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“The sex-positive movement is a social and philosophical movement that seeks to change cultural attitudes and norms around sexuality, promoting the recognition of sexuality (in the countless forms of expression) as a natural and healthy part of the human experience and emphasizing the importance of personal sovereignty, safer sex practices, and consensual sex (free from violence or coercion). It covers every aspect of sexual identity including gender expression, orientation, relationship to the body (body-positivity, nudity, choice), relationship-style choice, and reproductive rights.[1] [2] Sex-positivity is "an attitude towards human sexuality that regards all consensual sexual activities as fundamentally healthy and pleasurable, encouraging sexual pleasure and experimentation."[1] It challenges societal taboos and aims to promote healthy and consensual sexual activities.[3] The sex-positive movement also advocates for comprehensive sex education and safe sex as part of its campaign.[4][1] The movement generally makes no moral distinctions among types of sexual activities, regarding these choices as matters of personal preference.[5] Sex-positive feminism, also known as pro-sex feminism, sex-radical feminism, or sexually liberal feminism, is a feminist movement centering on the idea that sexual freedom is an essential component of women's freedom. They oppose legal or social efforts to control sexual activities between consenting adults, whether they are initiated by the government, other feminists, opponents of feminism, or any other institution. They embrace sexual minority groups, endorsing the value of coalition-building with marginalized groups. Sex-positive feminism is connected with the sex-positive movement. Sex-positive feminism brings together anti-censorship activists, LGBT activists, feminist scholars, producers of pornography and erotica, among others. Sex-positive feminists believe that prostitution can be a positive experience if workers are treated with respect, and agree that sex work should not be criminalized. Anti-pedophile activism encompasses opposition to pedophiles, pedophile advocacy groups, child pornography, and child sexual abuse. The anti-rape movement is a sociopolitical movement[1] which is part of the movement seeking to combat violence against and the abuse of women.

The movement seeks to change community attitudes to violence against women, such as attitudes of entitlement to sex and victim blaming, and attitudes of women such as self-blame for violence. It seeks to promote changes to rape laws or laws of evidence which enable rapists to avoid penalties because, for example, victims are discouraged from reporting assaults, or because the rapist is entitled to immunity or because a rapist (as a defendant) is capable in law of denigrating the victim. The movement has been successful in jurisdictions, though many attitudes still persist, and despite changes to laws and significant increases in reporting of assaults, violence against women still persists at high levels.” -Wikipedia.

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“2. Emotional boundaries are all about respecting and honoring feelings and energy. Setting emotional boundaries means recognizing how much emotional energy you are capable of taking in, knowing when to share and when not to share, and limiting emotional sharing with people who respond poorly. Respecting emotional boundaries means validating the feelings of others and making sure you respect their ability to take in emotional information.

It might sound like:

"When I share my feelings with you and get criticized, it makes me totally shut down. I can only share with you if you are able to respond respectfully to me."

"I am so sorry you are having such a tough time. Right now, I am not in a place to take in all of this information. Do you think we can come back to this conversation later?"

"I am having a hard time and really need to talk. Are you in a place to listen right now?"

"I really can't talk about that right now. It isn't the right time." Emotional boundary violations include:

Dismissing and criticizing feelings

Asking questions that are not appropriate for the relationship

Reading or going through personal and emotional information

Asking people to justify their feelings

Assuming we know how other people feel

Telling other people how they feel

"Emotionally dumping" on people without their permission

Sharing inappropriate emotional information with your children.” 4.

Sexual boundaries

Healthy sexual boundaries include consent, agreement, respect, understanding of preferences and desires, and privacy.

Healthy sexual boundaries include:

Asking for consent

Discussing and asking for what pleases you

Requesting condom use if you want it

Discussing contraception

Saying no to things that you do not like or that hurt you

Protecting the privacy of the other person

This might sound like:

"Do you want to have sex now?"

"Is this comfortable for you?"

"Tell me what you like."

"Tell me what you don't like."

"I don't like that. Let's try something different."

"I don't want to have sex tonight. Can we cuddle instead?"

"I am really into [insert desire here]. Is that something you would feel comfortable with?"

Sexual boundary violations include:

Sulking, punishing, or getting angry if someone does not want to have sex

Not asking for consent

Pressure to engage in unwanted sexual acts

Unwanted sexual comments

Leering

Lying about contraceptive use

Lying about your health history

Criticizing the other person's sexual preferences

Unwanted touch, assault, or rape.” “6.

