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If you are constantly waiting to feel ready, your fear of failure is keeping you stuck and costing you real growth.
EPISODE SUMMARYIn this episode of TODAY, WE DOMINATE, host Nick Carita breaks down why fear of failure is really about protecting your pride. Learn how to stop making excuses, take action before feeling ready, and use the Well, Better, How framework to convert misses into actionable plans.
KEY TAKEAWAYS• Reframe every setback into valuable information so adversity becomes your direct advantage.• Build lasting confidence through immediate execution rather than waiting to feel prepared.• Convert every miss into an actionable plan by evaluating what you did well and what needs improvement.
Q&AQ: Why do people fear failure?A: Fear of failure is often about protecting pride and avoiding the feeling that you are not good enough or do not know enough.
Q: How do you build real mental toughness?A: You stop protecting your feelings and start building proof that you can take the hit, do the work, and show up regardless of the outcome.
Q: Does confidence come before or after taking action?A: Confidence comes from starting and executing, not from waiting to feel ready.
YOUR CHALLENGEStop worrying about how things may look if you fail. Take action. Fail. Learn. Repeat.
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What you think is a valid reason for missing your goal might actually be an excuse holding you back.
EPISODE SUMMARY
In this episode of TODAY, WE DOMINATE, Nick Carita gets honest about why we make excuses and how to build momentum. Learn how to tell a real reason from an ego shield, run quick gut checks, and use our four ways to stop making excuses and start taking action.
KEY TAKEAWAYS
• How to tell the difference between a real reason and an ego shield• How to call out your own self-deception using three quick gut checks• How to use our four ways to stop making excuses and start taking action• How changing your daily language puts you right back in the driver seat
Q&A
Q: How do I know if I am making an excuse or giving a valid reason?A: A reason is a plain fact that acknowledges a real obstacle, looks forward, and asks what you can control. An excuse is a shield for your ego that looks backward to protect your pride so you do not feel like a failure.
Q: Why do I make excuses when my goals get hard?A: You make excuses to shield your ego and protect your pride. When things get difficult, your brain lets you play the victim so you do not have to feel like you failed.
Q: How does changing my language help me stop making excuses?A: Shifting your words from 'I couldn't' to 'I chose not to' forces you to own your decisions. Admitting what you prioritized replaces a helpless story with an honest choice and puts you right back in the driver seat.
YOUR CHALLENGE
Be honest about the wall in front of you. Own your choices. Take control of what you do next.
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What you believe about yourself decides what you go after and what you give up on.
EPISODE SUMMARY
In this episode of TODAY, WE DOMINATE, Nick Carita breaks down why moving past your old story requires building genuine self-belief, drawing on insights from Tony Robbins and psychologist Albert Bandura’s research on self-efficacy.
KEY TAKEAWAYS • Discover why the meaning you attach to events determines whether you shut down or push forward. • Learn how psychologist Albert Bandura's self-efficacy research proves that belief changes your actual actions. • Understand how past mastery experiences and vicarious models build lasting proof of capability. • Uncover how reinterpreting your body's physical signals turns nervous energy into focus.
Q&AQ: What is self-efficacy in mental performance?A: Self-efficacy is your belief in your ability to pull off a specific goal. Research shows that strong self-belief leads people to try harder, stick with tasks longer, and view setbacks as problems to fix rather than proof of incapability.
Q: How do you reframe nervous energy before a big goal?A: Physical reactions like a racing heart indicate your body is preparing you for action. By changing your internal narrative from "I am scared" to "I am ready," you assign a constructive meaning to the exact same physical sensation.
Q: Why do beliefs matter when chasing big goals?A: Events in life do not dictate your outcomes; the beliefs you attach to those events do. A single event can be given a meaning that halts your progress or a meaning that propels you forward.
YOUR CHALLENGEWrite down three moments you got through something hard, and read that list before you attempt something new. Stop waiting to feel ready. Go build the proof. Go after it. NOW, STEP UP! LOCK IN! AND MAKE TODAY COUNT!
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Your past doesn't get to write your future.
