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Learn why the same wound keeps resurfacing in your trauma healing, why that's not a sign the work isn't working, and how to find the one thread your entire 
recovery keeps circling back to. In this trauma recovery podcast episode, Tracy Smaldino explains why you don't have to go find your why — you already have one, and it's been repeating for years.

Jon Bon Jovi said songwriting is a formula you stick to. 
But the hook is the part you can't manufacture. 
Songwriters don't pick it. It picks them.

In this episode:
- Why the structure of healing is learnable but the reason it matters to you isn't
- Why doing all the right practices can still feel like running someone else's program
- 5 places your hook is hiding in plain sight
- Why the wound that keeps returning is the center of your song, not a failure
- The "why not" question and what your reasons sound like out loud
- What it costs to stay exactly as you are for another five years
- How to build your practice around your hook

"Your hook coming back around is not proof the work 
isn't working. It's the center of your song. It's 
supposed to keep returning."
— Tracy Smaldino

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Learn why healing in silence counts, how to keep going when nobody notices the trauma recovery work you're doing, and the difference between hiding your healing and keeping it private. In this trauma recovery podcast episode, Tracy Smaldino shares the years she healed quietly before anyone knew — and why some of it she has still never told a single person.

Early 2000s. House of Blues. An unknown band played their whole heart out to fifty people who weren't there to see them. That band was Linkin Park.

In this episode:
- Why the hardest season of healing is the one nobody witnesses
- Nobody claps when you don't take the bait or finally say no
- Suffering in silence vs. healing in silence
- The years Tracy healed quietly before anyone knew
- The difference between hiding and privacy
- Why you're allowed to keep part of your healing just for you
- How your private healing changes every room you walk into
- 5 ways to keep going when no one is watching

"Hiding is when you can't tell anyone. Privacy is when you could and you choose not to. One of those keeps you sick. The other one is holy."
— Tracy Smaldino

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Learn how to prepare for a hard conversation, set boundaries, and stop freezing up when someone crosses a line. In this trauma recovery podcast episode, trauma survivor Tracy Smaldino explains why you go blank in the moment, how to rehearse your boundary before you need it, and why you don't owe anyone an explanation.

Michael Bolton locked his green room door for 45 minutes before every show. It sounded terrible through the wall. Then he walked out and delivered one of the best performances I ever saw in that building.

Nobody good walks out cold.

In this episode:
✦ Why you freeze in the moment and think of the perfect response 20 minutes later
✦ What happens when you do healing work cold — the 11 pm journal, the unprepared therapy session
✦ How to prepare for a specific hard event you know is coming
✦ Why rehearsing one line out loud changes everything
✦ Why you don't owe anyone an explanation for your boundary
✦ How distance alone can say everything without a single word
✦ How to decide whose energy you keep close before you walk in the room

🎤 YOUR WARM-UP:
1️⃣ Pick the show — name what's coming
2️⃣ Decide what you need to leave with
3️⃣ Rehearse one line out loud
4️⃣ Decide the distance in advance
5️⃣ Plan your exit before you go in
6️⃣ Five minutes in the car before you walk through the door

⏱️ CHAPTERS
0:00 — The Green Room Next to My Office
3:00 — You Cannot Go From Zero to Full Output
6:30 — Warming Up for What You Know Is Coming
10:30 — Rehearse the Boundary Before You Need It
14:30 — Building the Ramp
18:00 — Your Rock Star Takeaway

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You are not bad at hard conversations. You have been going on cold.

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Learn how to restart your healing journey after you fall off, and why taking a break from the work doesn't mean you quit. In this trauma recovery podcast episode, trauma survivor Tracy Smaldino shares why healing burnout is real, why fall is the true reset season, and how the emotional weight she was carrying kept her body from letting go for decades.

Every tour has a break in it. Coming back is always harder than starting. That doesn't mean the tour is over.

In this episode:
- Why healing burnout is real and why your break was necessary, not a failure
- What touring actually does to a body — and why healing is the exact same job
- The story you tell yourself about the gap and why it does more damage than the gap
- Why fall is the real reset season, not January
- Why you shouldn't come back to something new
- How unprocessed emotional weight kept Tracy's body holding on for decades
- Why the inside work has to come before the outside work
- 5 steps to get back on tour this week

"Missing your practice is a gap. Believing you're someone who can't sustain a practice is an identity. One of those takes a week to fix."
— Tracy Smaldino

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Healing from childhood trauma and breaking generational cycles of abuse, addiction, and people pleasing is possible — and Hilary Maumberger Powers is living proof. In this trauma recovery podcast episode, Tracy Smaldino 
sits down with transformation mentor, trauma coach, and the original voice of Sally in Charlie Brown Peanuts — whose journey from homelessness and addiction to healing and purpose will leave you breathless.

