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If you are interested in introducing consensual non-monogamy into your current partnership, it is crucial to have an open, honest conversation with your partner.

Remember that the difference between ethical non-monogamy vs. cheating is that there is no element of secrecy or lying in an ENM relationship.

Ensure that you are comfortable sharing your thoughts and what you want with your partner, and also take time to listen to how they feel about the situation.

Explore what your partner is comfortable with, as well as any fears that they may have. Be prepared because an ENM relationship may create feelings of jealousy and insecurity for one or both of you.

This is why honesty is critical. You should never go behind your partner’s back to explore other partners, and you must agree on what is and is not acceptable before pursuing ENM.

The two of you should have rules in place, and each of you should have a right to “veto” a situation if you aren’t comfortable with it.

Suppose you’re interested in pursuing consensual non-monogamy while single, you have the option to casually date, so long as you inform new partners that you are dating multiple people.

You may also consider reading some books on the topic or joining an online dating service or polyamory community.

Keep in mind that if you enter an existing relationship as a third member of the partnership or as a secondary partner to someone within the relationship, you must respect the primary or original relationship.

Consensual non-monogamy can refer to a variety of arrangements within a relationship.

For some, it may involve the occasional threesome with another person. In contrast, other couples may consent to their significant other openly dating and forming romantic and emotional attachments with other people.

Regardless of the specific relationship, what ENM relationships have in common is that they are a deviation from the standard monogamous relationship in which two people are sexually, romantically, and emotionally exclusive.

These relationships aren’t for everyone, but for those who want to practice having more than one partner, they must be open and honest with their primary partner and each partner involved about their relationship status and sexual and romantic activities.

If honesty is lacking or dating occurs behind one partner’s back, the arrangement is no longer ethical and crosses into the territory of infidelity."

Secularists and faith-based persons embody Cosmic Consciousness, Self-consciousness, and Simple Consciousness. I also embody all of these traits.

You can't be afraid of  pain, losing family members, and relationships.

"The short explanation is the awareness that lives within us all that allows us to think, imagine, feel, and analyze and interpret information. We have become so accustomed to these abilities that we no longer see the magic in them. We think it’s something we “just do” when in actuality we are using all of these faculties to create our reality. In order to embody your God Consciousness, you must learn how to deliberately and consciously use these gifts. Before now everything outside of us told us what to think, how to feel and what we should want in life. It was a simple process, we’re all supposed to: go to school, go to college, land a good job with benefits, buy a house, get married, have children, take a couple vacations here and there, have a 401k savings plan, retire and then die.

Hopefully, you can see how this can lead to stress in many people trying to fit into this one mold. Speed up a little more to today and you can add on the stress of being relevant on social media, how many likes you get, having the perfect body, taking the most trips, hiding your pain to portray you have a “perfect” life, keeping up with the latest trends, being a savage, and well, you get the idea. You can see how easily stress can turn into depression in these times.

The only way to put an end to this mellow drama we now call Life is to re-member what you truly are. Believe me, you’re more of a what than a who. You are energy, a Soul/Spirit, God in the flesh and you’re the one who is supposed to dictate the direction of your life. Not your mother, father, family members, school-teachers, the media/government, traditions, friends, etc. As a child we had no choice as we could only be guided by those in charge of us. However, as adults it is our duty to re-member and align ourselves back with the Energy/Source that created us in the first place."

The Performer Bill of Rights details what performers have a right to when hired.  The document indicates what performers are entitled to to maintain a generally positive experience in their careers, as well as what conditions are conducive to mental, emotional, and physical health.

As a performer, I am entitled to the following rights:

Prior to a shoot (At least a day prior)

-I have the right to know the content of the shoot, the people I will be performing with, the expected shoot length, and the proposed pay. I am not required to perform acts not agreed upon prior to my arrival at work - Pressured negotiations and unexpected changes are not acceptable (In the event of same-day talent cancellations, notify all other talent and ensure new talent are comfortable working together).

-I have the right to decline, in a professional manner, to perform any professional requested sexual act I don’t feel comfortable with.!

-I have the right to be heard when I have concerns or questions about any part of a scene or work day.

During a shoot

-I have the right to be treated with respect as a hired professional at all times on set.

-I have the right to call off a scene if health problems arise that would put my fellow scene partner or others on set at risk.

-I have the right to vocalize any concerns about my health and safety on set and have all reasonable remedies carried out.

After a shoot

-I have the right to be paid my agreed upon fees according to the company’s usual method of payment.

