Think Queerly

Human beings are not unchanging. We are not a rock or even a tree. We are not a solid form. If we don't like who we are, we can change who we are. Our essential nature is not a fixed one.

We have the capacity to change who we are because we have the ability and the skill to do so. Our character, our identity, and our choices are amorphous. The way in which you can be different today is in the actions you take at this moment — now.

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If you’re tired of losing your temper or experiencing unwanted or harmful emotions, discover an effective strategy based on neuroscience to manage the emotions you want to avoid. By the end of the training, you will have your own emotional recipes to better control how you want to feel and to enjoy more happiness, peace of mind, and freedom.

https://pages.darrenstehle.com/emotional-recipes-process

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The minute we think we have control, it can be taken away. In essence, there is really nothing that we can hold on to with the absolute certainty that it will never change. We might hold on to a rock and believe that is the perfect example of permanence until we accidentally drop it and it breaks into several pieces.

In today's episode, I will take you through a 3-step Personal Evolution Process to define, refine, and get into alignment with what you can and what you cannot control in your life. Ultimately, having a sense of control makes us feel more at peace. 

When you consciously act on increasing your experiences of love, happiness, and freedom, this goes a long way to reducing discomfort, discord, and dissatisfaction in your life, and will have a ‘positive influence’ on others. 

Read the full article here: https://darrenstehle.com/what-can-you-control-in-your-life-to-experience-more-love-happiness-and-freedom/

If you would like a PDF copy of this Personal Evolution Process, click here: https://pages.darrenstehle.com/influence-control
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Darren Stehle is a Transformational Coach, writer, and podcaster who helps thought leaders, change-makers, and creatives become more skillful at making a measurable difference in the world.

If you want to live life with more equanimity and peace of mind, and to be more skillful and efficient with your productivity, go to https://DarrenStehle.com and follow the Think Queerly Podcast on Apple Podcasts or your preferred podcast app.

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The other morning, I was deep in thought about the sadness of nostalgia I had recently experienced. Nostalgia had overtaken me numerous times in the past year, and I wonder if there’s a tipping point in one’s life that’s related to getting older. 

Is nostalgia somehow related to wisdom and a greater critical mass of life experience, and thus memory? Perhaps the COVID-19 lockdowns have something to do with it. With less social activity and other distractions, I’ve had more time to think about better times—so to speak. 

In this episode I share,

• My experiences of nostalgia.
• Where the meaning of nostalgia comes from (and how it used to be considered an affliction).
• What are the insights, self-awareness, wisdom, and experience of gratitude that you can gain from moments of nostalgia?
• What to do if you feel regret, as I sometimes do, in my trips down memory lane.

Read the post on The Ascent on Medium.

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Have you ever had that dream where you are trying to get somewhere, but as you make your way, the destination moves further and further away?

When I have that dream, it feels like I’m in a long and narrowing tunnel. As I try to move towards my goal, the space around me stretches out further ahead, taking my destination with it — like an alternate reality or special effect in a movie. Time and space appear to be pulled away from me, like taffy or a rubber band that surrenders its elasticity and doesn’t bounce back. It’s as if stepping towards where I want to go creates the expansion and separation from my goal.

What does the dream mean? The usual interpretation is that I’m stuck. And that would not be wrong, but it’s not the whole picture. 

Listen to the episode to find out why I am taking a complete break from actively publishing any new content (articles and podcast) for 5-weeks from August 1st until (ironically) Labour Day, September 6th, 2021.

Read the post on Think Queerly on Medium.

What would that look like for you? If the idea excites and possibly scares you, I invite you to download my latest Personal Evolution Process. You will discover what’s creating the most significant amount of stress and frustration in your life, why that’s happening, and what you can do about it.

If yes, would you take a few seconds to give me a 5-star rating or leaving me a review on Apple Podcasts? This will make a huge difference in how many new people discover my show. 

Sign up for my weekly newsletter or download one of my free Personal Evolution Practices which you will find at DarrenStehle.com.

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Life is short. Too short in fact to be stuck behind a problem that keeps you from moving forward in life, seeing what’s beyond the next turn, missing valuable opportunities, and being generally unhappy and uninspired.

The purpose of coaching — in how I practice coaching — is to help my clients get clarity, focus, and direction. I help them get into emotional alignment with strategies that they create to solve their own problems or challenges.

There are moments of insight as well as moments of frustration in the coaching process. The latter is where we can get to the root of stress, frustration, and undesirable emotions — to do the work that creates more prediction and response. In other words, the work that will make your life more efficient, playful, peaceful, and free.

Well, guess what? I have a brand new Personal Evolution Process for you!

☞ Click here to download my latest Personal Evolution Practice to get clarity about your most pressing challenge, problem, or struggle in your life—right now—and what you can do about it.

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A friend of mine recently came out on his 40th birthday. Not that he wasn't gay until that time. He was. But because of his family, how he was raised, his religion, and other reasons, he has kept his identity private. He hid in plain sight. 

When my friend came out publicly on his birthday, in a video message on Facebook, he got lots of love from those who understood and supported him. His message was beautiful, brave, courageous, and vulnerable. I felt it and had tears in my eyes feeling while watching. But he also got resistance from those who disagreed with his message and his public declaration of his so-called lifestyle.

For the links mentioned in this episode, read the post on my blog, "If You Are Human, There Is No Other — There Is Only One Humanity."

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To get the most out of the live webinar, consider and answer the questions below. They are the perfect primer for what to expect and will make it easier for you to complete the practices that I will teach during the webinar.

1. What is the single biggest struggle, challenge, or problem in your life that also causes you the greatest emotional stress?
2. What are the top 1-3 most stressful emotions associated with that challenge or problem?
3. Describe each one of those stressful emotions in detail.
4. What strategies are you currently using to minimize, control, or avoid those emotions?
5. What are the polar opposites of those stressful emotions or feelings? For now, call these positive feelings or emotions.
6. In a few sentences, what would your day-to-day life be like if you more regularly experienced those ‘positive’ emotions?

If you’re tired of losing your cool or feeling negative, even harmful emotions, sign up for this live and interactive webinar. I will teach you effective strategies to manage and control the emotional states you don’t want so that you can feel empowered and in control more often.

Webinar registration has closed, but you can click here to get your copy of the replay and download the P.E.P. worksheet.

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The call to cancel Canada Day is a kind of cancel culture error that seeks to eliminate discussion, suppress voices, and ultimately only create more division through silence. It’s like trying to repair the silencing of the past by creating silence in the current moment.

Click here to read the post or watch the video version of today's episode.

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Living with pride means living fully and freely out (of the closet) with acceptance and peace of mind.

Living with pride is about how you use your difference — your uniqueness — to make a positive difference in your world and in the lives of others.

Seeking only to make a difference, without consideration for the consequences, may not create a more harmonious society and humanity. We must first seek connection to make a collective difference — even if that connection is at first only with others like ourselves. Freedom in numbers allows others to see us for who we are.

For the complete post and links to articles mentioned, read the post on DarrenStehle.com: What is Pride, and Why Should We Celebrate 2SLGBTQ+?

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