You know that thing where you want to do something… until someone tells you to do it?
Suddenly your brain is on strike, your to-do list is the enemy, and you’re questioning every life choice.
In this episode of Transition Space, Mia gets honest about what happens when motivation meets resistance. She shares what changed once she stopped trying to force productivity—and started understanding how her brain actually works. From childhood rebellion to the Four Tendencies to some wild identity-based motivation science, this one’s for the rebels, the avoiders, and anyone who needs a gentler (but sneakily powerful) way to get things done.
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The Focus RoutineIf your to-do list feels like a dare, not a plan…
✨ The Focus Routine was made for you. A free, downloadable momentum-friendly ritual that fits your rebel wiring.
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WavelengthNeed more help to get your work done consistently?
Join a whole bunch of weird people, showing up to do our work together so we don't end up spending the whole day watching cat videos.
✨ Wavelength is a coworking community for neurodivergent solopreneurs who thrive with structure that doesn’t suffocate.
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Citations, you say? I've got you.🧭 Four Tendencies (a.k.a. Why You Hate Being Told What to Do)
Rubin, G. (2017). The Four Tendencies: The Indispensable Personality Profiles That Reveal How to Make Your Life Better (and Other People's Lives Better, Too). Harmony Books.
👉 Take the quiz — it takes 5 minutes and may explain your entire life.
🧬 Identity-Based Motivation (Your Brain on “Should”)
Oyserman, D., & James, L. (2011). “Possible identities.” In Handbook of Identity Theory and Research (pp. 117–145). Springer.
🧠 Research takeaway: You’re 45% more likely to stick with a goal if it feels like something someone like you would do.
🌀 ADHD & Pathological Demand Avoidance (The Struggle Is Neurological)
Newson, E., Le Maréchal, K., & David, C. (2003). “Pathological demand avoidance syndrome: a necessary distinction within the pervasive developmental disorders.” Archives of Disease in Childhood, 88(7), 595–600.
📚 For anyone who’s ever whispered “Don’t tell me what to do” to their own to-do list.
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Episode keywords: ADHD productivity, rebel tendency, Gretchen Rubin Four Tendencies, pathological demand avoidance, PDA, identity-based motivation, creative resistance, neurodivergent focus, procrastination, how to stop procrastinating, productivity for rebels, motivation strategies for ADHD, how to get things done with ADHD, working with resistance, emotional productivity, solopreneur mindset, executive dysfunction, dopamine-driven focus, productivity mindset, rebel workflow, authenticity in work, identity and behavior, body doubling strategies, gentle accountability, resistance to expectations, coworking, focus routine