Kind Mind

To Be or To Have (or To Behave)


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In 1976, German social psychologist Erich Fromm published a book which presented the titular question, "To Have or To Be?"  

This philosophical inquiry would resurface throughout his work as two distinct modes of existence.  He further claimed that modern society in its materialism prefers having.

On this podcast, we often consider the dialectic of being vs doing.  Well, Portuguese poet Fernando Pessoa wrote, "to have is to tarry."  In a sense, the more you have, the more you have to do - which can weigh you down in terms of freeing your mind.

But does that mean that the goal of spiritual growth would be to eliminate possessions?  I don't think it's that simple.  It is more about transcending possessiveness.  

There is a clear cultural example of this difference when comparing the legacies of human relations with the land or ecology.  If you look at a map of Native Land that shows historically Indigenous territories, you will not find the straight lines and rigid markers as is the case with modern states and countries.  It's much more fluid like the area of defense on a baseball field, with any location more or less covered by a player.  This ties into the notion of stewardship as opposed to ownership of the land, as well as the experience of land as a community rather than a commodity.

Today, what could change with our life, work, responsibilities and relationships if we brought this awareness into our consciousness and mode of existence?  

What changes and what matters more in the moment between:

having something and being present?
having friends and being friendly?
having success and being sincere?
having love and being loving?

(intro song “New Apartment” by Coldbrew and “To New Beginnings” and “Clouds in Dark Skies” by Bing Satellites)

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Kind MindBy Michael Todd Fink

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