Intellectual boundaries

Intellectual boundaries refer to your thoughts, ideas, and curiosity. Healthy intellectual boundaries include respect for the ideas of other people, and they can be violated when your thoughts and curiosity are shut down, dismissed, or belittled. Respectfulness and willingness to dialogue and understand are important here. Healthy intellectual boundaries also mean considering whether or not it is a good time to talk about something.

They might sound like:

"I know we disagree, but I won't let you belittle me like that."

"I would love to talk about this more, but I don't think talking about it during Thanksgiving dinner is the best time."

"When we talk about this, we don't get very far. I think it is a good idea to avoid the conversation right now."

"I can respect that we have different opinions on this."

Does this mean that you need to be accepting of all thoughts and opinions? Absolutely not. It is also important to learn to recognize the difference between healthy and unhealthy discourse. If someone is sharing an opinion that is inherently harmful—i.e., racism, sexism, xenophobia, homophobia, etc.—then you have every right to put a hard line in the sand. You can set the boundary in your own way. It might sound like letting the person know you do not tolerate that kind of talk, distancing yourself from them, or cutting off. You do not have to have "intellectual" discourse with someone who is violating you or other people.” Mindbodygreen.

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“The Casting Couch (c. 1924), a classic title in the stag film genre,[12] was an early depiction of the casting couch as a pornographic trope that later became mundane as it grew in popularity.[13] In the sixteen-minute film, a casting director tells a young actress to wear a swimsuit during an audition, spies on her in a voyeuristic manner while she undresses in a different room, and enters the room to solicit sex from her. The actress initially rebuffs his advances with disgust, but returns to the director after taking advice from a book titled How to Become a Movie Star. She performs fellatio and vaginal intercourse in exchange for a role in his film; the latter takes place on a couch. The Casting Couch concludes with an intertitle that states, "the only way to become a star is to get under a good director and work your way up".[12] Zimmer credited the film with popularizing the term casting couch.[11]

The trend of casting couch scenarios used on pornography websites began with Backroom Casting Couch in 2007.[14]

GirlsDoPorn sex trafficking

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From 2009 to 2020, the pornographic company GirlsDoPorn produced hundreds of videos of casting couch pornography mostly featuring women aged 18–22 who had not otherwise appeared in pornography.[15][16][17][18] The depicted women were manipulated, coerced, lied to, given marijuana or other drugs or physically forced to have sex, according to the accounts of victims and material from a lawsuit against the company.[19][16][18][20] Six people involved in the website were charged with sex trafficking by force, fraud and coercion in November 2019.[18] Official videos from the company were viewed over a billion times, including a paid subscription service on its website, and an estimated 680 million views on the tube site Pornhub, where the official channel was among the site's top 20 most viewed. Pirated copies of the videos were also viewed hundreds of millions of times.[16][21][22] According to a lawsuit, the videos could still be found on mainstream pornography websites up to at least December 2020.[23] In 2020, twenty-two women were awarded a cumulative $12.75 million in damages as a result of a lawsuit which alleged that women who filmed for the website were lied to throughout the process.[15][16][17][24] “The casting couch is illegal under United States and California law. In the United States, the majority of lawsuits related to the practice are settled, resulting in a lack of case law.[10]

Etymology

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In The Atlantic, linguist Ben Zimmer described the casting couch as "a metonym for the skewed sexual politics of show business", which has been normalized into a cliché due to the prevalence of sexually aggressive men with positions of authority in Hollywood cinema and Broadway theatre.[11]” -Wikipedia. “When it comes to sex and romance, I avoid passive acceptance

resignation

acceptance

acceptance of the inevitable

stoicism

defeatism

pessimism

negativism

negative thinking

gloominess

doom and gloom

gloom

predeterminism

predestinarianism

necessitarianism

fate

fatedness. I don’t sleep with people and I don’t date people who embrace discriminatory traditions, discriminatory policies, discriminatory ideas, discriminatory practices, discriminatory systems, discriminatory industries, discriminatory entities, discriminatory individuals, and discriminatory laws. When it forms to sex and romance, I also avoid cynicism, empathy vampires, compassion fatigue, nihilism, reclusion, Saudade, Schadenfreude, projection, deflection, useless excuses, needless justifications, unnecessary explanations, Weltschmerz, tribalism, cronyism, clannism, nepotism, elitism, toxic positivity, spiritualizing, spiritual bypassing, being too nice, cold heartedness, narcissistic sexual abuse, comfort addiction, ambition addiction, and approval addiction.” -Antonio Myers. “ I hate Self-abasement, Self-blame, Self-destructive behaviour, Self-harm, Self-hatred, Self-neglect, and Self-victimization.” Antonio Myers.