Membership of adult industry bodies

An RTA (Restricted to Adults) label on the front of the site.

Mission statements, ethics statements or transparent information about production practices

A willingness to include behind-the-scenes content and performer interviews

A focus on consent in descriptions and within the porn itself

Visit the social media profiles of producers and see what they say and what is said about them.

ALL OF THE ABOVE REQUIRED FOR ME AS  PERFORMER AND LEADER FOR ANY FEMINIST ETHICAL PORN ENITITY I AM WITH!!

Sex is a necessity. It is true everyone needs it, and there is no denying that, so make sure your partner is getting enough of it. Relationships are always so much better with sex! Make sure you are taking out time for it. It may sound weird to plan sex because the abruptness and spontaneity of it are what makes it fun but with the busy life, it is good to plan your sexual encounters rather than not having them at all. When your partner sees how much you want it and sees the effort, you are willing to put – it is definitely a turn on, so do it!

It is essential to talk about sex with your partner. This is what adds the fun element to your relationship. You should feel safe talking about all your sexual fantasies and to tell your partner what gives you pleasure. Talking about all this would infuse the missing passion and bring in so much heat to your sex life. If you want to strengthen your relationship, start talking about sex now!

Laughing uncontrollably with your partner can be the best feeling in the world. It shows how stupid and silly you can be with each other and that tells how great of a bond you both share. Having some inside jokes along with some dirty talks is amazing for a relationship because it instigates the release of endorphins and a gives you a satisfying feeling of being happy with your partner.

Sexually satisfied relationships are not the ones based on the very process of sexual intercourse, but they are a lot of other things too. For instance, you both should enjoy the suspense and expectancy of sex. Kissing each other, sharing some naughty pictures while the other one is at work all adds up to the expectancy of sex. It is essential to spice things up a bit because this will definitely heat up the sexual desires and urges between the two of you.

5. Imperfection is beauty

It is impossible to satisfy your partner every single time except if you are sex guru or superhero. Stop putting so much pressure on yourself, just be confident and let things go in the flow. Being too careful and cautious makes things artificial and boring so just be yourself. Mishaps are absolutely okay! however, it is the weird moan or the funny expression because it will only bring you closer. You can laugh about it later and make it an inside joke but at that very moment trying to loosen up a little and relax."

Put simply, ethical porn is pornography that is fair, equitable and consensual. It is porn that centers the welfare of performers in its production practices, that is transparent in its operations and that doesn’t engage in harmful or negative post-production marketing. Ethical porn can depict a wide range of sex acts and performers; it is not restricted to any one group of producers or performers. Ethical porn exists within the wider movement of feminist porn and it is also made by mainstream US and European adult companies. It can also include any kind of production value – from amateur video to high-end studio productions. The main thing is the commitment to good labour practices, consent, transparency and social justice.

The porn industry is diverse and there is currently no official “ethical porn” label. Attempts have been made to create a brand but it is difficult to get a consensus on what ethical porn looks like. As a consumer, you can look for some of these things:

Labour practices have become a major focus in discussions of ethical porn. The US-based Adult Performer Advocacy Committee (APAC) have created a model bill of rights which articulates the standards that performers want upheld on porn sets. These include the right to know who they are performing with, what sex acts are expected and the right to decline requested sex acts. The bill of rights also deals with performer safety on set, specifying the right to safe sex supplies, food and water and sexual health information such as STD tests. The document also insists on the right of performers to be paid fairly and on time.

APAC has a performer code of conduct which members agree to abide by. This specifies professional conduct expected of performers when working.

The Free Speech Coalition also has a wider list of industry guidelines that specify respect for performers, a commitment to keeping adult material away from children, to maintaining confidentiality with customers and generally behaving with professionalism and honesty.

These codes of conduct are not mandated in the adult industry; the guidelines are voluntary and not all producers of porn are members of the relevant associations. Given that anyone can make porn now with an iPhone, it has become increasingly important to shine a light on how porn is made to ensure that it is consensual and transparent.

Feminist Porn Org: A Guide To Ethical and Feminist Porn (link)

Ethical porn consumption involves researching what companies make good porn but it also involves being willing to pay for it. Piracy has reduced the marketplace for porn and resulted in lower pay for performers and producers. If you want to see more ethical, feminist porn, it’s important to pay for it. This way the creators and performers are supported, everyone can be paid well and money can be re-invested into more quality productions."

P.S. I am open to producing, starring in, directing, and running ethical porn and feminist porn entities. 

