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The calendar flipped, but you don’t need to. We’re pushing back on the “new year, new me” pressure and choosing a gentler, more honest shift: same life, new boundaries. Instead of chasing a total reboot, we’re focusing on small, repeatable choices that protect energy, reduce guilt, and make room for the kind of growth that actually lasts.

We unpack why January hype so often backfires, and how quiet, consistent actions outpace dramatic announcements. You’ll hear practical ways to do less but do it better: shorter replies without long explanations, scheduled rest treated like a real commitment, and simple scripts that help you say no under pressure. We talk through the moment you realize you’re pouring into spaces that don’t pour back, and how to step away with clarity rather than resentment.

There’s also a honest look at pushback: some people prefer you without boundaries. We name that reality, and offer a mindset shift for staying steady when others say you’ve changed. Choosing peace over people pleasing doesn’t make you cold; it makes you clear. That clarity helps the right relationships grow stronger while freeing you from constant performance and accessibility. If you’ve been craving a softer pace, fewer drains, and a year that feels intentional instead of urgent, this conversation gives you language, tools, and permission to protect what matters most.

If this lands, tap follow, share it with a friend who needs a boundary boost, and leave a quick review with one boundary you’re setting this year. Your small choices can change everything—what’s the one limit you’ll keep?

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In this raw and ridiculously real episode, Alyssa B. takes us behind the bathroom door-arms sore mid-retwist, Apple Music on shuffle, and a full-on breakdown brewing in the mirror. From the tangled mess of healing while in a relationship to flashbacks of Rashad-level nonsense, she packs what it means to date when your heart's still under renovation. With humor, honesty, and a little self-love sermon-this is your reminder that healing is not liner-but your edges still deserve to be laid. 

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Whew. Where do I even start? Your girl has been MIA, but not without reason. In this reintroduction episode, I’m pulling back the curtain on life lately—because babyyyyy, the ghetto has been active. From burnout to breakthroughs, from “I quit” moments to “I’m built for this” realizations, we’re unpacking it all. This isn’t a comeback—it’s a realignment. Press play and let’s catch up like old friends over wine and Wi-Fi. This Isn’t That… and I’m back in my bag.

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It’s Friday, and the chaos is chaoticking. If you've ever been caught having a full-blown conversation with yourself in public—congrats, you're in the right tribe. 🙋🏾‍♀️

Today’s episode is full of laughs, honesty, and that good “I know I ain’t the only one” energy. From Target monologues to gas station miracles, we’re keeping it light, keeping it real, and keeping you company while you clean, commute, or just vibe.

🎙 Tap in now for a 3-minute story that’ll have you laughing out loud and feeling seen.

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"The Middle is Messy" – Day 2 of 28 Days of This Ain’t That is LIVE!

Let me be real: the alarm didn’t even TRY me today—I had to wrestle the chaos just to show up. And that’s exactly what this episode is about.
We romanticize the start and fantasize the finish—but the middle? Whew. The middle is where your faith gets tested, your patience gets fried, and your purpose feels far.

✨ If you're in the thick of it, this one’s for you. Listen now for real talk, laughter, and a reminder that messy doesn't mean meaningless.

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Whew—we made it! Barely, but we here.

In this kickoff episode of the “28 Days of This Ain’t That” daily podcast challenge, I’m pulling back the curtain and telling the raw, unfiltered truth about how today almost took me out before it even started.

The alarm failed, the chaos was loud, the coffee betrayed me—and still? I hit record.

This episode is for anyone who’s ever felt like the mess disqualified them from the mission. Spoiler: it doesn’t.

🎧 Tune in for:

• A storytime you’ll probably relate to way too much
• The real reason I’m doing this challenge
• A pep talk for anyone scared to start
• And your daily reminder that perfection is a scam, and messy obedience still counts

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In this power-packed episode of This Isn’t That, your favorite host, Alyssa B., pulls back the curtain on her deepest dreams and how she’s turning them into a reality—brick by messy, beautiful brick.

From balancing two jobs and motherhood to chasing her dream of being a full-time content creator and published author, Alyssa lays out her personal blueprint for building a legacy that lasts. She talks goals, grit, time-blocking, and why treating your dream like a job is the game-changer nobody warned you about. Oh—and don’t worry, there’s still plenty of sarcasm, side-eyes, and storytelling to keep it entertaining.

Expect:
✨ Raw truth
✨ Unfiltered ambition
✨ A lil’ petty, a lot of purpose
✨ And your weekly reminder that “not yet” doesn’t mean “not ever”

If you're ready to stop fantasizing and start executing, this episode is your permission slip—and your push.

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🔥Episode Description:
This week, Simply Alyssa B. is back on the mic and more real than ever. From smooth mornings to sass-filled Thursdays, surprise emails from school, getting kicked off the clock, deer collisions, and a 5-day blackout that turned her fridge into a crime scene—this episode is a whole saga.

She opens up about love, purpose, single mom chaos, and why she’s finally choosing to see the signs the universe’s been throwing all along. Plus, she’s starting something new to bring YOU into the show. Real talk, raw moments, and that “laugh to keep from crying” energy—because life be lifin’, but we keep showing up.

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