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“There are 18 common types of background checks employers use to verify a new hire. The checks can include:

Criminal history

Past employment verification

Education verification

Reference check

Drug screening

Sexual offenses check

Credit background check

Social media behavior check

Driving record

Professional license and certifications check

Social security number trace/identity check

Global sanctions check

Civil offenses check

Bankruptcy check

Financial regulations check

Psychometric tests

International background check

Gamer profile check

Each check is briefly explained along with its purpose and how it helps employers make informed hiring decisions.[1] A background check is a process a person or company uses to verify that an individual is who they claim to be, and this provides an opportunity to check and confirm the validity of someone's criminal record, education, employment history, and other activities from their past. The frequency, purpose, and legitimacy of background checks vary among countries, industries, and individuals. An employment background check typically takes place when someone applies for a job, but it can also happen at any time the employer deems necessary. A variety of methods are used to complete these checks including comprehensive database search and personal references. Regulation

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[18] The Financial Services Authority states in their Training & Competence guidance that regulated firms should have:

Adequacy of procedures for taking into account knowledge and skills of potential recruits for the role

Adequacy of procedures for obtaining sufficient information about previous activities and training

Adequacy of procedures for ensuring that individuals have passed appropriate exams or have appropriate exemptions

Adequacy of procedures for assessing competence of individuals for sales roles

The Financial Services Authority's statutory objectives:

Protecting consumers

Maintaining market confidence

Promoting public awareness

Reducing financial crime. Restriction and laws on Background Check

Arrest and conviction records: Title VII of the Civil Rights Act of 1964; Cal. Lab. Code § 432.7; Cal. Lab. Code § 432.8; Cal. Pen. Code § 290.46(k)(2); 775 ILCS 5/2-103; Job Opportunities for Qualified Applicants Act, 820 ILCS 75/15; N.Y. Correct. Law § 752; N.Y. Exec. Law § 296 (15), (16); 18 Pa.C.S. § 9125

Credit/financial checks: Consumer Credit Reporting Agencies Act, Cal. Civ. Code § 1785.13; Cal. Lab. Code § 1024.5; 820 ILCS 70/10

Health checks/medical screening: Americans with Disabilities Act, 42 U.S.C. § 12101, et seq.; Genetic Information Nondiscrimination Act, 42 U.S.C. § 2000ff, et seq.; Cal. Lab. Code § 132a

Social media: Cal. Lab. Code § 980; 820 ILCS 55/10(a)

Record disposal: 16 CFR Part 682

Record keeping: 29 CFR Part 160

Records/information obtained from consumer reporting agencies, including but not limited to education and employment records, credit and financial records, and social media: Fair Credit Reporting Act, 15 U.S.C. § 1681, et seq.; Consumer Credit Reporting Agencies Act, Cal. Civ. Code § 1785.13(a)(6); Investigative Consumer Reporting Agencies Act, Cal. Civ. Code § 1786.18(a)(7); Cal. Civ. Code § 1786.53

Political affiliation: D.C. Code § 2–1402.11; Wis. Stat. Ann. § 111.321

Polygraph tests: Employee Polygraph Protection Act, 29 U.S.C. §§ 2002, 2006; Cal. Lab. Code § 432.2; 225 ILCS 430/14.1; N.Y. Lab. Law §§ 733–739; 18 Pa.C.S. § 7321. Many employers choose to search the most common records such as criminal records, driving records, and education verification. Other searches such as sex offender registry, credential verification, skills assessment, reference checks, credit reports and Patriot Act searches are becoming increasingly common.[22] Many commercial sites will offer specific searches to employers for a fee. Services like these will actually perform the checks, supply the company with adverse action letters, and ensure compliance throughout the process.” -Wikipedia.

