Thomas Monson said no failure needs to be final. So how can we ensure that our spouse doesn't permanently fail? How can we be present for them emotionally physically and spiritually? In today's episode I go into describing what it means to be resilient and to be there for our spouse.

Gary Stevenson said that kindness causes healing. Notice that he did not say anger pushiness or frustration helps others and ourselves to heal. Rather kindness causes healing. Also noticed that he didn't say kindness facilitates or may cause healing. He talked about causation not correlation. Where could you apply kindness so healing will happen more readily in your relationships?

With mutual esteem and high regard for one another because of our love of God it's easier to respectfully disagree. We confront rather than contend. We closely listen to another to change ourselves and to come up with a better solution instead of changing others.

Have you ever seen the Zen Dog show on Disney? Perhaps you've learned quite a few things from the show as I have. Walk with your companion not in front nor behind. Or connect don't control. Or perhaps don't raise your voice and treat each other with respect.

Have you read Seth Golden's new masterpiece called The practice? I took down several notes from The Practice and in today's episode I talk about how to apply them to your relationship. Learn about the discard pile and how big it should be, and learn about the genius of and. And and find out what is the difference between an amateur and a professional in marriage.

Today I talked about 10 steps to Kaizen, the Japanese word for continuous and never-ending improvement. Companies such as Toyota, Nestle and Canon have sought to follow the principles of Kaizen. In today's episode I discuss how we can use Kaizen in our families. And I discuss how the British bicycling team use Kaizen to get just a little bit better and experience explosive growth from the book Atomic Habits by James Clear.

Gerald Jampolsky is the author of Love Is Letting Go Of Fear and he said “Forgiveness is giving up all hope for a better past.” I can't think of a better way of expressing forgiveness and simultaneously hope. Hope is expecting that the future will keep getting better, because we know who the Author of our story is. And forgiveness is also knowing who can take poor situations and make them better. Let go, and let God.

Joy Mangano's life story found in the Book Inventing Joy brings hope and inspiration. This is what I learned: you don't have to be good to get started you just have to start. Shift your skis don't necessarily stop. Celebrate the small wins. Questions ignite invention. "Over, under, around or through." Amway, then KMart, then QVC. Circle back to people instead of cutting them out of your lives, see the best in others instead of the worst. Always reinvent yourself. Her business grew 25X moving from QVC to HSN. Fix problems with attention and patience. You don't have to be good to get started. Speak up. Treat others fairly especially when they treat you unfairly.  Mix family with business. Failure fills your basket with opportunities.

Liz Wiseman's book Multipliers is a treatise on how to become true leaders. It contains sage wisdom about avoiding being diminishers and creating multipliers. What is a multiplier? It's someone who challenges others, encourages others, and finds the good in others. She gives examples from Ernest Shackleton to Magic Johnson and from political candidates to business leaders.

According to Webster's dictionary ossification happens when bones become hard. Babies have little to no ossification. Their bones are malleable and un-hardened. What are some of the attitudes and traditions that have ossified in your life? What can you learn to become more malleable, more teachable? Has your love harden to towards a certain group of people? Or an individual? Now's the time to figuratively grab your baby toes and become un-hardened.