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Body acceptance - is it possible? Alexis is diving in in this new solo episode format!

Show Notes:
0:40 Let’s talk about loving your body!
3:32 Struggling with one’s appearance is a universal experience
3:50 Where do these unrealistic standards come from?
3:58 Before we pass judgement on others, we must heal first
4:04 What forces are women up against?
4:50 Society’s priorities for thinness don’t have to be our priorities
5:20 Questioning our backgrounds as a means to divest from societal body expectations
5:34 Let’s analyze body trends of the past few years!
6:23 Rampant fatphobia pervaded 2013 - 2016
6:55 Our perception of what was “large” was incredibly warped by the media
8:34 We’ve been exposed to dangerous rhetoric not just on the Internet, but also through tabloids in the grocery store line
9:05 What we glamorize online becomes the norm
9:58 Events like the Victoria’s Secret Fashion Show applauded thinness – making us believe our accomplishments didn’t matter if we weren’t thin
10:25 Impossible to discuss body trends without mentioning how the Kardashians have (negatively) impacted our culture
11:22 From 2016 - 2020 we saw a dialogue opening about women’s bodies – due in part to harmful things said by Trump
12:06 Comparing your body to others is a slippery, harmful slope
13:27 Despite models like Ashley Graham entering the mainstream, the belief that we can cultivate a body positive culture was cracking
14:16 Since 2020, we’ve entered a positivity era!
15:54 Podcast was started to reject belief that I need to look a certain way in order to be successful
16:26 2023 has brought open talks of plastic surgery and Ozempic use – people are unhappy with what they look like and are changing accordingly
17:01 Pressure of looking good or being thin has never left the mainstream
17:37 It’s impossible to let go of inner biases when we’re constantly told you need to look a certain way
17:52 It’s naive to think all women will accept themselves and not want to change further when society tells us to operate otherwise
22:19 Important to forgive yourself for having toxic thoughts – it’s natural to want to resemble the norm
24:54 We dont give our bodies enough credit!
25:11 You can’t hate yourself into loving yourself
25:30 Learn to trust your own intuition about your body
25:47 Give yourself grace! How can I be nicer to myself?
26:06 Do some research – knowing more about your body leads to a healthier life
27:25 Uncouple the idea that success and happiness are connected to what you look like
28:21 Need to consciously change your opinion on what bodies are “supposed” to look like

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Welcome back to TSFT ladies! Today we're diving into the popular concept of LUCKY GIRL SYNDROME!

2:00 Feeling “lucky” even without wealth
3:13 What does Lucky Girl Syndrome (LGS) look like?
3:33 Using LGS as a means of introducing positive thinking into your life
3:57 If you believe you’re lucky, you will be
4:12 Manifestation is imperative
7:13 Using vision boards and The Law of Assumption to create your own luck
9:14 Altering your mindset to mirror what you’re trying to manifest/attract
11:19 The more positive energy you throw into the universe, the more positive energy it gives you back
12:48 Setbacks can bring about new and positive possibilities
14:06 Everything works out in the way it’s supposed to
14:50 #1 Create the subconscious belief that you’re a lucky person
14:54 #2 Utilize the Law of Attraction to manifest your dream life
15:05 #3 Trust the process – everything is happening FOR you, not TO you
15:26 Utilizing daily affirmations to ground yourself
15:58 You are your greatest asset – start each day by checking in and reminding yourself what you want

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Are you arguing for your limitations? This week, Alexis is on the mic solo discussing a major mindset shift.

Show Notes:
(0:40) Being solutions-oriented is more worthwhile than dwelling on the negativity
(1:55) Finding balance amidst uncertainty
(2:40) Granting yourself grace is imperative
(5:33) Argue for your opportunities, not your limitations
(6:30) Using historical reflections as a vehicle for self-assurance
(7:18) Avoid resorting to negativity as a coping mechanism
(7:56) How self-doubt hinders your growth
(8:36) Emphasize the positive instead of the negatives
(9:04) Focusing on what could/does go wrong isn’t fruitful
(9:36) Importance of getting out of your comfort zone
(10:59) How to recognize and combat defeatist mindsets
(12:39) Using positive framing to embrace all that lies on the horizon
(13:23) You’ve come so far, and you’ve got to keep going
(15:30) You are your biggest and best advocate

