This African Love

This African Love

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This African Love episodes

  • Dating While... Divorced: The Young, African Perspective (I)

    Young, Gifted, and Black - and Divorced?!?!

    Examining the Divorcée journey, from a young Nigerian woman's perspective

    Picture this:

    • You've fallen in love, found your prince / princess, and are now on the way to establishing them as the king / queen of your life.  You're seeing a Happily Ever After scenario.
    • You have your trad, and a form of a white-dress wedding.  Now that the owambe parties have finished, you're left to navigate the wonderful world of love, as a married couple. 

      • Now, picture THIS:

      • Despite your best efforts, the marriage, didn't last, for whatever reason.  
      • What do you do?  How do you live, in the modern African context?

        • Most people, when getting married, dream of a number of scenarios.  Yet, sometimes, those plans don't materialize the way we wish they would have.

        In this three-part series, RCO takes us through her personal journey of, adjusting to life as an ex-Mrs. 

        16 min
      • This African Love - Protesting the State of the Union

        As most people may know by now, the Nigeria we love so much, is going through some changes.

        The recent protests, aimed at ending brutality, are an important cultural turning point, meant to address the way that we treat one another.

        To give this protest its due respect, I am deferring the much-anticipated "Dating While Divorced" episode, until next week.

        Much love, and speak with you soon.  Stay safe, everyone.

        5 min
      • How to be Queer, in Nigeria (III)
        In this conclusion to the topic on how to be Queer in Nigeria, Xeenarh takes us through the remainder of some of her multi-layered perspective on LGBTQ+ culture in Nigeria.
        As one of the most topical nations in a continent that continually thrives despite its complexities (both inherited, innate, and indoctrinated), this examination of Nigerian attitudes towards non-mainstream gender and sexual identity culture is markedly symbolic of many nations within Africa.  This speaks symbolic volumes and connotations, into the way that Nigerians (and, to some extent, many Africans at large) regard LGBTQ+ issues.
        The hope and prayer, here, for those listening, is that we've all gotten some insight into the ways people differ from one another.
        Save for one key aspect of note: we are all human - and deserve to be treated with kindness, dignity, and respect.
        30 min
      • How to be Queer, in Nigeria (II)

        Hello lovelies!

        I’m so excited to be bringing you part 2 of the discussion on how to be Queer in Nigeria.

        In this, we focused on the cultural impact and implications.

        It’s important for understanding the implications of marginalization in this community. 

        In this segment, Xeenarh touches on the aspects of marginalization that 🏳️‍🌈 people face in Nigeria- from dating, to employment opportunities and prospects - to housing and shelter options.

        The third and final part will be up on Wednesday.

        Then, on to the next topic! Which will be a surprise ☺️☺️


        💙💚💛❤️🧡💜

        16 min
      • How to be Queer, in Nigeria

        What exactly is “queerness?”  What does this look like, in a country like Nigeria?

        How much of what we think, is actually what *we* think?  Our own thoughts?

        The beauty of deciding to do this podcast, is that we all get to find out, and enrich our insight on what it feels like, to be queer in Nigeria.

        I sat on the loveseat with Xeenarh Mohammed, the Executive Director of the TIERS initiative.  Xeenarh details some of what @Tiersnigeria is doing in this space, and some insight into what life looks like, being queer in Nigeria.

        Do you have any opinions on queerness in Nigeria? What does it look like to you?

        If you're curious about what this looks like, listen to someone who's got experience in this wheel-house.

        💙💚💛🧡💜❤️

        17 min
      • Inter-Cultural Relations | Black Love vs African Love

        In this episode, we explore an interesting topic: Intercultural Relationships.

        What is Intercultural dating, you ask?  

        Great question!


        To answer this, we examine some unusual aspects of falling for / dating someone from a different cultural background.  And how it's different when, looks-wise, you have more in common than you do apart.

        What factor is race, when it comes to marriages between different cultures?  What are some of the expectations societal conditioning impacts our understanding or experience of love?

        We delve into the complexities of race relations, how can do better - and foster a better understanding.

        18 min
      • Sex, Religion, and Polyamory: the Modern African Way...?

        In this part of the episode, we discuss attitudes towards cultural norms on:

        Dating apps, and dating app culture

        Ways to avoid catfishing on dem apps

        Polyamory and religious representation

        How much of our modern dating rules are actually ours, and not hangovers from other cultures? 

        This is Part II, of a Part III series.

        15 min
      • Modern African Love: Sex | West African Men | Sexual Tourism
        Have we changed how we date?  What's different? What are the general dating trends experienced across the continent? Everyone talks about African love, but what is it?
        Our first foray, exploring African dating in a modern context.
        We talk about issues like - what's the dating equivalent of Jollof rice?
        What is sexual tourism?
        We also ask ourselves a question:
        How much of our modern dating rules are actually ours, and not hangovers from other cultures?
        This is Part I of II.  Part II will be uploaded next week.
        21 min

      About This African Love

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      This podcast celebrates African and Black love stories, perspectives, and cultures.