What is the Difference Between Sensuality and Eroticism? (lelo.com)

"Erotic sex is when one feels free and open to exploring their sexual desires and fantasies. Oftentimes, when someone does not know what they find to be erotic, they may not be able to distinguish what they really crave, be it sex or simply connection.

Oxford Languages defines eroticism as “the quality or character being erotic,” and the “sexual desire or excitement.” Let’s be honest, that doesn’t really tell us much. In fact, with this definition, it’s difficult to decipher between sensuality and eroticism. So, let’s dive a bit deeper…

In an analogy, eroticism is something experienced by humans. Animals, for example, just like us humans, have sex, but animals are not able to experience eroticism. Which leads us to the conclusions that sexual activity is transformed by eroticism. It is eroticism that drives and captures one’s sense of vitality and vibrant energy through sex.

And just like sensuality, eroticism can be experienced sexually, or in a different context. Looking at a beautiful piece of art, for example, could give one an erotic feeling. It’s fuelled by our own imagination, fantasy, and creativity, and encompasses a level of playfulness and curiosity.

With that, what would we consider sensual sex to be? Well, just as any sensual experience encompasses the five senses, sensual sex is about embodying the moment. Taking the time to feel a partner’s soft skin, smell their body, taste the sweetness of their lips, listen to their moans and uninhibited sounds, really soaking up the lust in the present.

Sensual sex means putting away all distractions, and being so caught up in the experience that there are no worries or anxieties about the past or the future.

It’s when there’s a level of sexual connection that awakens the body. This kind of sex requires both partners to be in-tune with one another, feeding off of each other’s desires, and verbal and physical body language to determine what kind of stimulation they crave. Being able to do this is the first step in being able to really thrive in your sensual sex experience.

Sensually, defined by Oxford Languages, is “the enjoyment, expression, or pursuit of physical, especially sexual, pleasure”. It’s also “the condition of being pleasing or fulfilling to the senses”.

But dictionary definitions aside, what is your definition of sensuality? What things do you do or practice that make you feel sensual?

Sensuality can be felt in a number of different scenarios, be it with a partner or solo. It’s like an energy that’s undeniable, passionate, and sacred, whilst engaging in all of the five senses. Like a kind of mindfulness that is intentional and allows you to be fully present in the moment.

Wearing a flattering and beautiful piece of lingerie can make one feel sensual, for example. How one admires themselves, feels the soft material, adores the colour, and feels a sense of beauty that’s only for him or herself.

Equally so, receiving a massage from the one you’re with can also be sensual, as you feel their hands on your body, smell the massage oils, and really engulf the present.

Eating could also be considered sensual. Think about someone who simply scoffs down their meal as opposed to someone who takes the time to really devour it slowly, appreciating every bite, the smells, the textures. These are all valid definitions of sensuality. There is no one-size-fits-all, as it’s more an experience that’s unique to an individual."

Human beings are not subjects to be discussed, human beings are not to be used and exploit, human beings are not problems to be avoided, and human beings are not customers to serve for slavery fees. Human beings are are worth being cared for and loved. Human beings are worth living for and dying for. 

Dedication To A Vision (How To Be A Super-Achiever: The 10 Qualities That Matter (forbes.com)

“Every great success starts with inspiration, but not every inspiration leads to success,” Gosfield says. “The most common thing we found was these people’s devotion to the day-to-day struggle.” Glossy magazine success stories often don’t show the dark moments, the daily grind or flagging energy that super-achievers endure to realize their goals. However, that dedication is essential to their success.

Intelligent Persistence

One thing successful people know: Dedication and blind persistence are two very different things. “You can work hard but not smart,” says Sweeney. “When something’s not working, you’ve got to tweak it. Some people just keep banging their heads against the wall.” Instead of doggedly using the same ineffective tactics, super-achievers pivot and try to tackle the problem from a different angle.

Constantly Evolving

Successful people maintain success by consistently learning and adapting to the environment around them. Tennis champion Martina Navratilova realized this when her game suddenly started sliding. She decided to transform her training routine and diet, and soon was back on track to become an all-star athlete.

Managing Emotions

“We found that managing emotions is a key element to success,” Sweeney says. “It’s so easy to be derailed by them, but these people are able to channel anger and frustration into their work.” This was an important lesson for Jessica Watson, the Australian sailor who circumnavigated the world alone at only 16 years old. While out at sea, when loneliness or negativity set in, she would acknowledge her emotions and remind herself that she could get past them. “You can’t change conditions—just the way you deal with them,” Watson said.