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“Scandals have been a part of history in major declarations, false truces, when political or celebrity figures need to pay someone off to protect their legacy and more.[7] Scandals can involve bribery, immoral action, shame, slander, misdoing, etc.[8] The Hamilton–Reynolds affair, which involved Secretary of the Treasury Alexander Hamilton, who had a one-year affair with Maria Reynolds during George Washington's presidency, is considered one of the first sex scandals in American political history.[9] Political sex scandals in the U.S. have included the first sex scandal of Alexander Hamilton to five major national political figures, Newt Gingrich, John Edwards, Arnold Schwarzenegger, Bill Clinton and Donald Trump.[10] Men and women have to face scrutiny of their career or life in the field of politics by the media looking for scandals. Sex scandals involve sexual affairs which usually, but not always, involve infidelity. Infidelity has many definitions, either based on experience or research done on people who have been involved in the act of disloyalty and trust. To some, infidelity "is a complex phenomenon with multiple reasons driving people to cheat on their partners".[11] A 2018 New York Times article cited an American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy national survey, stating "that 15 percent of married women and 25 percent of married men have had extramarital affairs".[12] Sex scandals tend to include a bias when it comes to men and women who are caught and then need evidence to explain their situation. A 2015 study concluded that gender stereotypes were "refer(ed) to the meanings that individuals and societies ascribe to males and females".[13] According to Juliet Williams at the University of California, Los Angeles the 1998 Clinton–Lewinsky scandal in the United States made the US Congress, media, and citizens look at male candidates and politicians in a different light by "normalizing public discussion of sex acts."[14] John Edwards, David Petraeus, Anthony Weiner, Arnold Schwarzenegger, are other examples of men involved in sex scandals that have caused the public not to give men the benefit of the doubt. This has caused the debate between politics and sex scandals to be seen in a different light. It has allowed gender-shifting and the role of gender to become more unbiased in the selection of candidates during their evaluation and allows more power for women fighting against stereotypes due to scandals, and men being seen as more skeptical.[13]

A year after the 2017 Harvey Weinstein sexual abuse cases was first reported, leading to the viral spread of the #MeToo movement, New York Times published a list of 201 names of prominent men in the United States who had lost their jobs following public allegations of sexual harassment.[15]

Social attitudes have traditionally been less forgiving when minors are involved. In France, for example, the scandal surrounding Swiss art dealer Yves Bouvier and former call girl Zahia Dehar – for whom Bouvier allegedly acted as a pimp in the late 2000s, paying her to appear at dinners for entertainment when she was 17 years old – has caused outrage and opened a debate about powerful men in society abusing their power.[16][17] The fall from grace and imprisonment of Anthony Weiner, following his sexting of explicit pictures to a 15-year-old girl, is another notable example of the pre-#MeToo era.[18]” -Wikipedia.

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“The casting couch is a euphemism for the practice of soliciting sexual favors from a job applicant in exchange for employment in the entertainment industry, primarily acting roles.[1][2] The practice is illegal in the United States. Predominantly male casting directors and film producers use the casting couch to extract sex from aspiring actors in Hollywood, Bollywood,[3][4] Broadway, and other segments of the industry.[9] The term casting couch originally referred to physical couches in the casting office, but is now a metonym for the phenomenon as a whole. Depictions of casting couch sexual encounters have also become a genre of pornography. According to economists Thomas Borcherding and Darren Filson, the high risk and returns in Hollywood cinema encourage the casting couch phenomenon. The possibility of high returns incentivizes unestablished actors to accept minimal wages in exchange for roles. With the exception of a few extremely talented actors, producers are unable to evaluate the aptitude of the vast majority of qualified actors due to uncertainty. As a result, some actors give sexual favors to producers to obtain a perceived advantage in the casting; the casting couch functions as a counterpayment that effectively reduces their wages. This creates a conflict of interest in which corrupt producers substitute aptitude (an unquantifiable variable) with sexual activity in their decision-making.[10]

Actors who submit to the casting couch are not guaranteed roles, as there is an abundance of actors who participate in the practice. An actor's decision of whether to provide sex is comparable to the prisoner's dilemma, and results in a tragedy of the commons in which sex is needed to obtain film roles from producers who demand it, but fails to provide an advantage relative to other actors who offer sexual favors. If the provision of sex were voluntary and performed with the consent of all parties, the casting couch would be a quid pro quo exchange and a victimless crime. However, the practice is illegal in the United States and likely involves some degree of sexual exploitation or sexual harassment. Actors who do not participate in the casting couch are subject to externalities, including reduced employability.[10]

Borcherding and Filson argue that the casting couch became less prominent after the Hollywood studio system, which enforced long-term employment contracts for actors, was eliminated on antitrust grounds in United States v. Paramount Pictures, Inc. (1948). Long-term contracts gave producers stronger bargaining power, which was used by corrupt producers to extract sex from actors more effectively.[10]” -Wikipedia.