In this episode:
- Growing up in Hollywood with a narcissistic alcoholic mother
- Being the voice of Sally in Peanuts from age 5 to 12
- How childhood trauma creates people pleasing and self-destruction
- Running away at 14, living on the streets and addiction
- The fire escape moment that cracked everything open
- Inner child work and meditation that changed everything
- Forgiving her mother and going from $20K to $100K
- 34 years as a Hollywood script supervisor
- Why your desire must be greater than your lack
- How to go from victim to victor in trauma recovery

"Your desire has to be greater than your lack. Whichever energy is strongest wins."
— Hilary Maumberger Powers

🎁 CONNECT WITH HILARY:
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Feeling stuck in the middle of your trauma healing journey is one of the most common — and least talked about — experiences in trauma recovery. In this trauma healing podcast episode, Tracy Smaldino breaks down the bridge — the uncomfortable in-between stretch where most people quit — and shows you exactly how to cross it.

In this episode:
- Why the messy middle of healing feels so uniquely hard
- Why most people quit in the bridge

- What the bridge is actually building inside you
- Signs you are in the bridge right now
- How to measure progress when nothing feels like it's happening
- Why Gertrude gets loudest here
- 5 steps to cross the messy middle

"You are not lost. You are not failing. You are in the bridge. And the bridge always 
leads to the final chorus."
— Tracy Smaldino

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Trauma recovery breakthroughs almost always follow a breakdown — and understanding why your worst moments are actually clearing space for healing can change everything. In this trauma healing podcast episode, Tracy Smaldino breaks down the tear down framework and shows you how to survive and grow through your biggest life breakdowns.

In this episode:
- Why your breakdown was actually a necessary tear down
- Why trauma survivors experience breakdowns so deeply
- The 4 stages of the healing tear down:
  The Lights Go Down
  The Audience Leaves
  The Crew Gets to Work
  The Empty Stage
- Why the empty stage is the most important part
- How to survive without rebuilding too fast
- What your breakdown was clearing   space for

"Your breakdown was not a failure. It was your system saying the old stage has to come down. Because something better is being built."
— Tracy Smaldino

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Fear of being seen and fear of showing up are two of the most common blocks in trauma recovery and healing. In this trauma healing podcast episode, Tracy Smaldino breaks down stage fright — what it really means, why trauma survivors feel it so deeply, and how to walk out onto the stage of your healing journey anyway.

Even Barbra Streisand had stage fright for 27 years. Adele runs offstage mid-show. Elvis vomited before almost every performance. And every single one of them walked out anyway.

In this episode:
- Why stage fright means you care — not 
  that you're not ready
- The 4 fears hiding underneath your 
  stage fright:
  Fear of being seen and found lacking
  Fear of success
  Fear of the healing work itself
  Fear of disappointing people
- What happens when fear makes your 
  healing decisions
- Why avoidance makes the fear bigger
- How Gertrude gets loudest before your 
  biggest breakthroughs
- 5 steps to perform anyway — even 
  when terrified

"Stage fright is not a stop sign. It is a signal that this matters. And things that 
matter are worth doing scared."
— Tracy Smaldino

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Learn how to heal from trauma you've buried for decades and recognize the signs of unhealed childhood trauma that keep survivors stuck. In this trauma recovery podcast episode, trauma survivor Tracy Smaldino shares her full healing journey — surviving a fatal car accident with burns on 70% of her body, surviving sexual assault, and the decades she spent carrying it in silence.

She ran the biggest shows in Las Vegas. She also hid under the stage she helped build. This is the story of both.

In this episode:
- Surviving a fatal car accident as a child, burns on 70% of her body, losing both cousins
- Surviving sexual assault and carrying it silently for decades
- Almost 10 years as one of the only female Production Managers at House of Blues Las Vegas
- BB King, Bono, Stevie Nicks — backstage stories
- Why unhealed trauma shows up in your body before you ever name it
- The Trauma Rock Stars™ healing framework: The Rider, Load In & Load Out, The Green Room, Sound Check, The Crew, The Breakdown, The Bridge
- Why you are the headliner of your own story

"For almost 10 years I produced everybody else's show. Healing was me finally walking out from under that stage and into my own spotlight."
— Tracy Smaldino

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Avoiding trauma healing and demanding results without doing the work are the biggest blocks in trauma recovery. In this trauma healing podcast episode, Tracy Smaldino breaks down the groupie mentality — the external people draining your energy and the internal avoidance keeping you stuck in your healing journey.

In this episode:
- The two types of groupies blocking your healing journey
- How to identify entitled energy drains demanding access to your life
- Why your inner critic Gertrude is the world's most enthusiastic internal groupie
- How to recognize when YOU are avoiding your own healing work
- The real cost of staying in groupie mode
- 5 steps to go from groupie to headliner
- Why bless their hearts — but they're not on the list 😂

"The work you are avoiding right now is the exact work that will give you your life back."
— Tracy Smaldino

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