Thousand First Dates

Dai Manuel guest-hosts with Heather Blackwell to discuss the topic of 'vulnerability' as it relates to strength of character, interdependence, a cohesive self-identity, and a productive/holistically-rewarding life experience. To learn more about Dai Manuel's Men's Empowerment group, contact Dai via Instagram @daimanuel. Also check out Dai’s website at https://www.daimanuel.com/ and Dai’s Life Fitness Manifesto at https://www.amazon.ca/Manuels-Whole-Life-Fitness-Manifesto/dp/1928055079

Special thanks to IG @scottishtruth for the inspiration of this episode. Heather discusses the main reasons humans feel compelled to engage in intimate partnerships, reasons to be happy as a ‘single’, and the MBTI personality types that are most likely to stay married til death do us part. ..... Free Holland Code Test https://www.truity.com/test/holland-code-career-test ...... Free MBTI Test ..... https://www.16personalities.com/

Special Thanks to Paul Simard, IG Compatriot and Men’s Mental Health Advocate, for inspiring me to speak on this topic. Check out Paul’s IG @paul_sim17 ..... Heather explores the ideas of psychological brokenness, the effects of child abuse and cortisol on the brain and body, behavioral modification, and factors for psychological healing. Also, the psych-based therapeutic modalities cited are CBT, REBT, DBT, and MBTI. Links to read are: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3548359/ ....... Lara Boyd and Neural Plasticity ...... https://youtu.be/LNHBMFCzznE ...... https://www.webmd.com/a-to-z-guides/what-is-cortisol ...... http://howtopreventalzheimers.com/chronically-elevated-cortisol-kills-brain-cells/ ........ https://www.livescience.com/18453-child-abuse-brain.html ..... https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3548359/

Heather discusses the definition and origin of Psychological Trauma-related Hypervigilance PTrH (a key factor in Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD)), emotions related to PTrH, behaviors related to PTrH, and therapeutic PTrH-reduction techniques. Also, special thanks to my Instagram Compatriot, Cesca, for suggesting this podcast topic. Check out Cesca’s motivational IG @beauty_and_the_dark ......... If you find value in this podcast, please consider leaving a Thousand First Dates review at Apple podcast, and please consider sharing my Thousand First Dates content with your social network. Thank you for your support.

Heather discusses the difference between overt and covert narcissism, the primary behavioral motivation of narcissists, and how to repel narcissists.

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Heather and guest-host, Jeff Meltzer, discuss the origin of and distinction between personality disorders, as well as the idea of codependency. Correction: In the podcast, I say “Episode 12”, but it’s actually episode 14. And the end part got cut-off, but Saturday will be an episode about covert narcissism.

Heather discusses a term — first identified by Eric Berne — called “Ego States”. Eric Berne wrote a book called “Games People Play.” Heather discusses how ego states affect your personality, your independence, and your relationships. Heather discusses how you can use ego states to develop your self-identity, your self-confidence, your inner peace, and your leadership ability. (If you value my podcast, please share with your network, and PLEASE consider leaving me a 5-Star Review via Apple podcast! : )

Please share this podcast with your network and leave an Apple podcast Five-Star review! ....... James and Heather discuss how they each overcame personal struggles using life-coping strategies related to self-esteem, self-image, and goal-setting. Check James out on Instagram @realjpmentality ... James recommends two books for self-improvement, which are "How Successful People Think" by John C. Maxwell and "The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People" by Stephen Covey. Additional book recommendations are "Failing Forward" by John C. Maxwell and "The Speed of Trust" by Stephen M. R. Covey. Also, for those struggling with codependent behavioral tendencies, check out "Codependent No More" by Melodie Beattie.

Heather discusses how her childhood environment — wrought with abuse — nurtured the evil seed to which all humans are born, and how she painstakingly worked to repair the inflicted damage in order to create a healthy, cohesive, humanitarian self-identity in a 10 year long self-help journey.

Natasha guest-hosts with Heather to discuss Natasha's new book, "Shit Adults Never Taught Us". Natasha discusses topics from her book from  'saving for early retirement' to 'managing anxiety' to 'managing expectations'. Find Natasha on Instagram @shitadultsnevertaughtus (Please share with your network or leave a 5 Star Review!)