In this episode we dive into a topic that many of us struggle with: coping mechanisms. We all have different ways of managing our pain—whether it’s stress, difficult emotions, or past trauma. The problem is, sometimes the coping mechanisms we use to protect ourselves can end up causing even more pain in the long run. 

In this episode I discuss how these unhealthy coping mechanisms—whether it’s overworking, drinking, negative self-talk, or any other form of distraction—can keep us stuck in cycles of shame and suffering.

This episode is all about recognizing when our coping mechanisms are no longer serving us, and more importantly, how we can begin to heal the underlying pain they are trying to manage. 

By becoming curious about the root causes of our pain and developing self-compassion, we can start to let go of the unhealthy patterns and move towards a life of healing, self-acceptance, and peace.

Key Topics Covered:

1. The Role of Coping Mechanisms in Our Lives: Coping mechanisms are: the strategies we use to manage stress, pain, and difficult emotions.

2. The Hidden Wound Behind Coping Mechanisms: Every unhealthy coping mechanism is trying to help us manage a deeper wound.

3. Pain is Inevitable, But Suffering is Optional

4. Curiosity as a Path to Healing: A major theme of this episode is the power of curiosity.

5. Replacing Unhealthy Coping Mechanisms: Practical strategies for replacing unhealthy coping mechanisms with healthier ones.

6. An Invitation to Heal: If you’re struggling with unhealthy coping mechanisms, I want to invite you to give yourself permission to heal. 

Chapters:
0:00 – Introduction  
0:30 – The Pain of Coping Mechanisms  
01:45 – What Are Coping Mechanisms?  
02:58 – Pain is Inevitable, But Suffering is Optional  
04:00 – How Coping Mechanisms Can Be Deceptive  
06:38 – When Coping Mechanisms Cause More Pain  
09:55 – Why We Shouldn’t Shame Ourselves for Coping Mechanisms  
11:00 – Coping Mechanisms and Their Impact on Self-Worth  
12:29 – How to Break Free from Unhealthy Coping Mechanisms  
13:40 – The Power of Curiosity in Healing  
14:54 – Understanding Your Triggers  
16:33 – Replacing Unhealthy Coping Mechanisms  
18:07 – The Cycle of Shame and Coping  
22:00 – The Importance of Seeking Help  
23:49 – Creating a New Vision for Your Life  
25:32 – Final Thoughts and Invitation to Heal  

I am grateful you are here,
Jerry

FREE COACHING STRATEGY CALL:
Schedule Call

OVERCOMING SHAME COURSE:

ACESS COURSE HERE

Watch On Youtube

Website:
www.jerryhenderson.org

How is your relationship with yourself going?
Get your free-self assessment guide

Pick up your copy of my book:
Returning: Meditations and Reflections on Self-Love and Healing

Get Your Free Weekly Tips!

Instagram: @jerryahenderson

Linkedin: www.linkedin.com/in/jerryahenderson

Disclaimer