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Hi Baddies! OMG! It's the 100th Episode of TSFT! Plus we have the most exciting life update, maybe ever? Head to our IG where we're doing a giveaway to celebrate 100 episodes now :)

Show Notes:

4:35 What do you do when your dream job doesn’t fulfill you?
4:48 Understanding when to quit and walk away
5:30 Decide what, in your life, is most fulfilling and chase after it
9:59 Embarking on the lifelong journey of self-love, self-care, and self-discovery
11:52 Navigating the stress of post-graduate life without a strong familial support system
13:00 Four pieces of advice that have allowed me to navigate the confusion and chaos of the past few years
13:08 Have a plan, but be flexible!
13:42 Learning to adapt is essential for your growth and happiness
14:17 How to view setbacks as learning opportunities
14:54 Bigger and better things are always on the horizon
16:14 When you invest in yourself, that money always comes back to you
16:21 Viewing everything you do with the utmost importance will only allow you to succeed 17:23 Importance of taking time to connect with yourself
17:29 Morning and night routines are essential in building self-confidence
17:39 Doing things for yourself, not for others
18:37 How to bet on yourself

Resources/Mentioned
The Alchemist by Paulo Coelho
Too Collective Website
Too Collective Affirmation Texts
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Hello my friends and welcome back to Too Smart For This! This week's episode is with New York Times Bestselling Author Melody Beattie, who wrote the critically acclaimed CODEPENDENT NO MORE: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself. Since its publication in 1986, the book has sold over 7 million copies and continues to help countless readers heal. For the first time, Beattie unflinchingly reveals her personal story. She also addresses trauma and anxiety in an all-new chapter—subjects she has long felt necessary to address within the context of codependency. She has broadened the lens to address a wide range of compulsive behaviors—making the book even more relevant today than it was when it first entered the national conversation over 35 years ago. Glennon Doyle, Jen Hatmaker, Brené Brown, Whitney Cummings, and many others have been vocal about the importance of CODEPENDENT NO MORE in their lives—and this new edition is poised to reach a new generation of readers. Melody Beattie's compassionate and insightful look into codependency—the concept of losing oneself in the name of helping another—has guided millions of readers toward the understanding that they are powerless to change anyone but themselves and that caring for the self is where healing begins. With personal reflections, exercises, and instructive stories drawn from Beattie's own life and the lives of those she's counseled, CODEPENDENT NO MORE helps you break old patterns and maintain healthy boundaries, and offers a clear and achievable path to healing, hope, freedom, and happiness. For the book, shop here: https://amzn.to/3ROs7BJ   Shop Too Collective with discount code VALENTINES for 20% off this week: toocollective.com Get daily affirmation texts that remind you you’re THAT GIRL: toocollective.norby.live Subscribe to our Newsletter: toocollective.norby.live Follow Too Collective on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/toocollective/?hl=en Follow Alexis on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/alexisbarber/?hl=en Follow Alexis on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@alexisbarber_?lang=en Subscribe to Alexis on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC7-YnRrflV9g6nLMWUkwDtA

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Hello my beautiful friends and welcome back to Too Smart For This! This week's guest is the incredible Olamide Olowe, CEO and founder of Topicals! Olamide Olowe is a recent graduate of the University of California, Los Angeles where she was a pre-Med student and received a B.A. in Political Science with a concentration in Race, Ethnicity, and Politics and a minor in Entrepreneurship. In 2015, Olamide co-founded the beauty brand SheaGIRL, in partnership with SheaMoisture. Sundial Brands, parent company of SheaGIRL, was later acquired by Unilever in 2017. Currently, Olamide is the founder and CEO of Topicals, a skincare company transforming the way people feel about skin through effective products for eczema and hyperpigmentation. Olamide is passionate about harnessing the power of culture, technology, and science to improve the relationship between women of color and the beauty industry. She has received notable recognition from Harvard Business School, Google, the PAC12, and the UCLA Alumni Association. The platform she mentioned re: her entrepreneurial advice launches next week, and we will update the show notes then! Follow Olamide: https://www.instagram.com/olamideaolowe/ Follow Topicals: https://www.instagram.com/topicals/ Shop Topicals: https://mytopicals.com/?gclid=Cj0KCQiA2-2eBhClARIsAGLQ2RlbW1Q37-dptyOOUySuM264Qsm2LhaxKxNbMvt_AhYDgNpCi-7bAqYaAj7nEALw_wcB Shop Too Collective: https://toocollective.com/ [use code PODCAST15 for a discount at checkout!] Follow Too Collective: https://www.instagram.com/toocollective/ Follow Alexis: https://www.instagram.com/alexisbarber/ 


