https://darrenstehle.com/freddie-lewis-music-poetry-self-love-as-queer-person 

Freddie’s website: https://www.freddie-lewis.co.uk/ 

Lilac Underpass Mixtape" is Out Now! https://distrokid.com/hyperfollow/freddielewis/lilac-underpass-mixtape-2

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Why are so many people afraid to take personal responsibility for their actions that affect the common good? Note that I did not say negative or damaging actions because I believe we must take personal responsibility for our actions, regardless of their intent. We need to be cognizant of the choices we are making, especially if we intend them to be beneficial. What we think is morally good or right might not be perceived in the same way by others.

Here's the link to listen to the updated Think Queerly Podcast Introduction: https://thinkqueerlypodcast.com/episodes/living-out-podcast-intro-episode-lop000

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In the 1950s, as 15-year-old Jim Foshee hitchhiked from his tiny Idaho hometown to Los Angeles, he met kind-hearted strangers, kindred souls, and drag queens as well as con artists, liars, and ruthless cops. His vivid memories of McCarthyism, government hunts for homosexuals, and routine firings sit alongside remembrances of the Beats, hippies, and liberation protests fill the pages of Banned From California.

https://darrenstehle.com/banned-from-california-jim-foshees-life-of-persecution-redemption-liberation-and-the-gay-civil-rights-movement/

Robert C. Steele served as a reporter and producer at various radio and television stations in Colorado and Arizona. He was a broadcaster at the Italian National Broadcasting Company (RAI Radiotelevisione Italiana) in Naples, Italy; was a reporter for Armed Forces Radio and Television along the coast of Vietnam, the Asian Western Pacific, and Vicenza, Italy; and was a volunteer activist in the early gay liberation movement with two weekly gay radio shows in Colorado. Later, as a federal government public affairs officer, he served as a government spokesperson and managed media relations with reporters who worked for media outlets from across the USA and around the world.

Banned From California book Website: https://bannedca.com

Buy the book from your local queer bookstore or on Amazon: 

https://www.amazon.com/Banned-California-Persecution-Redemption-Liberation/dp/1734010819

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Michael Bach is the founder and Chair of the board of directors of the Canadian Centre for Diversity and Inclusion. He is nationally and internationally recognized as a thought leader and subject-matter expert in the fields of inclusion, diversity, equity, and accessibility, bringing a vast knowledge of leading practices in a live setting to his work.

Read the complete show notes here: https://darrenstehle.com/michael-bach-internationally-recognized-thought-leader-in-inclusion-diversity-equity-and-accessibility/

Discover an effective strategy based on neuroscience to manage the emotions you want to avoid. In this FREE 90-minute coaching video, you will learn how to create emotional recipes to manage how you want to feel to enjoy more happiness, peace of mind, and freedom. Get immediate access to “How to Stay Calm and in Control” here: https://pages.darrenstehle.com/emotional-recipes-process

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• The Living OUT Podcast launched June 20, 2018. I renamed it to Think Queerly after the 100th episode. That means over the last 3 years I have published approximately 5 episodes per month!
• The influence and importance of my purpose statement to everything I do in my coaching, my articles, and the podcast: “When you freely love who you are, you can freely create the life you want.”
• Realizations while on sabbatical and hiatus this past August in Montreal.
• My top 10 episodes (according to my podcast host analytics) and why I think they're relevant. (See below)
• Why I feel like I'm outside the margins with my approach which is not what everyone else does: no listicles, advertising, useless banter. Instead, I have offered unapologetic, vulnerable, honest, and authentic insight, helpful content, and ever-evolving transformative personal evolution processes based on neuroscience — you have to put in the effort to make changes and get results.
• What's coming? On this, I'd love to know what interests you and why. Send me your thoughts on my website: https://darrenstehle.com/contact/

1. Think Queerly Podcast Introduction
2. The Swinging Closet Door – LOP001
3. Do You Know What You Want? – LOP002
4. Has LGBTQ+ Pride Been White-Washed by White Gay Men? TQ135
5. Are You A Top Or A Bottom? – LOP003
6. Why Gay Shame Is Your Superpower — TQ126
7. Sex Shaming During COVID-19 — A Discussion with Shaun Proulx — TQ133
8. Remaking Manhood and #MeToo with Mark Greene – LOP082
9. Kelly Walker on Celebrating Life with Grace and Delight Because It’s Good to Be Alive— TQ165
10. How Gay Shame Limits Self-Worth and Personal Growth – LOP008

Discover an effective strategy based on neuroscience to manage the emotions you want to avoid. In this FREE 90-minute coaching video, you will learn how to create emotional recipes to manage how you want to feel to enjoy more happiness, peace of mind, and freedom. Get immediate access to “How to Stay Calm and in Control” here: https://pages.darrenstehle.com/emotional-recipes-process

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