Thriving After Divorce Radio

I swear I could have talked and talked for hours with Maarit Miller from blendedfamilyfrappe.com on the topic of blended families. Not only am I blending my own family, but I was also a step child, so I could ask questions from both ends of that spectrum. Maarit gives us tonnes of advice on dealing with a high conflict ex while blending your family in the most healthy way possible. She talks to us very frankly about what it was like in her own situation with the ex of her partner as a narcissist and dealing with a stepdaughter who has a loyalty bond with her narc mother. Maarit teaches us the importance of setting healthy expectations and setting ourselves up for success and she gives us some great takeaways and tips you can use right away. This is such great info for any of you who are struggling to make your own blended family work or if you have questions because you want a new relationship but you're not sure how you're going to make it really work. You'll find so many answers here. Stick around to the end and Maarit tells you how you can get her new book Dating with Kids – 9 Things Both Partners Need to Know.

Go to https://blendedfamilyfrappe.com to get an early bird copy of her book Dating with Kids: 9 Things Both Partners Need to Know.

In the context of divorce, in this episode Dr. Julie Rosenberg and I discuss all the ways in which even small amounts of stress can impact our lives long term, why you should pay attention, and how you can reduce any risk for depression, anxiety disorders and heart disease because of the state of high alert you're currently feeling. She has given me so many things to think about and you'll want to start adding meditation to your life after you hear what she has to say. She's also an advanced certified yoga instructor and teaches us a little about yoga (you can find out more to do with the 8 limbs of yoga, meditation and even more training about mindfulness in her book Beyond the Mat) and why it's important to bring those principles into your every day life.

Book: Beyond the Mat: Amazon.com (https://tinyurl.com/y2nx36da) http://www.drjulierosenberg.com/ 

For the mamas who are listening in, there is some swearing in this episode, so please put on your headphones. Gosh, this episode has taken me for a wild ride and I know that you're going to love what Amy has to say about us doubting ourselves, and reconnecting to trust and inner knowing. We talk about how to stop giving our power away, how to heal from narcissistic relationships, repeating patterns, reclaiming our worth as women and the patriarchal programming (and she goes into detail about what that is) that has kept us telling ourselves lies that keep us from owning and receiving our power. We talk about our inner GPS which is our intuitive mind and what we can do to harness the opening up and receiving of love and abundance. Amy even gives us a very powerful tip that I cannot shake and this will now be an important part of my learning moving forward (you'll know when it happens because I can't let it go). Stick around until the end because Amy has a great gift for you and the link is in the description of this episode. So, with that, let's get on with the episode. Let's welcome Amy!

Free gift: http://bit.ly/AmyCherylFreeGifts: 4 part video series on "The Secrets to Squashing Self Doubt and Igniting Your Confident Queen Self," and a free exploration call with Amy

For all you mamas who want to know how to get back into the workforce, I share some really good tips about how to get a job you truly love (even when they aren't hiring) and how to get as many names as you can with each interview. You'll learn some language to use, some tips about how to come back a second time and how to interview the boss so they know you're a real contender and not someone who is just flailing.

Free gift: 3 Strategic Ways to Get Ahead When You Feel Like You're Falling Behind: Learn the first 3 things you need to do after your divorce so that you can stop worrying and start planning: https://www.tanyadube.com/guide 

In this episode, I talk about the dreaded feeling we all have of working mom guilt. Whether you're building a business or you have a job that you're invested in or it's taking all your time, we need to know that we're not screwing it all up by doing what we need to do. You'll learn strategies for balance, some perspective shifts about ways to go easy on yourself, how to deal with people who don't like seeing you doing well for yourself, and how to live in gratitude even when you're doing work you don't love.

Free gift: 3 Strategic Ways to Get Ahead When You Feel Like You're Falling Behind: Learn the first 3 things you need to do after your divorce so that you can stop worrying and start planning: https://www.tanyadube.com/guide 

In today's episode I'm sharing some ideas with you about how to reframe what you're going through (doesn't have to just be about your divorce) so that you see the opportunity inside what you're dealing with. This is your chance to start over.

Free eBook: The Divorce Recovery Starter Kit. Sign up here: https://www.tanyadube.com/guide 

In this episode, Ellie and I talk about how your behaviour patterns are everything so that you don't recreate the same scenario(s) over and over again and you don't attract the same toxic person again. We talk about the importance of connection and connecting properly, making a very specific list to find your man if that's where you're at and also why it's urgent that you look at how your broken relationship served you. She gives us a really good mantra to repeat over and over again to build confidence and resilience. You can learn more about Ellie at ThatGotMeThinking.com

Free eBook: The Divorce Recovery Starter Kit. Sign up here: https://www.tanyadube.com/guide 

In this episode we talk about relationships that keep us in the guilt, blame, shame and rejection phase of our lives, why we do this to ourselves and what we can do about it. Looking at where to put our focus, how to pursue our goals, and figuring out who we are and what we want for what I think is an incredible opportunity to create a life we truly love.

Free eBook: The Divorce Recovery Starter Kit. Sign up here: https://www.tanyadube.com/guide 

In this episode we cover ways to keep up your inner strength and find the momentum to truly create a life you love while dealing with the after-effects of divorcing a narcissist. It's not for the feint of heart and is one of the most difficult things you have to deal with because it's not going away until your kid are older. The only thing you can do is learn how to cope with it, and deal with it so that you can have the life you want. You're going to find ideas here that, if you lean on them, you will find the peace you need to deal with what's going on in your life. You'll be able to calmly reflect on the circumstances with some clarity and you'll know how to handle whatever you're dealing with.

Free eBook: The Divorce Recovery Starter Kit. Sign up here:

https://www.tanyadube.com/guide 

Sheryl went through a harrowing split from her ex husband and she tells us how she dug herself out of the shock, the humiliation and grief of what happened and what she did to turn her life around. She teaches us how to take back control of our lives after trauma to face our new normal, each of our new identities and all of our dreams and goals that we put on hold, and start over from the ground up.

To download the first chapter of Sheryl's new book Surviving to Thriving, click here: www.survivingtothrivingbook.com