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As a media psychologist, Dr. Rajan has spoken on several Los Angeles and Orange County based radio talk shows, as a mental health advocate for survivors of human trafficking and an expert on the global sex trafficking crisis, and more generally, as a psycho-educator about various issues including: complex trauma, medical trauma, mindfulness based practices in address of depression and anxiety, and most recently, best mental health practices during the Covid-19 global pandemic, and social justice issues.

"Fear comes in one moment, and possibility in the next. We can't comprehend all that life offers us until we are present to the moments that comprise it. It is only when we get accustomed to wading in the waves, that we can truly behold the beauty of the ocean."~ Dr. Indhushree Rajan

Diana Rivera​MA, PCC, Ph.D. Licensed Clinical Psychologist/Certified Coach/Facilitator

June 10, 2021, Diana worked with Indushree on the same team:

"Dr. Indushree Rajan is an outstanding clinician. I have had a chance, as a close colleague, to observe her incredible work as a psychologist: highly astute, sensitive, critical thinking, ethical and so compassionate! I refer to her all the time because I know clients will have a warm, loving and safe space to bare their heart, mind and soul. 5-star recommendation."

Dr. Laura Ruaro, Psychologist in Private Practice

May 4, 2021, Laura worked with Indushree on the same team:

"Indushree is an experienced and passionate Psychologist. She develops strong and committed relationships with her clients and is committed to learning and self-development. She is a highly esteemed colleague; I highly recommend her."

Klarissa Castro [Ph.D. Product Design | Owner of Jewelry business focused on Women Empowerment | Passionate about Wellbeing Programs & improving Mental Health

April 30, 2021, Klarissa worked with Indushree on the same team:

"I had the pleasure of working with Dr. Rajan. She is the most insightful and empathic clinician I know.

She is very passionate about her work, and it shows with the results she produces.

I highly recommend her as a psychologist.

As a colleague, she was always there for support. Loved working with her!"

Jake Koplowitz: "I cannot express enough gratitude for the transformative experience I’ve had under Dr. Rajan’s care. When I was referred to her by a friend, I was grappling with stress, anxiety, and depression stemming from job loss and strained relationships. I have previously used a CBT approach to therapy and wanted to try something more well-rounded, which made Dr. Rajan a perfect fit.

What sets her apart is her eclectic approach to therapy. Drawing from various modalities like CBT, psychotherapy, talk therapy, and humanistic therapy, she tailored our sessions to suit my unique needs. This holistic approach not only provided me with practical tools to manage my challenges but also fostered profound introspection and growth.

Under Dr. Rajan’s guidance, I’ve not only learned to navigate the complexities of my circumstances but have also cultivated a deeper understanding of myself and my relationships. Her compassionate presence and insightful guidance have been instrumental in my journey toward healing and resilience. I wholeheartedly recommend Dr. Rajan to anyone seeking a compassionate and effective ally in their mental health journey." Link to her website:

Home - The Conscious Life (theconscious-life.com)

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“Benefits of casual dating:

You get to have romance and touch in your life without the commitments of a serious or long-term relationship.

You have someone to hang out with in your downtime.

You have someone to do "couple" and "relationship" things with, without the commitment.

You can get to know someone in a laid-back, pressure-free way.

You can potentially date multiple people at the same time.

You can have sex with a regular partner.

You get to spend time with someone you like who likes you back.

You can get to know someone in a casual way while deciding whether you want to pursue a serious relationship with them.

You can determine if someone isn't a good fit for a long-term relationship with you before actually entering into a long-term relationship with them.

You can enjoy spending time with someone you like even though you know you two wouldn't make a great couple in the long. term.

You can enjoy dating someone without having to share your whole life with them.

You can enjoy the fun parts of dating without a lot of the more mundane or difficult parts of maintaining a long-term partnership.

Things aren't purely sexual usually—you and the other person genuinely like spending time with each other, even when you're not having sex.

You have more independence and flexibility since you don't need to totally sync your life up with the other person's life.

You don't need to find the "perfect" partner—you can enjoy spending time with anyone whom you find fun to be around, even if they're not the "perfect" fit for you.

You might find out you really like each other and decide to enter into a more serious relationship.

Risks of casual dating:

One person may start to form real romantic feelings or emotional attachment to the other person, and the other person may not feel the same way.

If you develop feelings for the other person and they don't feel the same, you can end up getting hurt.

If the other person develops feelings for you and you don't feel the same way, you may end up feeling guilty about hurting that person.

Some people may not communicate clearly about what they want from casual dating, causing misunderstandings and hurt feelings.