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Hi friends! This episode took a turn but I hope that it really gives some color to how I've been doing lately. Love you so much! Shop Too Collective with discount code PODCAST15 here: toocollective.com Subscribe to our Newsletter & Get on the Robe Waitlist: toocollective.norby.live Follow Too Collective on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/toocollective/?hl=en Follow Alexis on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/alexisbarber/?hl=en Follow Alexis on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@alexisbarber_?lang=en Subscribe to Alexis on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC7-YnRrflV9g6nLMWUkwDtA

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This weeks story is a tearjerker - we sit down with my new friend Sicard who you may know from his stunning TikTok that features Architectural Digest home reviews and Pinterest dreams. But his life hasn’t been all beautiful - he shares the story of how his family disowned him upon finding out that he was gay at a young age. He takes us on his journey and shares how being himself has gotten him to exactly where he wants to go. Keep up with Sicard: TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@shookerd?_t=8Z9zCPvJYLu&_r=1 Instagram: https://instagram.com/shookerd?igshid=YWJhMjlhZTc= Shop Too Collective with discount code PODCAST15 here: toocollective.com Subscribe to our Newsletter: toocollective.norby.live Follow Too Collective on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/toocollective/?hl=en Follow Alexis on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/alexisbarber/?hl=en Follow Alexis on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@alexisbarber_?lang=en Subscribe to Alexis on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC7-YnRrflV9g6nLMWUkwDtA 

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Note from Alexis: Welcome to our *new TSFT publishing day, THURSDAYS!! You all voted and this is where we are! Additionally, I accidentally say "finish up" this month's series in today's intro, but that's false - we're actually in the middle of it so we will absolutely have more fabulous Confidence episodes for you this month! CW: This episode contains discussions of eating disorders and fatphobia. Have you struggled with body and relationship confidence? So has Alexa Jay McCoy. In today's episode, she gives us the rundown of her personal history with an eating disorder, abusive ex-boyfriend, and anti-blackness that led her to feel awful in her own skin, and how she turned that around to become a thriving influencer and model.  We discuss her most recent publicized run-in at The Highlight Room, the pressures of social media, and dealing with mental health issues as an influencer. If you're in need of a pick-me-up, this episode is for you!  Shop 15% off the TOO COZY robe with code PODCAST15: https://toocollective.com/ Alexa's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/alexaaajay/?hl=en  Alexa's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@flexylexxxy  Follow Too Collective on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/toocollective/  Follow Alexis on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/alexisbarber/ Follow Alexis on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@alexisbarber_?lang=en This episode was produced by Kyle Strong.

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It’s 2023 baddies, and we’re kicking off the year with a confidence-building series from the girls who simply GET IT. If you’re in need of a reminder that being you isn’t just good enough, its all you’ve got, today’s episode with Unikue will get you there. Alexis and Uniekue jump into their shared experience of always being seen as “intimidating,” going to predominately white Boarding schools, and how they’ve taken control of their narrative with TikTok. Uniekue shares how to grow on TikTok by being yourself, and teases upcoming projects. To keep up with Unikue, check out: Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@uniekue?lang=en Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/uniekue/?hl=en YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@uniekue Shop Too Collective with discount code PODCAST15 here: toocollective.com Get daily affirmation texts that remind you you’re THAT GIRL: toocollective.norby.live Subscribe to our Newsletter: toocollective.norby.live Follow Too Collective on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/toocollective/?hl=en Follow Alexis on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/alexisbarber/?hl=en Follow Alexis on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@alexisbarber_?lang=en Subscribe to Alexis on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC7-YnRrflV9g6nLMWUkwDtA

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