Emotions, even so-called negative emotions, can be helpful if we see them as guides. Emotions like guilt and ager can be helpful if they lead to positive change. So how do we know whether what we are feeling is helpful or unhelpful? 
It's essential to differentiate between guilt that prompts growth and guilt that is rooted in shame. Similarly, self-perception and societal judgements complicate how we view our actions and worth.
As always, reflecting on our emotions with curiosity rather than judgement is key. 

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“Emotions don’t kill you.” 

A discussion between Nadine and Oakland DBT therapist Jonny Cragg about how taking emotional inventories (in a therapeutic modality called DBT) tailor therapeutic skills to emotional intensity. High emotions need robust interventions, while moderate ones require cognitive strategies. Mindfulness in DBT helps manage emotions and communication. 

However, challenges include accurately observing emotions and applying strategies consistently. The approach is effective but needs practice and awareness, particularly for those with conditions like ADHD or borderline personality disorder. DBT focuses on present-moment regulation and techniques for immediate control, though deeper trauma may require additional treatments.

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This episode discusses the importance of confronting unresolved pain, as we see with Dr. Ryan Stone in Gravity. Avoiding pain can lead to emotional shutdown and inauthentic living. 
Therapy helps by revisiting past traumas, breaking rigid coping mechanisms, and allowing individuals to process and integrate their feelings. Through this process, we can heal, rediscover joy and reclaim control over our lives. 
While difficult, facing buried pain with therapeutic guidance leads to emotional growth and authentic self-connection.

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If you, like most people, enjoyed the episode on Frozen (Conceal; Don’t Feel: A-Side) then buckle up because Anoushka Beazley is back with an exploration of the film Gravity. 

We talk about grief, loss, loneliness, and Anoushka brings her unique and tender insight to help us all understand what it’s like when we are trying to survive the crisis of loss.

Anoushka’s website: https://www.manderlaytherapy.com/

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There are things that influence us which lie deep in our subconscious. This episode is about some of those. They are psychological backseat drivers. We all have a shadow, and into our shadow we stuff all the parts of ourselves we wish weren't true. And we stuff them in so well that we don't even know they're there. But they affect our thoughts, feelings and behaviours.
This episode is all about that! And I think it's a belter.
As always, the things I discuss here are of a reasonably challenging nature, but I do stay away from trauma. 

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Therapist, Emma McDermott, and I talk about how we can only really be curious about ourselves, especially the darker parts of ourselves, when we have the luxury of being stable.

When we have the luxury to be able to reflect, we are empowered to make real changes in our lives, changes that make us stronger, rather than changes which simply remove the obstacles which cause us pain.

Emma's Links
https://www.bacp.co.uk/therapists/382326/emma-mcdermott/Manchester

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Delving in more detail into the difference between red flags and anxiety, as discussed by Meg and I on the A-Side.

I talk a lot about a model, a graph, in this episode. You can have a look at the graph by visiting the podcast page of my website. Seeing the graph will almost certainly aid your understanding of what I am talking about!

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Meg and I talk about fear, and how much of our fear (maybe all of it) is generated by the mind itself as we try to predict the future, project the best version of ourselves out into the world and avoid pain. 

We all strive to find happiness, but most of us are seeking it somewhere outside of ourselves. But we are rewarded for our striving, so we just pile on more anger at ourselves when we can't control our fear.

Meg and I also try to establish the difference between fear which is helpful for our survival and fear that is not.

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This episode explores how therapy might help you to process your grief... 

It is the B-Side to the One Task Of Mourning A-Side which was released two weeks previously.

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How our loss of a person, either through death or separation, is also a loss of the way we related to that person – which is ultimately a loss of a part of us. Or let me put it this way, when we lose someone we must grieve the unique soul of the person we have lost. We grieve the soul connection.

And though grief can’t be neatened up, we can observe it, look at it as a series of tasks: the 4 tasks of mourning written by J William Worden:

1. To accept the reality of the loss
2. To process the pain of grief
3. To adjust to a world without the deceased
4. To find an enduring connection with the deceased in the midst of embarking on a new life

This episode focuses a lot on the fourth of these, how we carry forward the relationship into a new future without the connection; how we update our relationships with people who are no longer with us or alongside us, and how we find ways to fill the emptiness after a loss. Who do we turn to or where do we turn to help us transition between having and not having?

  

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