Some people may use casual dating as an excuse to avoid communicating about needs and boundaries.

Some people may use casual dating as an excuse to be careless, selfish, or dismissive of the other person's needs.

Some people may use casual dating as an excuse to lie to the other person.

Some people may say they want to casually date, when in reality they are hoping for a serious relationship.

If your relationship isn't exclusive, there may be a higher risk of acquiring sexually transmitted infections.

There's a possibility for jealousy if one or both parties is also dating other people.” -Mindbodygreen. “Sexual Trauma Symptoms

Everyone is affected differently by sexual trauma, depending on their age and available support system. Some survivors of sexual trauma can show symptoms of PTSD, while others may exhibit drastic changes in personal hygiene, concentration, and mood. Individuals may also adopt unhealthy coping skills, such as substance use or self-harm, to cope with their distress.

Signs and symptoms of sexual trauma may include:

Changes in sleep pattern (i.e., insomnia or nightmares)

Changes in social behavior or friend groups

Changes in hygiene

Poor concentration

Changes in school or work performance

Mood changes (i.e., depressed, irritable, cries easily, etc.)

Self-injurious behaviors.

Experimenting with substances

Sexually acting out by children (provocative language/body language or imitating sexual acts).” -ChoosingTherapy.

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“Effects of Sexual Trauma

Experiencing sexual abuse puts individuals at risk of experiencing long-term effects from their trauma. In children, adverse childhood experiences (ACEs) like sexual trauma can contribute to chronic health problems, mental illness, and substance misuse in adulthood.6 These challenges can also negatively impact their ability to pursue education, job opportunities, and personal growth.

Negative Coping Strategies

People may develop negative coping strategies in response to sexual trauma. Some may engage in ‘numbing’ tactics like substance use, disordered eating, and self-harm. Others may dissociate to disconnect from their bodies or external surroundings. Self-isolation or avoiding trauma triggers are additional examples of unhealthy coping patterns.

Physical Symptoms

Sexual trauma can coincide with various somatic experiences that range in severity. Some of the physical effects of sexual assault include sexual dysfunction (vaginal pain, erectile dysfunction, limited to no libido), acute or chronic pain, muscle tightness, gastrointestinal distress, headaches, and panic attacks.

Difficulty Going Back to Normal Life

Readjusting to daily life after experiencing trauma can be challenging as survivors may have difficulty in their relationships, returning to work or school, and regaining a sense of normalcy and identity. They may also experience sexual anxiety, as even healthy sexual experiences may trigger flashbacks of their trauma.6

Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD)

PTSD from sexual abuse can occur with either an immediate or delayed onset. Hallmark symptoms include ruminating thoughts about the abuse, flashbacks, nightmares, hypervigilance, and intense feelings of shame or guilt. Not everyone who experiences sexual trauma will develop PTSD, but a lack of support, poor coping skills, and complex trauma can increase the risk.

Relationship Difficulties

Sexual trauma triggers can seep into everyday life, and they may become more pronounced in intimate relationships. For example, some people find being emotionally or physically vulnerable with another person challenging. They may struggle to trust others due to a past history of betrayal. Similarly, they might present as either overly guarded or permissive with partners.

Mental Health Conditions

Sexual trauma is a risk factor for numerous mental health conditions, including anxiety, substance use disorders, eating disorders, personality disorders, and dissociative disorders. Sexual trauma itself likely does not single-handedly cause these conditions. However, the unresolved effects can result in significant distress, leading to subsequent issues.

Loss of Self

The emotional effects of sexual assault can erode an internal sense of safety and chip away at core values. Some people report a deep hollowness after experiencing or processing trauma. These feelings may speak to the intense fear, anger, and helplessness that can emerge after such a life-threatening event.

Emotional Dysregulation

Emotional dysregulation is often a product of feeling powerless and unsafe after significant events, including sexual trauma. Emotional dysregulation can include problems expressing emotions, intense and sudden mood swings, and lashing out. Some people may also struggle with self-destructive behaviors or suicidal thoughts.

Depersonalization & Derealization

Depersonalization refers to feeling detached from the body or inner thoughts. Similarly, derealization is a disconnect from the outside world, where the external environment may feel foggy, dreamlike, or otherwise distorted. Both are aspects of dissociation, and they may exist together or separately in response to experiencing sexual trauma.” -Choosing Therapy.

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"About Rahti Gorfien:

As a struggling actor and standup comic, I used to start support groups for myself around writing, getting to auditions, etc. I really liked Julia Cameron’s ‘The Artists Way’ and worked through that book 3 times…once solo and twice in groups I formed with friends. Speaking of groups, I also started a Wishcraft Team inspired by Barbara Sher that collectively resulted in a yoga business, a bookstore and a DJ.  I seemed to have a gift for facilitating change.