EPISODE SUMMARY
This episode breaks down why we get stuck repeating an old story about who we are, and introduces Dr. Daniel Amen's ANTs framework, Automatic Negative Thoughts, for catching and flipping the self-talk that keeps that old story alive.
KEY TAKEAWAYS
Q&A
Q: What is narrative identity?A: It's the idea that we build our sense of self by turning our life experiences into an ongoing personal story, one with a past, present, and imagined future.
Q: Why do we keep repeating the same negative thoughts about ourselves?A: Every time you repeat a thought, even just in your head, you reinforce it, so the more you say it, the more true it starts to feel, whether or not it actually is.
Q: What are ANTs (automatic negative thoughts)?A: A term from Dr. Daniel Amen for negative thoughts that show up automatically and uninvited, and multiply the longer you leave them unaddressed.
Q: How do you stop automatic negative thoughts?A: It starts with getting the thought out of your head, naming what kind of negative thought it is, and questioning whether it's actually true before deciding whether to believe it.
YOUR CHALLENGE
Kill the ANTs, and you get to find out who you actually are.
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Resentment keeps you stuck, and letting go is how you take your life back.
EPISODE SUMMARY
This episode breaks down what resentment really is, why it lingers instead of fading, and what it does to your mental and physical health over time. It also covers three real ways to start letting go, so you can stop reliving old hurt and free up space for what's ahead.
KEY TAKEAWAYS
Q&A
Q: What does the word resentment actually mean?A: It comes from the Latin words for "again" and "to feel," which is why resentment isn't just remembering an old hurt, it's reliving it over and over.
Q: Why does resentment feel different from regular anger?A: Psychologists describe it as a blend of anger, disappointment, and disgust layered together, plus a sense of unfairness, which is why it doesn't feel like one clean emotion the way anger does.
Q: Can holding onto resentment actually affect your physical health?A: Yes. It's linked to increased cortisol, higher blood pressure, a weakened immune system, and long term it can contribute to chronic stress, inflammation, and serious disease.
Q: What's one simple way to start letting go of resentment?A: Practicing gratitude helps because you can't feel grateful and resentful about the same thing at the same time, so shifting your focus to what's actually good weakens resentment's grip.
YOUR CHALLENGE
Practice gratitude instead of dwelling on what's wrong, and you gain a clearer head.
Name what you actually needed, and you gain something to fix instead of just something to feel.
Have the hard conversation, and you gain a clean slate instead of a growing weight.
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That grudge you're holding isn't protecting you, it's quietly draining your energy, your health, and your future.
EPISODE SUMMARY
Holding a grudge feels like protection, but it's actually a cost. This episode breaks down the anatomy of a thought, why grudges keep you anchored to the past, and what research says about the toll they take on your body and mind, plus what it actually takes to finally let one go.
KEY TAKEAWAYS
Q&A
Q: Why is it so hard to let go of a grudge?A: Because holding on feels like it's protecting you or making the other person pay, when really, you're the one still carrying the weight while they've likely moved on.
Q: What does holding a grudge actually do to your body and mind?A: Research shows holding grudges is linked to intrusive negative thoughts and a higher likelihood of pain disorders, cardiovascular disease, and stomach ulcers.
Q: What's the difference between your first reaction to something and how you feel about it later?A: Your first reaction, like embarrassment, is automatic and out of your control, but the anger or resentment that follows is a meaning you're choosing to attach to it.
Q: Does letting go of a grudge mean forgiving someone right away?A: No. Forgiveness shouldn't be forced or rushed, and pressure to forgive before you're ready can actually be harmful.
YOUR CHALLENGE
Give up the grudge, and you gain your energy back. Give up the grip on the past, and you gain the freedom to move forward.
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Three behaviors are quietly costing you your power, your solutions, and your growth, and it's time to give them up for good.
EPISODE SUMMARY
This episode breaks down three behaviors that quietly sabotage your progress: blaming others, complaining, and being defensive. Rooted in the idea that your response, not the event, shapes your outcome, it walks through what each behavior costs you and what you gain by giving it up instead.
KEY TAKEAWAYS
Q&A
Q: What does the E+R=O formula mean?A: Event plus response equals outcome. Your response, not the event itself, determines what happens next, so blaming what happened won't change your outcome.
