Did you grow up in a religious family? Every religion has developed rules to try and regulate its followers’ sexual practices. But what do you do when your faith and your sexuality don’t align?

In today’s episode, we are talking to Frenchie Davis about sex, spiritually and religion. A few things we discuss: what people get wrong about the bible, why most religions take such a dim view on sex and the consequences of sex-negativity in religion.

PLUS: we’ll be talking about some of the work Frenchie and the Incarnation Institute of Sex and Faith (IISF) are doing to change how religious organizations view sex.

We talk to a LOT of kinky singles. One of their biggest fears is dying alone. In fact, it’s one of the biggest fears we partnered people have as well. In a society where we have a thousand Facebook friends, why are more people single later in life now than at any time in our history? And how can you create amazing relationships and avoid being a statistic? Just in time for Valentine’s Day, we talk with Robert Kandell about how to find and build meaningful relationships in a world where they seem increasingly rare.

We talk to a LOT of kinky singles. One of their biggest fears is dying alone. In fact, it’s one of the biggest fears we partnered people have as well. In a society where we have a thousand Facebook friends, why are more people single later in life now than at any time in our history? And how can you create amazing relationships and avoid being a statistic?

Just in time for Valentine’s Day, we talk with Robert Kandell about how to find and build meaningful relationships in a world where they seem increasingly rare.

Buckle up for an amazing interview.

For some of us, Valentine’s Day can be a bit rough. Especially if you’re single or broke. Today we are giving you some Valentine’s Day survival tips and pick-me-ups. We’re also reviewing the film Around the World by Rob Hagains. What did we think? Listen and find out!

For some of us, Valentine’s Day can be a bit rough. Especially if you’re single or broke. Today we are giving you some Valentine’s Day survival tips and pick-me-ups.

We’re also reviewing Around the World by Rob Hagains. This film is a prequel to Monogamish, an upcoming series about one couple’s journey into kink and poly. Monogamish is set for later this year, and Around the World is being released on Valentine’s Day. What did we think? Listen and find out!

This episode is gonna be short and sweet... so you can get on with your sexy day!

Today our partner Amanda is back in the studio and we’re answering questions from a listener’s polycule about how to navigate group poly. The topics we’re covering include: how to divide time and attention, tips on adding a third, (or fourth, or more) to your group, handling conflicts with multiple partners, advice on finding a unicorn or dragon, and more.

There are as many structures of poly relationships as there are people who do poly. Some folks date in webs where with little interaction between partners. Others (like us) form some of their romantic relationships between members of a group. This type of poly comes with its own rewards… and it’s own challenges.

Today our partner Amanda is back in the studio and we’re answering questions from a listener’s polycule about how to navigate group poly. The topics we’re covering include: how to divide time and attention, tips on adding a third, (or fourth, or more) to your group, handling conflicts with multiple partners, advice on finding a unicorn or dragon, and more.

* What is a closed poly group, really?* What’s the best way to divide time and energy between partners?* What tips have we learned from our past relationships?* What are the common mistakes people make in group relationships?* Which factors should you consider when adding a third (or fourth, or more) to a relationship?* How do you handle conflicts in poly groups... and how concerned should you be about existing problems?* Are rules and agreements unethical?* Help! I’m a pregnant unicorn and my partners are bailing out.* What should you do when people talk badly about your poly family to your children?* What’s the best way to find a dragon or a unicorn?

* Dating: When Fairness Matters, and When it Doesn’t – TOF Article

When is it time to take a fantasy out of your head and into the bedroom? Why do straight chicks like lesbian porn? Is it racist to prefer partners with a certain skin tone? Can a Dom with disabilities find a sub? On our first episode of 2018 Cassie and Rigel are going to be answering the rest of your questions that were lost in the upside down. Plus: We reminisce about our kinky NYE party, Cassie kicks a girl with her rainbow boots, and we talk about if you should tell a date your penis size.

When is it time to take a fantasy out of your head and into the bedroom? Why do straight chicks like lesbian porn? Is it racist to prefer partners with a certain skin tone? Can a Dom with disabilities find a sub? On our first episode of 2018 Cassie and Rigel are going to be answering the rest of your questions that were lost in the upside down.

Plus: We reminisce about our kinky NYE party, Cassie kicks a girl with her rainbow boots, and we talk about if you should tell a date your penis size.

Cassie’s super gay boots she kicked a hot girl with.

We keep trying to get people to live outside of the box, and Cujo just wants to live in one:

* When is it time to take fantasies out of your head and into the bedroom?* How do you get a non-kinky partner interested in kink?* My ex-sub is threatening to tell the police I’m a prostitute unless I pay up. What should I do?* I’m straight, why do I like lesbian porn?* I’m a Dom who wears diapers. Can I find a sub?* What's the fantasy of power exchange vs the reality?* I’m only attracted to people with darker skin. Does that make me racist?* Would it be ethical to look for an asexual woman?* Does size matter?* Is it OK to tell someone no before knowing what kind of scene they want to do?

* Get notified of future events.* Am I Kinky Enough? – TOF Blog.* You’re Not Alone: Finding a Kinky Partner – TOF Blog.* SM 101 by Jay Wiseman.* National Coalition for Sexual Freedom.* Woodhull Foundation.* Episode #013: Bridging the Desire Gap* Episode #018: Strap-On 101 with Jaki Griot

The decision to come out as non-monogamous (or not) is a difficult one. In today’s episode, Cassie is talking to sex therapist and licensed social worker Tamara Pincus. We will be covering how and when (and when not to) come out, society's changing views on polyamory, and practical ways to have conversations with people about your open relationships.