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TonioTimeDaily

By Antonio MyersSociety & Culture
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  • My casting couch concerns
    “The casting couch is a euphemism for the practice of soliciting sexual favors from a job applicant in exchange for employment in the entertainment industry, primarily acting roles.[1][2] The practice is illegal in the United States. Predominantly male casting directors and film producers use the casting couch to extract sex from aspiring actors in Hollywood, Bollywood,[3][4] Broadway, and other segments of the industry.[9] The term casting couch originally referred to physical couches in the casting office, but is now a metonym for the phenomenon as a whole. Depictions of casting couch sexual encounters have also become a genre of pornography.” “It is used in reference to the supposed practice whereby people seeking parts in films or plays are expected to grant sexual favors to the casting director.”
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    31 min
  • Other reasons why I barely have sex and why I barely date
    “Wiretapping also known as wire tapping or telephone tapping, is the monitoring of telephone and Internet-based conversations by a third party, often by covert means. The wire tap received its name because, historically, the monitoring connection was an actual electrical tap on an analog telephone or telegraph line. Legal wiretapping by a government agency is also called lawful interception. Passive wiretapping monitors or records the traffic, while active wiretapping alters or otherwise affects it.[1][2]”
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    36 min
  • Sexual trauma triggers and sexual psychological trauma! Beautiful 😻 🤩 😍 sex on the autism spectrum!
    “Communication
    Autistic individuals may have problems communicating sexual needs which can cause issues in intimate relationships. They may seek to satisfy these needs on their own, rather than communicate them with their partner. In turn, this can result in hurt feelings.4
    In some cases, lapses in communication regarding sex can turn into sexual coercion. This occurs when one individual stresses a need for sex so strongly and inappropriately that it becomes increasingly difficult and uncomfortable for the other person to turn them down. Recognizing when expressing interest in sex becomes demanding may also be challenging for autistic partners. This being because factors that determine what is and is not appropriate greatly depends on the other person’s social cues.
    Seeing as this form of coercion is common in teenagers—for example, wanting to be liked by someone leads to doing whatever is necessary to please this person—it is essential that parents of autistic teens learn effective ways to teach their child about healthy sexual behaviors.5
    Educational Barriers
    Autistic individuals may struggle to stay focused for extended periods and may get mentally lost if multiple topics are presented in rapid succession. This is likely due to issues with processing information when the individual is focused on something else. Autism can make it harder for a person to focus on a topic that they are otherwise uninterested in or uncomfortable with.
    Sex education carries with it a need to focus on a variety of topics that can be uncomfortable. This can pose problems for autistic folks, along with the fact that sex education centers around social behaviors and situations involving intimacy. Therefore, it is important for autistic people to be provided with sex education geared specifically towards them and that it is taught by individuals familiar with neurodiversity.6
    Sexual Victimization
    Autistic folks may be more vulnerable to sexual victimization than neurotypical individuals.7 This includes being coerced or tricked into having sex with someone who may appear to care about them. As a result of challenges related to understanding social cues, autistic people may be more susceptible to sexual abuse.
    Additionally, recognizing that people may have different intentions then they put forth can be particularly difficult for autistic folks. It is not that autism makes people naïve. Rather, autistic individuals tend to take things at face value. Thus, an autistic person may not initially suspect that someone who “loves” them does not actually mean what they say.
    Understanding Public Vs. Private Behaviors
    Social behaviors can be quite complex. Nowhere else is this more evident than when making a determination between what can and cannot be shared publicly. Autism is believed to cause lapses in social comprehension, which can make it particularly challenging for neurodiverse individuals to make the distinction between private and socially appropriate thoughts. Sexual behaviors and feelings are a perfect representation of this.
    Generally, sexual feelings are not expressed publicly without some form of associated negative response or connotation. Even the most minor type of sexual behavior in public can result in many problems. Deciding what sexual behavior is acceptable around others is a complex task magnified by the intensity and subjectivity of sexual feelings. An autistic individual may overstep certain societal boundaries due difficulties understanding social cues or constructs regarding sex.”
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    1 hr 18 min
  • I’m a gray area-thinker!
    “But the fact is, the reality is all grey area. All of it. There are very few black and white answers and no solutions without second-order consequences.
    This fundamental truth is easy to grasp in theory and hard to use in practice, every day. It takes a substantial deprogramming to realize that life is all grey, that all reality lies on a continuum. This is why quantitative and scale-based thinking is so important. But most don’t realize that quantitative thinking isn’t really about math; it’s about the idea that The dose makes the poison.”
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    47 min
  • The cautionary tales of organized crime sex and organized crime sexuality!