Fostering A Community

Star performers know they can’t achieve success on their own. Instead, they must galvanize a group of people around their idea or goal. Teamwork, or having an ecosystem of supporters, turns out to be critically vital for success. It doesn’t just include partners and coworkers. It might also mean employees, customers, investors, mentors, fans and social media followers. They quote business guru Guy Kawasaki: “First you have to create something worthy of an ecosystem. Then pick your evangelists."

Listening And Remaining Open

“You don’t normally think of hard-charging, action-oriented leaders as being good listeners,” says Sweeney. “These people’s ability to practice the art of listening helped them learn what they needed to know about the world around them.” For example, Zappos’ Hsieh asked all his employees to share their personal values so that he could incorporate them into the company’s values and culture. Likewise, Linney says she never accepts a role unless she has read and reread the script so many times that it has opened up to her.

Good Storytelling

Stories have the ability to transport people to your world, and then they're more likely to invest in you and your brand. Philippe Petit, famous for his high-wire walk between the Twin Towers of New York City's World Trade Center in the 1970s, believed other wire-walkers were trying to make it look hard. “But he wanted to be a poet in the sky and seem effortless,” Sweeney says. “His narrative wasn’t in words, but it was a story he was communicating.”

Having compassion and empathy may seem like a negative for critical thinkers. After all, being sentimental and emotional can skew our perception of a situation. But the point of having compassion is to have concern for others and to value the welfare of other people.

Without compassion, we would view all information and situations from the viewpoint of cold, heartless scientific facts and data. It would be easy to allow our cynicism to become toxic, and to be suspicious of everything we look at. But to be a good critical thinker, we must always take into account the human element. Not everything we do is about detached data and information -- it’s also about people.

Humility is the willingness to acknowledge one’s shortcomings and see one’s positive attributes in an accurate way. When you have humility, you are aware of your flaws, but also your strengths, and this is an important element in critical thinking and being willing to stretch and open your mind.

When you have intellectual humility, you’re open to other people’s viewpoints, you recognize when you’re wrong and you’re willing to challenge your own beliefs when necessary.

Critical thinking means questioning long-established business practices and refusing to adhere to traditional methods simply because that’s the way it’s always been done. Critical thinkers are looking for smart, thoughtful answers and methods that take into account all the current and relevant information and practices available. Their willingness to challenge the status quo may seem controversial, but it’s an essential part of the creative and innovative mind of a critical thinker.

Being able to step back from a situation and not become embroiled helps critical thinkers see the broader view. Critical thinkers avoid launching into a frenzied argument or taking sides -- they want to hear all perspectives. Critical thinkers don’t jump to conclusions. They approach a question or situation with an open mind and embrace other opinions and views.

9. Turning adversity to advantage

Experiences of loss, struggle, suffering, and defeat can be powerful catalysts for personal growth, creativity, and deep transformation. It is often through suffering that we learn compassion, from loss that we learn understanding, and from overcoming struggles that we come to discover our own strength and beauty.

Adverse events can force us to reexamine our beliefs and life projects, and therein lie their power and creative potential. After the experience of adversity, the mind is actively dismantling old belief systems that no longer hold up and creating new structures of meaning and identity. To make meaning of difficult experiences, try expressive writing, which research has found can lessen symptoms of post-traumatic stress and depression, while improving some cognitive functions, like working memory.

Interestingly, research has also found that extreme positive events—in particular, those that evoke feelings of awe, wonder, inspiration, and connection to something greater than the self—can also encourage creativity. Positive emotions build a person’s psychological resources, broadening attention, inspiring new thoughts and behaviors, and stimulating creative thinking. So, if you’re looking for a creative boost, treat all of life’s meaningful moments—the good and the bad—as potential sources of inspiration and motivation.

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Openness to experience—the drive for cognitive exploration of one’s inner and outer worlds—is the single strongest and most consistent personality trait that predicts creative achievement. Openness can be intellectual, characterized by a searching for truth and the drive to engage with ideas; aesthetic, characterized by the drive to explore fantasy and art and experience emotional absorption in beauty; or affective, characterized by exploring the depths of human emotion.

Research has found that the desire to learn and discover seems to have significantly more bearing on the quality of creative work than intellect alone. So, if you want to boost your creativity, try out a new creative outlet or a totally different medium of expression, or take a new route home from work, or seek out a new group of people with different interests or values that you might learn from. Openness to new experiences can help increase your integrative complexity—the capacity to recognize new patterns and find links among seemingly unrelated pieces of information.

https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/ten_habits_of_highly_creative_people