Is it “undomly” to eat submissive pussy? Why do (some) women like degradation? Are there ways to be happy as a secondary when you’ve lost your primary relationship? What should you do when you’ve broken up with your partners to work on your marriage, but 9 months later things haven’t improved (and now you’re resentful)? We answer these questions, and more!

We spend hours each day coaching polyamorous folks on how to stop fighting, fall back in love, and build amazing relationships. We learn something new about polyamorous relationships every single day. In fact, there are 10 things we learned this past year that EVERY poly person should know. In this episode, we pull back the curtain and reveal what we learned.

The most frequent complaint we hear from polyamorous folks is that they feel disconnected in their relationship. They say that they’ve lost the spark, or fallen out of love, or feel more like roommates than they do partners.

But there’s good news. Not only can you get that spark back. But you can get back to a place where you’re every bit as much in love with your partner(s) as when you first met. And if you’re in a newer relationship where you’re still feeling the connection? There are ways to keep from ever falling out of love in the first place. In this episode, we break it all down.

The most frequent complaint we hear from polyamorous folks is that they feel disconnected in their relationship. But there’s good news. Not only can you get that spark back. But you can get back to a place where you’re every bit as much in love with your partner(s) as when you first met. And if you’re still feeling the connection? There are ways to keep from ever falling out of love in the first place. In this episode, we break it all down.

Do you wish you could walk into a dungeon and negotiate a scene with a sexy human you’ve never met before? In this episode, experienced playsluts Shay and Stefanos reveal how to pick up a new partner and keep them coming back for more. We talk about the best events for pick-up play, how to approach someone and ask them to play, negotiation tips, what happens after the scene ends, and more.

We all know that a classically bad relationship is loud — full of screaming, crying, slammed doors, and emotional breakdowns. But did you know that silence can be just as dangerous? In this episode, we reveal when the calm in your relationship is actually a warning sign and how you can resolve the conversations you’ve been avoiding and heal your relationship.

In this episode, we’re talking with Tromper and Handler Jenn, the 2020 North American Pony/Trainer titleholders. The topic? Pony play of course! We talk about what pony play is, why it’s something you might enjoy, and how to get started.

When you’re poly (and kinky), do you have to watch your partner get it on? How do you tell your partner “it’s them or me?” How do you handle submissives who are on their period? Do Cassie and Rigel have an OPP (one penis policy)? We got so many questions submitted for the Q&A episode that we decided to do two, so in this episode, Cassie answers these questions and more.

When you’re feeling incompatible, how do you find solutions and create agreements that leave all parties happy, healthy, and fulfilled? And how do you know when you’re truly incompatible, and when there’s an answer you just can’t recognize? This week we take a deep dive into compatibility and answer all these questions.

Some people hear us talk about therapy and assume we hate therapists. That's not true. But who you go to for help with your relationships really matters. Sometimes a good therapist is the answer. But there are other situations where a therapist is useless at best, and might actually cause more harm than good. In this episode, we talk about when you should see a therapist and when that’s counterproductive. We also cover the steps you should take to evaluate anyone (therapist or otherwise) that you’re going to trust with your relationships.