What are the best products for pegging and packing? Which partners get the boot when you’re poly-saturated? WTF do you do when your girlfriend keeps having sex with your best friends? How do you tell a date what you’re into without being called a pervert? On today’s episode, Cassie and Rigel tackle these topics and more. Thanks for all the great questions, you guys rock!

* What is pegging, and what is packing?* Dildos that are good for BOTH pegging and packing.* Strap-on harnesses that are good for packing… and fucking.* How do I get my girlfriend to be my Mistress?* Punishment is NOT the kink you’re looking for.* The tech and software behind the TOF podcast.* Which partners get the boot when you’re poly-saturated?* My girlfriend keeps having sex with my best friends, WTF do I do?* How do I tell a date I’m kinky without being called a pervert?* When… and how… to talk about your kinks.* How much masturbation is too much?

* Tantus Pack ‘n Play – TOF review* Vixskin dildos* MAsT (Masters And slaves together)* SpareParts harnesses* SM101 by Jay Wiseman* You Are Not Alone, Finding a Kinky Partner* Four Steps to Find a Kinky Partner Online: FREE TOF training* NCSF's Kink Aware Professional List

How do you make a taboo fantasy a reality? How can a couple find their third? What should you do when your toddler has destroyed your sex life? On today’s episode, Cassie and Rigel answer these questions and more. PLUS: An (awesome) mom whose son has recently come out to her as gay and kinky reaches out for advice.

How do you make a taboo fantasy a reality? How can a couple find their third? What should you do when your toddler has destroyed your sex life? On today’s episode, Cassie and Rigel answer these questions and more.

Plus: An (awesome) mom whose son has recently come out to her as gay and kinky reaches out for advice.

Today we’re talking to Mr. Black of the Black Pomegranate about event drop. What is it exactly? Is anyone immune? What can you do to help prevent drop while you're at an event, and how do you process it after you get home? Plus, Cassie and Mr. Black discuss their own event drop experiences this past DO.

Multi-day kink events can be exciting, fun, and life-changing. But no matter how much good a time you had at the event, you might feel like absolute garbage after you get home This phenomenon is called event drop, and while you may sometimes process it with ease (or not feel it at all), at other times it can become overwhelming. You may even begin to question if you’re really kinky after all.

Today we’re talking to Mr. Black of The Black Pomegranate about event drop. What is it exactly? Is anyone immune? What can you do to help prevent drop while you’re at an event, and how do you process it after you get home?

Love and lust. They’re words we throw around a lot. Today we’re talking to Dr. Zhana Vrangalova about love and lust including: the differences between the two, the biggest myths surrounding love and lust, and how you can keep lust and desire alive in your long-term relationships.

Love and lust. They’re words we throw around a lot. But what do they mean? Are both necessary for a healthy relationship? And the big question: How do you keep lust from waning over time?

Today we’re talking to Dr. Zhana Vrangalova about love and lust including the differences between the two, the biggest myths surrounding love and lust, and how those myths cause problems in our relationships. We also spend a substantial portion of the interview discussing how you can keep lust and desire alive in your long-term relationships.

Are you poly? Do you or your partner(s) have kids? If so, you’ve probably run into your share of questions. We’ve been poly parents for eleven years. On today's episode, we’re going to answer these questions and more. Plus, we’ll discuss our three principles for being a kickass poly parent, and the impact that being out can have on your kids.

Are you poly? Do you or your partner(s) have kids? If so, you’ve probably run into your share of questions: Should you tell your children about your partners? If so, when – and how – and how much? How do you explain the relationship to schools, and sports teams, and other family members? What do you do when a child is attached to a partner that you break up with?

We’ve been poly parents for eleven years. On today’s episode we’re going to answer these questions and more. Plus, we’ll discuss our three principles for being a kickass poly parent, and the impact that being out can have on your kids.

Can you be kinky if you don’t like it in the butt? Are there any sane poly people around? How do you approach nillas you’re interested in about kink and/or poly? What should you do when you get no matches on dating sites? On today’s episode, Cassie and Rigel will be answering these questions and more. We’ve got a ton of dating and relationship-focused questions in this episode, so don’t miss out!