Finally, I knew it was the right business to pursue because one day my husband said “You’re good at this stuff.  Start charging.”  And since I was burning out on cooking, temping and a myriad of other serial day jobs, I took his advice.

In retrospect, the diversity of my background is clearly a key element in the evolution of my coaching style.  As an actor, playwright, standup comic, private cook, company manager, restaurant hostess and adoptive parent,  I can accurately say that I’ve experienced life from many enriching perspectives.   I even spent several years as a full-time yogini living at an ashram in Pennsylvania!  If you haven’t guessed by now, I’m a seeker, and as a result my approach is both humorous and compassionate.  As for street cred in terms of days and hours, in addition to having become a professionally certified coach,  I have been helping individuals realize their creative, vocational, and personal potential since 1990.  So bring it.

Professional Certified Coach, PCC

ACCG Accredited ADHD Coach by the ADD Coach Academy

Career Specialty Services Provider (CSS)

CCC, “Creativity Coaching Training” taught by Eric Maisel, Ph.D., the founder of this highly respected program for coaches who want to work effectively with artists in all mediums.

Member ICF,  IAC

Speaking Appearances include Sarah Lawrence MFA Writing Program, Momasphere, The Actors Center, Curves for Women

NYU Tisch School of the Arts

30 years' experience as an actress in New York City

Online contributor for Momasphere, Sanemoms, and Advice Columnist for Park Slope Parents.

As a playwright, my play When It Rains, was sited by Backstage as one of the best plays of 2004 in their end-of-year-round-up.

Certifications, Degrees, and Experience:

Professional Certified Coach, PCC

ACCG Accredited ADHD Coach by the ADD Coach Academy

Career Specialty Services Provider (CSS)

CCC, “Creativity Coaching Training” taught by Eric Maisel, Ph.D., the founder of this highly respected program for coaches who want to work effectively with artists in all mediums.

Member ICF,  IAC

Speaking Appearances include Sarah Lawrence MFA Writing Program, Momasphere, The Actors Center, Curves for Women

NYU Tisch School of the Arts

30 years' experience as an actress in New York City

Online contributor for Momasphere, Sanemoms, and Advice Columnist for Park Slope Parents.

As a playwright, my play When It Rains, was cited by Backstage as one of the best plays of 2004 in their end-of-year-round-up." Link to her website:

Rahti Gorfien, Certified Life Coach - Creative Calling Coaching.

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"I’m a Trailblazer

As a student and teacher, I am educating others on the dangerous impact of shame guilt upon each of us. My” I’m Good” Docu-series further illustrates how changing the shame guilt system solves our mental health crisis.

In 1964 as a registered nurse, I joined the University of Maryland open-heart surgical and nursing team. I modified my traditional nursing skills to meet the challenges of the new field of open-heart surgery.

In 1966 I was a Nurse Entrepreneur. I helped establish one of the first kidney hemodialysis units in the United States at Thomas Jefferson University Hospital. I assisted with research, teaching, and consulting to support other dialysis centers.

Before the availability of the hepatitis vaccine, I contained a hepatitis epidemic at Thomas Jefferson Dialysis Unit and developed protocols for hepatitis management in hemodialysis to other units.

I co-founded the AANNT American Association of Nephrology Nurses and Technicians in 1971 to standardize procedures for hemodialysis nursing.

With sadness and the resistance of colleagues, I left traditional medicine in 1980 for holistic health to save my daughters’ life and my own.

I know firsthand the importance of healing and the spirit of living. I am blessed for extra years by overcoming heart disease, kidney dysfunction, brain traumas, rib fractures, and 30 years of migraine headaches. I had three miscarriages, but God gave me three beautiful daughters.

Why I chose shame guilt for study? Shame and guilt reinforce each other to produce negative emotions such as anger, depression, addictions, etc. Shame guilt harms our physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual states. Lack of knowledge and their secrecy gives them power."

"Fun Facts About Lois:

I was a Registered Nurse at the Indy 500 in 1967 when Mario Andretti won.

I saw the Russian ballet dancer Rudolf Nureyev leap from one side of the stage to the other at the Philadelphia Academy of Music. The audience stood in silent shock. Seconds later, the sound of thunder swept the theater with clapping. What a moment!

At the airline’s expense in 1970, I was helicoptered onto a yacht touring the Greek Islands because my flight was delayed reaching the boat loading dock. I doubt the airlines can have this type of customer service now. It was fun!

