I have seen a lot of posts recently from women talking about how they miss the old version of themself, the more confident version.
Maybe the pre-C version. It’s so normal at times throughout your life to feel like you have lost yourself, especially if you have lost a person, a relationship, a job, a career.
We can look back and say “that version of me was so confident, I wish I was her again”.
The first thing I want to task is what does finding yourself feel like?
Finding yourself is the feeling of clarity, its confidence, it’s certainty.
1. The first thing to note is that you are still her. That version of you that you are missing, is still inside you.
2. It is not the job, the relationship or the circumstance that you are missing it is the version of you that was present in that circumstance. She is still in you. Where is she in your body? Can you feel in to her?
3. Distancing yourself from thought. During these times when we feel lost, perhaps there is a trigger or a trauma happening. Or thoughts are more intense, intrusive and can be more distressing, keeping us apart from ourselves.
When you can stop the thought momentarily, by going outside, taking three deep breaths and focusing on the breath in your body. Slowing thought takes practice and I will work on this with those in my new Facebook group.
The Embodying leadership 3 day activation starts 21.8.21 in the fb group and it is free - for now.
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