    “A sex position is a position of the body that people use for sexual intercourse or other sexual activities. Sexual acts are generally described by the positions the participants adopt in order to perform those acts. Though sexual intercourse generally involves penetration of the body of one person by another, sex positions commonly involve penetrative or non-penetrative sexual activities. Three categories of sexual activity are commonly practiced: vaginal sex, anal sex, and oral sex (mouth-on-genital or mouth-on-anus stimulation).[1] This may also involve a fourth category, manual sex, which is stimulating the genitals or anus by using fingers or hands. Other acts may include stimulation by a device (sex toy), such as a dildo or vibrator. There are numerous sex positions that participants may adopt in any of these types of sex acts; some authors have argued that the number of sex positions is essentially limitless.[2]”

    "Self-esteem and self-worth

    • Appreciate their own bodies.
    • Are sensually aware and able to stay conscious in their bodies.
    • Can touch their own bodies without feeling shame or disgust.
    • Allow themselves to experience pleasurable sensual and sexual feelings.
    • Have the capacity to nurture themselves and others and accept nurturing from others.
    • Feel joy in sexual experiences of their choosing.
    • Know when they need touch rather than sex and try to get their needs for touch met appropriately.
    • Have a developed sense of self, an understanding of who they are
    • Enjoy sexual feelings without necessarily acting upon them
    • Accept refusals of sex without hostility or feeling personally insulted
    • Allow themselves to be vulnerable
    • Are comfortable with their sexual identity and orientation
    • Are becoming aware of the impact of negative sexual experiences such as sexual abuse, and the impact of negative cultural messages on their sexual development
    • Are taking steps to address issues that have arisen as a result of past experiences
    • Feel confident in their ability to set appropriate boundaries
    • Realize that, by working through sexual issues, individuals may heal psychological and emotional wounding from past experiences and damaging beliefs.
      • Realize the consequences of sexual activity
      • Comprehend the impact of media messages on thoughts, feelings, values, and behaviors related to sexuality
      • Understand that the drive for sex is powerful and can be integrated into one’s life in positive and healthy ways
      • Respect the right of all people to enjoy and engage in the full range of consensual, non-exploitive sexual behaviors
        • Decide on what is personally “right” and act on these values
        • Demonstrate tolerance for people with different values
        • Are not threatened by others with sexual orientation different from theirs
        • Show respect to others whose cultural values, ethnic heritage, age, socioeconomic status, religion, and gender are different from theirs
          • Take responsibility for their own bodies and their own orgasms
          • If sexually active, use contraception effectively to avoid unplanned pregnancy and use condoms and safer sex to avoid contracting or spreading a sexually transmitted disease
          • Practice health-promoting behaviors, such as regular checkups, breast or testicular self-exams, regular and routine testing for STDs
            • Honor the sacred aspect of sexual union
            • Understand that sexual energy is not separate from being human
            • Understand that sexual union is one-way human beings connect body and soul.


              • Education! Values! Contraception, protection, and body integrity! Spirituality!"