Q: Why does blaming others take away your power?A: When you blame someone else for your problems, you hand them control over the outcome. Taking ownership, even when it's uncomfortable, is what lets you actually fix things.
Q: How do you stop complaining and start solving problems?
A: Ask the people close to you to call it out when you're complaining, then pause and figure out if it's a real issue or just venting. Redirect that energy toward finding a solution.
Q: Why does being defensive block personal growth?
A: Being defensive protects your ego instead of protecting you. It shuts down feedback that could actually help you improve, which slows down your growth.
YOUR CHALLENGE
Give up blame, and gain power. Give up complaining, and gain solutions. Give up being defensive, and gain growth.
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You can't build a new life while holding onto old habits and old ways of thinking. This episode lays out the standard that changes everything: living by principle instead of preference.
EPISODE SUMMARY
Building a new life means giving up the habits and mindsets holding you back. This episode lays out a choice: live by preference, doing what feels good in the moment, or by principle, doing what the moment actually requires, no matter how hard that is.
KEY TAKEAWAYS
Q&A
Q: What does it mean to live by principle instead of preference?A: Living by preference means acting based on how you feel in the moment. Living by principle means doing what you need to do, regardless of your emotions.
Q: Why is it so hard to give up old habits when trying to build a new life?A: Because real change requires awareness, reflection, and doing the difficult work even when you don't feel like it, instead of defaulting to what's comfortable.
Q: How do you take action when you don't feel motivated?A: Motivation comes AFTER you start.You ask yourself who the moment requires you to be, and you choose your action based on that answer, not on your current mood. Then, you take your first action. Momentum will come after you begin.
YOUR CHALLENGE
At any point today where you have a decision to make or an action to take, big or small, stop and ask yourself: am I about to act by principle, or by preference?"
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If you do what you've always done, you'll get what you've always gotten.
EPISODE SUMMARY
What does it take to build a new or better life? In this episode of Today, We Dominate, Nick Carita shares a quote from Jack Canfield and Les Brown and what it means for anyone holding onto the same mindsets, habits, and behaviors while expecting a new life. It starts with new decisions.
KEY TAKEAWAYS
Q&A
Q: What does "if you do what you've always done, you'll get what you've always gotten" mean?
A: It means a new or better life requires new decisions. Holding onto the same mindsets, habits, distractions, and behaviors while expecting a new life doesn't work. A new life requires a new you.
Q: How do I change my mindset to build a better life?
A: Start by letting go of what's holding you back. That includes blaming your environment for your results and the old stories you tell about yourself that aren't true. A new mindset begins with taking ownership of your life.
Q: How do I stop fear of failure from holding me back?
A: Become someone who acts despite fear. Waiting for the perfect time keeps you where you are. A better life requires action outside your comfort zone.
Q: What is E+R=O?
A: Event + Response = Outcome. Our responses to events shape our outcomes, which means our lives are a summary of all our responses to what life has thrown at us.
YOUR CHALLENGE
You have to create action NOW, not just talk or read about it. You must FOCUS, EXECUTE, and get things done!
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You don't need a different past to have a different life. You need a different response.
EPISODE SUMMARY
Nick Carita unpacks E+R=O, a formula from Jack Canfield's "The Success Principles", and why your response to what happens to you might matter more than the event itself. Using real moments from his own life, Nick shows why this simple formula could change everything.
KEY TAKEAWAYS
Q&A
Q: What does E+R=O mean?
A: E+R=O stands for Event, Response, Outcome. It means your response to what happens to you, not the event itself, is what determines your outcome.
Q: Why does your response matter more than the event itself?
A: You can't control most events, only how you react to them. Your response is the one thing in your control, and it's what actually shapes the outcome you end up with.
Q: Can one bad reaction really affect your life?
A: Yes. A single poor response, like snapping at a coworker during a stressful moment, can lead to real consequences you didn't intend, from a warning to losing your job.
Q: How do past responses affect where you are today?
A: Your current life is largely the result of how you responded to past events. Looking back at your own choices shows why you are where you are now.
YOUR CHALLENGE
So today, when the event shows up, and it will, remember: E + R = O. If you choose your response, you will change your outcome.
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