Enjoying a free ski lift ticket since I am over 70

My Polish stamina, mission, and homemade chocolate keep me energized and feeling good.

Link to her website:

Bio – Emotional Counseling | Wellness Counseling | Lois Hollis

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“Why People Choose ENM

There are many reasons to desire an ethically non-monogamous relationship setup. These are just a few of them:2

The Ability to Explore One's Sexuality

Sexuality can change over time, and it can take time for us to understand fully. For those who wish to explore their sexual identity by experimenting with consenting people of a different gender, kink preference, or sexual desire than their partner, ENM makes sense because it doesn't require them to give up a primary relationship in order to become better in touch with their sexual identity. Some Relationships Don't Meet All of a Person's Needs

Expecting one human to fit perfectly with you and love everything you love is a lot of pressure. To alleviate this pressure, people who practice ENM have the freedom to look outside their relationship for others who may have similar sexual or romantic interests that their partner doesn't.

More Than Enough Love to Go Around

There are people who are capable of loving and exploring physical, sexual, and emotional intimacy with multiple people at once and who feel more satisfied and fulfilled in life when they are able to do that.” -https://www.verywellmind.com/what-is-ethical-non-monogamy-5176515

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“Self-partnering is showing that being single doesn't need to be lonely or incomplete. A self-partnered individual would feel whole on their own and does not necessarily feel compelled to seek fulfillment through having another person as a partner at all costs. “I never believed the whole ‘I’m happy single’ spiel…But I’m very happy [being single]. I call it being self-partnered.” — Emma Watson.” Link: https://medium.com/long-sweet-valuable/how-to-go-from-single-to-self-partnered-bbcd2001bd76#:~:text=Self%2Dpartnering%20is%20showing%20that,a%20partner%20at%20all%20costs.

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“Cloning model: The mentor teaches the learner as if they were a clone of the mentor.

Nurturing model: The mentor assumes a parental role to create an open, supportive environment where the learner can learn and try things themselves.

Friendship model: The mentor acts more as a peer "rather than being involved in a hierarchical relationship".

Apprenticeship model: The mentor and learner predominantly have a professional relationship.[30] Peer mentoring: Relationships that involve individuals in similar positions. One person may be more knowledgeable in a certain aspect or another, and they can help each other progress in their work. In most cases, peer relationships provide a lot of support, empathy, and advice because the situations are quite similar.

Situational mentoring: Short-term relationships in which a person mentors for a specific purpose. This could be a company bringing an expert in regarding social media, or internet safety. This expert can mentor employees to make them more knowledgeable about a specific topic or skill.

Supervisory mentoring: This relationship involves a mentor with a higher position than the learner. The mentor can answer many questions and advise the best course of action.[31]

Mentoring circles: Participants from all levels of the organization propose and own a topic before meeting in groups to discuss the topic, which motivates them to grow and become more knowledgeable. Flash mentoring is ideal for situations like job shadowing and reverse mentoring.

Flash mentoring: A short-term form of mentoring that focuses on single meetings rather than a traditional, long-term mentoring relationship.[32]” -Wikipedia.

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“Because I choose to reject hyper-materialism and hyper-individualism, I may endure: internal suffering

Internal agony

Internal afflictions

Internal tortures

Internal torments

Internal discomfort

Internal soreness

Internal aches

Internal aching

Internal hurts

Internal throbs

Internal throbbing

Internal smarting

Internal prickings

Internal stings

Internal stingings

Internal twinges

Internal shooting pains

Internal stabs

Internal pangs

Internal spasms

Internal stitches

Internal cramps

Internal irritations

Internal stiffness

Internal tenderness.” -Antonio Myers. “My calling may cost me friendships, events, environments, people, things, talk buddies, hangout buddies, small talk buddies, acquaintances, associates, colleagues, co-workers, habits, attitudes, glance buddies, business deals, opportunities, and “living large.” -Antonio Myers. “Some people in the worlds of media communication, advertising media, broadcast media, digital media, electronic media, hypermedia, interactive media, mass media, MEDIA Programme, multimedia, new media, news media, print media, published media, art media, storage media, media player softwares, recording medium, and social media will antagonize me.” -Antonio Myers. “In the worlds of Culture, Geography, Health, History, Human activities, Mathematics, Nature, People, Philosophy, Politics, Secularity, Religion, Society, and Technology, some will antagonize me.” -Antonio Myers.

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“The seven trauma responses: fawn, freeze, flight, fight, fright, flag, and faint wee other reasons why the women and I in our past were magnetic towards each other.” -Antonio Myers.

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