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“A sex scandal is a public scandal involving allegations or information about possibly immoral sexual activities, often associated with the sexual affairs of film stars, politicians,[1] famous athletes, or others in the public eye. Sex scandals receive attention if a prominent figure is involved, if there is a perception of hypocrisy, if a public figure's sexuality is non-normative, or if it involves non-consensual acts.[2] A scandal may be based on reality, the product of false allegations, or a mixture of both. Whether the scandal is based in fact or not, it may lead to the celebrity disappearing from the public eye or to the resignation of prominent political figures.[3] Sex scandals involving politicians often become political scandals, particularly when there is an attempt at a cover-up or suspicions of illegality. Attempts at coverups include payoffs, threats, or, in extreme cases, murder.

While some commentators see sex scandals as irrelevant to politics, particularly where "professional performance [does] not seem to be impaired",[4] Gene Healy of the Cato Institute views them as not just "great fun", but a reminder "that we should think twice before we cede more power to these fools."[5] An increase in the prevalence of morally questionable expressions of sexuality is sometimes referred to as a sexidemic.[6]

Sex scandals, in relation to political and public figures, often lead to questions of one's own ethics and moral code. A politician who is caught in a sex scandal is more likely to resign than a public figure in the face of a sex scandal.[1]”

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“In social philosophy, objectification is the act of treating a person as an object or a thing. It is part of dehumanization, the act of disavowing the humanity of others. Sexual objectification, the act of treating a person as a mere object of sexual desire, is a subset of objectification, as is self-objectification, the objectification of one's self. In Marxism, the objectification of social relationships is discussed as "reification". According to Martha Nussbaum, a person is objectified if one or more of the following properties are applied to them:[1]

Instrumentality – treating the person as a tool for another's purposes

Denial of autonomy – treating the person as lacking in autonomy or self-determination

Inertness – treating the person as lacking in agency or activity

Fungibility – treating the person as interchangeable with (other) objects

Violability – treating the person as lacking in boundary integrity and violable, "as something that it is permissible to break up, smash, break into."

Ownership – treating the person as though they can be owned, bought, or sold (such as slavery)

Denial of subjectivity – treating the person as though there is no need for concern for their experiences or feelings

Rae Langton proposed three more properties to be added to Nussbaum's list:[2]

Reduction to body – the treatment of a person as identified with their body, or body parts

Reduction to appearance – the treatment of a person primarily in terms of how they look, or how they appear to the senses

Silencing – the treatment of a person as if they are silent, lacking the capacity to speak. Sexual objectification is the act of treating a person solely as an object of sexual desire. Objectification more broadly means treating a person as a commodity or an object without regard to their personality or dignity. Objectification is most commonly examined at the level of a society, but can also refer to the behavior of individuals and is a type of dehumanization.” -Wikipedia.

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rash

careless

thoughtless

incautious

heedless

unheeding

inattentive

hasty

over-hasty under-hasty

precipitate

precipitous

impetuous

impulsive

daredevil

devil-may-care

hotheaded

irresponsible

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headlong over-adventurous under-adventurous un-adventurous

over-venturesome under-venturesome un-venturesome

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temerarious. They taught us to always be internally and externally (of a person or their actions) without thinking or caring about the consequences of an action. They taught us to always be reckless inwardly and reckless outwardly. They taught us to never be careful, never be cautious, and never be prudent interiorly and exteriorly." -Antonio Myers

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“I didn’t know that at the time that I was traumatically trained in my childhood to be sexually improper, sexually ill-advised, sexually unsuited, sexually incongruous, sexually out of place, sexually ludicrous, sexually incorrect, sexually preposterous, sexually unwarranted, sexually undue, sexually imprudent, sexually abnormal, sexually irregular, sexually inexpedient, sexually unseasonable, sexually inadvisable, sexually untimely, sexually inopportune, sexually unfit, sexually malapropos, sexually unfitting, sexually inappropriate, sexually unbefitting, sexually ill-timed, sexually awkward, sexually inharmonious, sexually inapplicable, sexually odd, and sexually unsuitable.” -Antonio Myers.

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