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              2 hr 39 min
            • Decoys are sexual backstabbers
              “All the time they want to take your place
              The back stabbers (back stabbers)
              (They smilin' in your face)
              All the time, they want to take your place
              The back stabbers (back stabbers).”
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              47 min
            • The concepts of “groupies” and “gold diggers”
              “A groupie is a fan of a particular musical group who follows the band around while they are on tour or who attends as many of their public appearances as possible, with the hope of meeting them. The term is usually derogatory, describing young women who follow these individuals aiming to initiate a sexual encounter with them or to offer them sex quid pro quo. The term is also used to describe enthusiastic fans of athletes, admirers of public figures in other high-profile professions, and gold diggers who seek to marry up into the high society by offering themselves as free escorts for celebrities and high-net-worth individuals who attend house parties, functions and yacht tours.”
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              45 min
            • Most people are bad sex when it comes to me, very few people are exceptional sex when it comes to me.
              “11) Intellectual intimacy
              These are the bonds formed through shared mental activity. It could arise through your shared love of science, mathematics, computing, philosophy or anything that requires a degree of analytical thinking. Intellectual intimacy also includes hobbies and other activities requiring specific skills. It is the meeting of the minds.
              12) Experiential Intimacy
              This is about bonding via shared experiences. This could be something as simple as doing the housework together or climbing Mount Everest. This is often seen in travel groups where several strangers bond over a trip for its duration. Such bonds may outlast the experience, but are more frequently short-lived.
              13) Circumstantial Intimacy
              Although circumstantial intimacy contains elements of experiential intimacy, they are typically unexpected and force characters to deal with them. A circumstance might include mass layoffs or being stranded at a train station after missing the last train home.
              14) Recreational Intimacy
              This relates to relationships that involve doing specific non-essential things. This includes shopping, going to the movies, the gym, or any activity for that matter. You bond over a shared activity that is a form of play or entertainment.
              15) Financial
              Many significant matrimonial arguments are centered on money. It requires honesty and responsibility on all sides in terms of financial liabilities that impact another character. Think of the scenarios of overwhelming credit card or other debt leading to non-payment of rent, utilities, or other shared expenses.”
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              1 hr 1 min
            • Bad things happen when you let ego trips go to your head
              “In ordinary language, a crime is an unlawful act punishable by a state or other authority.[1] The term crime does not, in modern criminal law, have any simple and universally accepted definition,[2] though statutory definitions have been provided for certain purposes.[3] The most popular view is that crime is a category created by law; in other words, something is a crime if declared as such by the relevant and applicable law.[2] One proposed definition is that a crime or offence (or criminal offence) is an act harmful not only to some individual but also to a community, society, or the state ("a public wrong"). Such acts are forbidden and punishable by law.[1][4]
              The notion that acts such as murder, rape, and theft are to be prohibited exists worldwide.[5] What precisely is a criminal offence is defined by the criminal law of each relevant jurisdiction. While many have a catalogue of crimes called the criminal code, in some common law nations no such comprehensive statute exists.
              The state (government) has the power to severely restrict one's liberty for committing a crime. In modern societies, there are procedures to which investigations and trials must adhere. If found guilty, an offender may be sentenced to a form of reparation such as a community sentence, or, depending on the nature of their offence, to undergo imprisonment, life imprisonment or, in some jurisdictions, death.
              Usually, to be classified as a crime, the "act of doing something criminal" (actus reus) must – with certain exceptions – be accompanied by the "intention to do something criminal" (mens rea).[4]
              While every crime violates the law, not every violation of the law counts as a crime. Breaches of private law (torts and breaches of contract) are not automatically punished by the state, but can be enforced through civil procedure. The exact definition of crime is a philosophical issue without an agreed upon answer. Fields such as law, politics, sociology, and psychology define crime in different ways.[6] Crimes may be variously considered as wrongs against individuals, against the community, or against the state.[7] The criminality of an action is dependent on its context; acts of violence will be seen as crimes in many circumstances but as permissible or desirable in others.[8] Crime was historically seen as a manifestation of evil, but this has been superseded by modern criminal theories.[9]”
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              55 min
            • I don’t carry myself like a celebrity
              “The term "humility" comes from the Latin word humilitas, a noun related to the adjective humilis, which may be translated as "humble", but also as "grounded", or "from the earth", since it derives from humus (earth). See the English humus.[10]
              The word "humble" may be related to feudal England where the lowest cuts of meat, or 'umbles',[11]' that is to say whatever was left over when the upper classes had taken their parts, were provided to the lowest class of citizen.”
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              34 min

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            Autism is my super blessing! I'm a high-school valedictorian, college graduate, world traveler, disability advocate. I'm a Unitarian Universalist. I'm a Progressive Liberal. I'm about equal rights, human rights, civil & political rights, & economic, social, &cultural rights.