At some point, growth stops feeling empowering and starts feeling… quieter.

In this episode, we talk about what happens after you become self-aware when you can’t unsee patterns, can’t romanticize chaos anymore, and can’t go back to the version of you that felt easier to be.

We get into the strange loneliness that comes with emotional clarity, wanting things you know aren’t good for you, and why relationships , and even your personality start to change once you understand yourself more deeply.

This is about the in-between phase:

not who you used to be, but not fully comfortable with who you’re becoming either.

If you’ve ever thought

“I know better… so why do I still feel this?”

this episode is for you.

Welcome to girl, I’ve been thinking.

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Topics we touch on

• self-awareness & identity shifts

• outgrowing old versions of yourself

• emotional patterns in relationships

• why growth can feel lonely

• the difference between reacting and choosing

• overthinking, attachment & clarity

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What if the way people react to you… isn’t really about you?

In this raw and reflective episode, I invite you into the truth behind your light:

You are a mirror.

Some will feel seen in your presence—and love you for it.

Others will be triggered, afraid, even distant. And that has nothing to do with your worth.

We explore:

• Why your light activates both love and resistance in others
• The difference between projection and reflection
• How to stay rooted when your presence makes others uncomfortable
• The sacred power of being a mirror—and how to protect your peace while holding it

This is your reminder:

You’re not too much.You’re just a clear reflection.And you don’t need to dim your light to keep others comfortable. 

If this episode stirred something in you… if your soul whispered “this is me”…

You’re not here to keep shrinking. You’re here to heal and expand.

My 1:1 coaching is for the ones ready to meet themselves fully, rewrite old patterns, and stand in their light …. unapologetically.

First 2 sessions are free so we can see if we match 

💌 DM me the word “authenticity” on Instagram [@monica_cotolan   or  girlivebeenthinkingpodcast ] to begin your journey. 

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📩 SEND me an email at [email protected]

When you’re ready, I’ll be here. 🤍

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Are you tired of second-guessing your reality? Still picking up the pieces after a toxic relationship? This episode is your lifeline. Dive deep into the hidden world of narcissistic abuse as we expose the manipulative tactics—gaslighting, love-bombing, and emotional sabotage—that keep survivors trapped.  

✔️ Decode the narcissist’s playbook (you’re NOT crazy).  

✔️ Share jaw-dropping survivor stories of escape and empowerment.  

✔️ Reveal actionable steps to break free, heal your self-worth, and THRIVE.  

Whether you’re still in the chaos, freshly out, or rebuilding—this is your roadmap to turning pain into purpose. Hit play, and let’s start your glow up. 

Subscribe now and reclaim the life they tried to steal. 

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@monica_cotolan or @totallymyselfpodcast

I love you and I wish you the best onto your healing journey ✨

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Ever feel like your emotions are a tangled mess, steering you off course? In this soul-stirring episode, we dive deep into the truth your heart already knows: Your emotions are not obstacles…they’re your most powerful guides. Join us as we unpack how fear, joy, anger, and even grief can act as signals, pointing you toward authenticity, boundaries, and purpose.  

What You’ll Learn:  
- How to decode emotional “static” vs. your inner wisdom.  
- Practical tools to honor feelings without being ruled by them.  
- How to Un-fu*k yourself 
- Why suppressing emotions is like ignoring a GPS it only gets you lost.  

Perfect for overthinkers, empaths, and anyone ready to trade chaos for clarity. Press play and let your feelings flow .

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🌟 Boost Your Self-Confidence! 🌟 

In this episode, we dive deep into the transformative power of self-confidence. Join us as we share personal stories, expert tips, and actionable strategies to help you unleash your inner powerhouse! 💪✨ Whether you're looking to ace that job interview or tackle a new challenge, this episode is packed with inspiration and practical advice. Don’t miss out on reclaiming your confidence! 🎧❤️ #Podcast #SelfConfidence #Inspiration 

Tune in now on Spotify! 🎶

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In this thought-provoking episode, we dive deep into the realms of self-awareness and emotional balance. Join us as we explore the integration of feminine and masculine energies, discussing how these vital aspects shape our identities and relationships. 
Let me know what are your thoughts on this episode and what you resonate with the most 
•We’ll reflect on personal journeys, sharing insights on:
- The transformative power of embracing feminine energy
- Practical advice for men seeking to harmonize both energies within themselves
- The nuances of self-relationship and how it influences our everyday lives
- Strategies for navigating those tough days when everything feels overwhelming
- Big fears that hold us back and the lessons we've learned about love and happiness

We’ll also confront our most toxic traits with honesty and vulnerability, reminding ourselves that true growth often begins when we create a safe space for change. 

Let´s connect on my socials! If you liked this episode and have any questions or anything that you'd like to tell me , dm me and let me know .
@monica_cotolan or @totallymyselfpodcast 
Marius IG : @coachmariusk

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Much love my dear souls

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It’s not uncommon to fall into a rut. Life can be monotonous. Our routines are often the same day-to-day. And if you are out of alignment maybe you don’t live the life that you want and that makes it hard to enjoy it .It’s hard to feel excited about life when it feels like we are running on a treadmill. It’s time for some 
changes !

Let´s connect on my socials! If you liked this episode and have any questions or anything that you'd like to tell me , dm me and let me know .Follow me on my instagram.
https://www.instagram.com/monica_cotolan?igsh=MW9xdmJpczVoaDVmNg%3D%3D&utm_source=qr

 or at  @totallymyselfpodcast 
Much love my dear souls . ❤️

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Understand that life has unpredictable plans in store for everyone. You can’t steer it in any direction or control it. So, never worry about factors out of your influence. Focus on being in flow, and enjoy every moment. Also, relinquishing control and accepting whatever result comes your way will help you become more content in life.and I have 6 actionable steps to help you get there !✨

Let´s connect on my socials! If you liked this episode and have any questions or anything that you'd like to tell me , dm me and let me know .

@monica_cotolan or @totallymyselfpodcast 

Much love my dear souls .

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In order to break the cycle of toxic behavior, it is crucial to first identify and recognize common toxic traits. These traits can manifest in various ways and have a significant impact on our relationships, personal growth, and overall well-being. Here we are talking about some common toxic traits to be aware of and a way to break the cycle of toxicity in ourselves and how to recognise it in others as well . Stay tuned ✨

Let´s connect on my socials! If you liked this episode and have any questions or anything that you'd like to tell me , dm me and let me know .

@monica_cotolan or @totallymyselfpodcast 

Much love my dear souls .

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Dark feminine energy is often a misunderstood concept because we tend to think of darkness as

something negative. Life is full of contrasts and complexities, and much of our living experience comes from the balance between two opposing forces.We can't have light without darkness, and vice versa. This concept of the duality of the universe applies to many areas of life, from the physical to the spiritual.But what is this dark feminine energy exactly, and how can we tap into it for our own? Stay tuned and find out ❤️

Let´s connect on my socials! If you liked this episode and have any questions or anything that you'd like to tell me , dm me and let me know . 

@monica_cotolan or @totallymyselfpodcast 

Much love my dear souls .

Any support for the podcast is welcomed guys ,thank you!

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